What beauty mistakes do women over 40 commonly make?

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Anonymous wrote:For eyeshadow, you don’t want the ones that get huge reviews because “they’re so pigmented”. You want the ones that take some building so you can put on just a bit. I also have started using nude/pale pink eyeliners in the lower last line to open up my eye. No smoky eye, ever. Satin and light shimmers can work as eyeshadow, but no glitter.

+1 It Cosmetics Naturally Pretty Palette is perfect for this BTW.

I used to think that I HAD to wear eyeliner on the lower lash line ala Kate Middleton or my eyes got washed out/lost on my face. But that has totally changed - is it just the style? Is it age? Did I just learn better? I have no idea. But now I've learned that lining my upper waterline is the key to make my eyes pop.


I do think women have it tough and it seems like we can't win in terms of staying fresh but also not trying too hard. However there are some good piece of advice on this thread. I think we all know someone who gets stuck in a certain time period and doesn't ever change their style. You're allowed to be trendy and up to date and not feel like you're trying to look younger. Some of us don't want to look like our mothers who clung to their 80s perms and blue eyeshadow for way too long!

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Too much cakey makeup. Home dye jobs that look too harsh

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Anonymous wrote:And here, from 2021 (Easter and January Scotland trip).

You might like it, but let's at least agree she is still doing it. That nonsense about it only being in old photos is just incorrect.

Well she’s obviously getting Botox now. She looks twenty something in the red pic.

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Anonymous wrote:All of these tips are for white women.

NP - I was thinking the same thing LOL.

Ummmm.....black, brown, Asian, bi-racial women can wear too much make-up, not just white woman. Actually, women of all colors/races can wear too much make-up. Same with hair, outdated hair styles aren’t color/race specific. Nor or outfits. The last time I checked Botox and other cosmetic procedures aren't race specific either.

I would have to disagree there. Black and hispanic women are not getting Botox and fillers in any significant numbers unless they are celebrities. Our skin doesn't age as fast and it's just not something we worry about.

PP here. I agree with you, black and Hispanic women probably aren’t getting Botox and fillers, because they have great skin & don’t age as fast. But, that’s not to say they can’t. It’s not something that just white women do. They just may start it earlier, do it more, etc than other races/ethnicities.

Sorry, wrong. I work at a dermatology practice. We see people of all colors for Botox and related procedures.
Botox is only noticeable when it’s done poorly.

Sure this is probably more prevalent in places like NYC, LA, DC etc. But as a whole women of color are not getting Botox in large numbers. If you know anything about the black community, you know there's a built in historical mistrust of doctors/hospitals, medicine etc - hell, half of black folk don't even want to get the covid vaccine, we damn sure aren't injecting sh*t into our faces..

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Ok, so people can chime in about the issues that the POC and Latinas DO have - for example, pigmentation issues and piling on the pounds seem to hit them harder than those wrinkly, thin-haired white ladies with their pink waterlines.

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I think the biggest mistake I see my 40-something friends making is "waiting until they lose the weight" to get new clothes or update their look. This means they're wearing out-of-date clothes, frumpy sweats, etc., rather than just investing in a couple nice outfits that work for their *current* bodies.

Another mistake IMO is going for a really matte makeup look. I think people who have a little glow look healthier and more vibrant.

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Anonymous wrote:Dated hairstyle. Just because it looked good on you in your twenties doesn't mean it necessarily still looks good on you with changing jawline, skin and hair texture, etc.

I mean, it can still be right for you. The mistake is not re-evaluating to check.

I agree with this. I think the same goes for makeup. Getting stuck on a look and not evaulating if it continues to work for you and flatter as your age. One of the worst makeup offenders:

She’s also example of the mistake of making yourself too thin. Lack of fat in your face makes you look haggard. It also really brings out wrinkles.

I can’t speak for the Duchess, and I know she’s quite thin, but many of us have narrow faces that do not reflect our overall body fat! I have plenty of junk in my trunk but if I tried to lose any of it, the weight would undoubtedly come from
my already thin face instead of my ass. I short, some of us can’t help the thin faced aging.

