MIL ate my birthday chocolates

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really don't understand the "its just candy" posters. Eating candy has nothing to do with the issue.

MIL opened someone else's birthday present, used it and then talked about it in a non-apologetic way.

Anyone who is team MIL either didn't really the post or just wants to be argumentative.

+1. But I also agree with the poster wondering if this behavior may be related to some age related cognitive issues. MIL comes across as perhaps senile.

[Anonymous]

This thread has become annoying since OP won’t tell us the name of the store where the chocolates came from.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am Team OP here. I would be livid and would never forgive MIL this outrageously childish behavior. The audacity to open someone’s mail, steal from it, and then gloat about it is just unreal. I cannot believe some apparently ill-mannered PPs think this was a defensible action or just no big deal.

Agreed. This is about as socially clueless as going to someone else’s house and taking a dump with the bathroom door open. Then acting surprised when your host gets uncomfortable.

Oh! I posted earlier in this thread. My FIL once entered our house, walked past the powder room, up the stairs, past the dedicated guest bathroom in the guest room they stay in, into our master bedroom and took the smelliest most disgusting toilet clogging poop in our master bathroom. Hours later when we tried to go to bed the stench was still lingering. After it happened multiple times that visit, we fitted our master with a lock and he had the audacity to complain that he couldn’t enter our bedroom.

Does he have dementia?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This was the funniest thing I've ever read.

I've had chocolate shipped from where I live (another COUNTRY) and while it's nice treat (and talk about overseas shipping) I can't imagine being as pissed off as the OP.

And she just watched the kids while you went away.

And seriously, OP...grow the F up.

This. The woman just babysat for you for free. Consider it payment in kind, OP.

This is stupid. It was a kindness to schedule the grandparents weekend with the children. It’s so annoying how some people assume everyone is begging for free babysitting. Guess what? It’s a ton more work to get the house ready for a MIl/FIL visit. I would MUCH rather schedule a sleepover with one of my kids friends or even hire a college aged babysitter to watch them. The grandparents are always asking for more time with the grandkids so this was probably a way to say yes to the request. At least that’s how it would be in my family.

There must be a lot of entitled and delusional grandparents on this board.

I can’t imagine opening someone else’s birthday present, let alone thinking spending time with your grandchildren means you can do whatever you want and all boundaries are temporarily suspended. Nobody needs or wants babysitting that much. (I sure don’t.) And to pretend that it’s a quid pro quo when it’s actually going out of my way to say yes to the grandparents’ request is just gross.

+1. When I schedule time with my ILs to watch my kids, I am doing them a favor and not the other way around. I have plenty of money and help, and it's way more work and stress for me to organize everything so they can do it. But they want to and ask for it. I don't understand people who think "help" from people who disrespect you and don't follow your rules is something for which you should be grateful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am Team OP here. I would be livid and would never forgive MIL this outrageously childish behavior. The audacity to open someone’s mail, steal from it, and then gloat about it is just unreal. I cannot believe some apparently ill-mannered PPs think this was a defensible action or just no big deal.

Agreed. This is about as socially clueless as going to someone else’s house and taking a dump with the bathroom door open. Then acting surprised when your host gets uncomfortable.

Oh! I posted earlier in this thread. My FIL once entered our house, walked past the powder room, up the stairs, past the dedicated guest bathroom in the guest room they stay in, into our master bedroom and took the smelliest most disgusting toilet clogging poop in our master bathroom. Hours later when we tried to go to bed the stench was still lingering. After it happened multiple times that visit, we fitted our master with a lock and he had the audacity to complain that he couldn’t enter our bedroom.

Does he have dementia?

No. Just an a**hole. This was 15 years ago. He was perhaps 60 at the time.

[Anonymous]

I’m going to guess it’s chocolates from somewhere like Malleys in Cleveland. Good enough that you buy it all the time when you’re local, and get nostalgic for it when you’re far away, but not good enough that you’d rave about it to people who had no emotional connection to the product.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread has become annoying since OP won’t tell us the name of the store where the chocolates came from.

https://chocolatelabdenver.com/about/

[Anonymous]

Oh, and if I had been mailed a box of Malleys chocolates for a present only to find someone had eaten all the raspberry creams before I could get a look in, I would be beyond pissed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am Team OP here. I would be livid and would never forgive MIL this outrageously childish behavior. The audacity to open someone’s mail, steal from it, and then gloat about it is just unreal. I cannot believe some apparently ill-mannered PPs think this was a defensible action or just no big deal.

