Can we analyze jennifer lopez?
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Anonymous
Maybe being there for the partner she says she has a true love story with? Showing some empathy and compassion and nurturing toward him during this time.. She doesn’t seem to be the hand holding type which is fine but that is what addicts need. Their sensitivities and triggers are plenty and showboating and gallivanting around town and on yachts like a show pony probably frustrates him and trigger him to drink. She has a surface meaning of love. She just wants Ben to be a Ken doll for her to kiss and hold hands at red carpets and award shows (where alcohol abound), but she doesn’t care or is oblivious to the real work of caring and loving a partner . |
Anonymous
To be fair it doesn't seem like she's pushing her to be like her. I think it's good she respects the whole pronoun thing too |
Anonymous
What makes you think Ben wants Jen L. beside him in that role? He has given very little indication that he wants her to help him out. |
Anonymous
He also didn’t kick her out from his kids graduation parties. She is somehow able to be there when the paparazzi are there. She can be there for him in private moments too. She’s letting Garner play the role of the nurturer/wife when it should be her . She should just remain single or date a man who doesn’t need the round the clock care Ben needs . He belongs in rehab if he can’t keep the drinks down |
Anonymous
She actually didn’t lose $20 million. Amazon prime or whoever bought the rights to the movie so it’s sold. She definitely lost money but she got some back when they purchased it. |
Anonymous
She has been, for many many years. I call a significant trauma history, because the chaotic relationship history in addition to her continued sexualization and obsession with her body just feels like a trauma case to me. She might never cop to it publicly but I'm suspecting she's seen a lot of and been on the receiving end of (and maybe caused a lot of) ugly stuff, I'm sure.She always reverts to intensive image control when she goes through pain and feels fragile. The persona always takes over...same pattern over and over and over. She needs intensive psychotherapy. And I'm sure her family are worried about her. |
Anonymous
The failure of their relationship triggered depression, which puts him at risk for relapse. Agree he doesn't want her around, she doesn't help. His mom and his ex have a deeper understanding of his problems and are more generous in terms of solid support, which actually does help him. |
Anonymous
I can believe she has trauma that hasn't been processed fully. |
Anonymous
| When are JLo and Ben finally divorcing? |
Anonymous
| I think he’s the one with the problem(s) and JLo said ‘see ya when ya better’ |
Anonymous
+1 yes! |
Anonymous
Correct: every single human on the planet has phases of narcissism, usually under the age of 10, as part of childhood development. If the child is being is raised in a household where parent or primary caregiver is a narcissist (J.Lo mom) the child never leaves the early stage of narcissism; stuck forever with emotions of a child. And correct- this is all armchair diagnosis as the narcissist will never submit to clinical diagnosis; he/she is perfect. See: S. Jobs, J. Welch, the Donald, etc. Educate yourself and your children to run like hell from this cancer. |
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Why does everyone feel she is narcissist? I feel like she is completely accepting and loving with her kids and they are always with her. This does not seem fair. I actually feel bad for her. I noticed the friends with her on her recent trip are her back up singers. They are the same ones who are in her
Delolia soritzer commercials when she said she is having friends over bbqing. I feel like she is too isolated and needs to have people around her who are not staff. You need to have friends who do not rely on you financially. Maybe her employees are the best but she needs also voices from outside her bubble. He is clearly hard to live with and no man is worth this. Hopefully they can work this in a way that is good for both of them. I am sure Jen G wants this to work also because she doesn’t need him with a 25 year old and starting a new family when her kids need him fully present. |
Anonymous
I think they both have childhood trauma . Bens father was absent, never kept a stable job, and at one time, was homeless. That’s why Ben and little bro Casey were dragged to do commercials, modeling, and PBS shows by mom dukes . There’s probably trauma from that. He bought all his homes including the house with J Lo. cash because he fears homelessness due to addiction. She was homeless when she left home to become a dancer at 18 tired of her mothers beatings. The older man who owned the dance studio she rehearsed at let her live on his couch in the studio. She definitely has trauma |