I’m right there with you PP! My face is thin and I can’t control it...granted, I’m several years older than Kate, have never smoked and am rarely photographed, but I cringe when I see some of her more haggard photos because I know that’s how I look. Similarly to her, I also have an expressive face and dark eyebrows, which can contribute to some really terrible photos and severe facial expressions. Zoom has really messed me up this past year—so glad for the filtering!

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People... stop quoting the pictures!

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Anonymous wrote:1) Color your hair if going gray, cute cut.
2) Fix that BRF (Biitchy Resting Face, not British Royal Family)
3) Better bras
4) Update your wardrobe.

Best tip ever, thank you!

It's a useless tip, because there's not much you can do about it, short of surgery. I guess you could plaster a fake smile on your face so that it's never actually resting.

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Anonymous wrote:1) Color your hair if going gray, cute cut.
2) Fix that BRF (Biitchy Resting Face, not British Royal Family)
3) Better bras
4) Update your wardrobe.

Best tip ever, thank you!

It's a useless tip, because there's not much you can do about it, short of surgery. I guess you could plaster a fake smile on your face so that it's never actually resting.

Also, it's RBF: Resting B*tch Face.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the biggest mistake I see my 40-something friends making is "waiting until they lose the weight" to get new clothes or update their look. This means they're wearing out-of-date clothes, frumpy sweats, etc., rather than just investing in a couple nice outfits that work for their *current* bodies.

Another mistake IMO is going for a really matte makeup look. I think people who have a little glow look healthier and more vibrant.

Yes. I had a primer that was matte and saw myself in a pic and threw that away. Also my skin looks much better with a tinted moisturizer than with a foundation.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the biggest mistake I see my 40-something friends making is "waiting until they lose the weight" to get new clothes or update their look. This means they're wearing out-of-date clothes, frumpy sweats, etc., rather than just investing in a couple nice outfits that work for their *current* bodies.

Another mistake IMO is going for a really matte makeup look. I think people who have a little glow look healthier and more vibrant.

Yes regarding the waiting to lose the weight thing. And I say this with kindness because I do this in other areas of my life (waiting to find a partner before I did world travel, for instance). There is so much power in just loving and celebrating who you are right now. I think this is great advice to women at every age. Just invest in yourself now. Don't wait until you've "earned it" with some arbitrary goal. Everyone deserves clothes that fit, for instance.

I have friends who have worn nothing but workout clothes and their maternity/postpartum clothes since their first kid was born. And we're talking years here. A friend of mine just confessed to me that she bought a dress for family photos and it's the first actual piece of adult clothing (not leggings or other workout clothes) she has bought since our kids were born FOUR YEARS AGO, and that she is stressed because she's going to have to buy new underwear and shoes just to be able to wear it. That's crazy! Don't do this.

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Anonymous wrote:1) Color your hair if going gray, cute cut.
2) Fix that BRF (Biitchy Resting Face, not British Royal Family)
3) Better bras
4) Update your wardrobe.

Best tip ever, thank you!

It's a useless tip, because there's not much you can do about it, short of surgery. I guess you could plaster a fake smile on your face so that it's never actually resting.

Also, it's RBF: Resting B*tch Face.

No, it's b*tchy resting face. Resting face is modified by the adjective b*tchy. I don't have a b*tch face that is resting. I have a resting face that looks b*tchy. Not everyone's resting face looks b*tchy. Most people have a neutral resting face.

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Anonymous wrote:1) Color your hair if going gray, cute cut.
2) Fix that BRF (Biitchy Resting Face, not British Royal Family)
3) Better bras
4) Update your wardrobe.

Best tip ever, thank you!

It's a useless tip, because there's not much you can do about it, short of surgery. I guess you could plaster a fake smile on your face so that it's never actually resting.

Also, it's RBF: Resting B*tch Face.

No, it's b*tchy resting face. Resting face is modified by the adjective b*tchy. I don't have a b*tch face that is resting. I have a resting face that looks b*tchy. Not everyone's resting face looks b*tchy. Most people have a neutral resting face.

NP, it's RBF

[Anonymous]

Pale lipstick, eyeliner under the eye, thin eyebrows, botox (frozen face)