Agreed. This is about as socially clueless as going to someone else’s house and taking a dump with the bathroom door open. Then acting surprised when your host gets uncomfortable.

Oh! I posted earlier in this thread. My FIL once entered our house, walked past the powder room, up the stairs, past the dedicated guest bathroom in the guest room they stay in, into our master bedroom and took the smelliest most disgusting toilet clogging poop in our master bathroom. Hours later when we tried to go to bed the stench was still lingering. After it happened multiple times that visit, we fitted our master with a lock and he had the audacity to complain that he couldn’t enter our bedroom.

You tell this story often, but I appreciate its absurdity every time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread has become annoying since OP won’t tell us the name of the store where the chocolates came from.

https://chocolatelabdenver.com/about/

This is great news, I live in CO! I’m sorry your MIL ate your CO chocolate. Blatantly rude behavior. I hope she apologizes and orders you a new box.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am Team OP here. I would be livid and would never forgive MIL this outrageously childish behavior. The audacity to open someone’s mail, steal from it, and then gloat about it is just unreal. I cannot believe some apparently ill-mannered PPs think this was a defensible action or just no big deal.

Agreed. This is about as socially clueless as going to someone else’s house and taking a dump with the bathroom door open. Then acting surprised when your host gets uncomfortable.

Oh! I posted earlier in this thread. My FIL once entered our house, walked past the powder room, up the stairs, past the dedicated guest bathroom in the guest room they stay in, into our master bedroom and took the smelliest most disgusting toilet clogging poop in our master bathroom. Hours later when we tried to go to bed the stench was still lingering. After it happened multiple times that visit, we fitted our master with a lock and he had the audacity to complain that he couldn’t enter our bedroom.

You tell this story often, but I appreciate its absurdity every time.

Thank you. I have so many stories of my ILs that people would honestly think I’m making them up because it’s just not possible these people actually exist. But I am the least creative person ever and if I could weave bizarre fictional tales I would have long ago started writing books. But in reality, I’m an attorney in a regulatory field with nary a creative bone in my body, I couldn’t make this stuff up if I tried.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread has become annoying since OP won’t tell us the name of the store where the chocolates came from.

https://chocolatelabdenver.com/about/

They might just good but those are some ugly chocolates!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DIL's package absolutely not but you guys would seriously never open a package delivered to your own spouse why? I would assume my spouse wouldn't be receiving anything that he would have to actively hide from me. My spouse and I open packages addressed to each other all the time and we don't think twice of it. We are married and whoever happens to get to the package first just automatically opens it. 🤷

We don’t open each other’s mail. Nope. I order stuff for birthdays or whatever and spouse has no idea, so he never opens. What if he opens a box a gifts for the kids without knowing and kids are right there. Hubby likes to open his own mail. I’ll ask if I want to open something with his name on it.

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Anonymous wrote:Your DIL's package absolutely not but you guys would seriously never open a package delivered to your own spouse why? I would assume my spouse wouldn't be receiving anything that he would have to actively hide from me. My spouse and I open packages addressed to each other all the time and we don't think twice of it. We are married and whoever happens to get to the package first just automatically opens it. 🤷

We don’t open each other’s mail. Nope. I order stuff for birthdays or whatever and spouse has no idea, so he never opens. What if he opens a box a gifts for the kids without knowing and kids are right there. Hubby likes to open his own mail. I’ll ask if I want to open something with his name on it.

+1 it’s respectful, nothing to do with hiding

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your DIL's package absolutely not but you guys would seriously never open a package delivered to your own spouse why? I would assume my spouse wouldn't be receiving anything that he would have to actively hide from me. My spouse and I open packages addressed to each other all the time and we don't think twice of it. We are married and whoever happens to get to the package first just automatically opens it. 🤷

We don’t open each other’s mail. Nope. I order stuff for birthdays or whatever and spouse has no idea, so he never opens. What if he opens a box a gifts for the kids without knowing and kids are right there. Hubby likes to open his own mail. I’ll ask if I want to open something with his name on it.

+1. I don't open anything addressed to my husband. It's neither my responsibility nor my business. I certainly wouldn't dream of opening something addressed to someone else.