Have you ever been called ugly?

[Anonymous]

I have always been very average looking and I am ok with it.
I have a few memories of being called ugly. Once in school by a jerky guy, another time when I got a blistering sunburn, another few times by my brothers.. It's fine. I never grew up feeling beautiful or cute by any means but it kept me humble and I don't feel above people for my looks which some people seem to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Daily by my brothers.

That’s sad. Did you believe them?

[Anonymous]

I think what’s so hard as a woman about being called ugly is that someone is trying to take your power from you when they say that- snivelly teenage boys, narcissistic parents, fratty dudes. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think what’s so hard as a woman about being called ugly is that someone is trying to take your power from you when they say that- snivelly teenage boys, narcissistic parents, fratty dudes. Ugh.

It's the original negging. I am no Angelina Jolie but... I've gotten 99% approval on looks from a young age. I've never felt "gorgeous" but my self esteem is intact and I know on some base level I'm not "ugly." And that's a privilege that I recognize. However, yes, there is always some guy who knows this is a sensitive thing for women and may throw that out. I remember this a lot in middle school and when men have dealt with rejection. It is a blatant attempt to take your power and make you feel insecure. I roundly ignored this it was so transparent.

I don't know how to deal with the parent thing. My parents were of the, "oh, your daughter is so pretty!" Them, "that may be, but more importantly she is smart and she is kind!" kind of variety.

[Anonymous]

Idk what’s worse, being called ugly by guys or girls. I’ve actually never been called ugly by a guy, but I have been called ugly by another woman and that hurt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Idk what’s worse, being called ugly by guys or girls. I’ve actually never been called ugly by a guy, but I have been called ugly by another woman and that hurt.

I feel like in either instance it’s insecurity and rarely about looks. As someone else said, it’s just someone trying to take your power.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Idk what’s worse, being called ugly by guys or girls. I’ve actually never been called ugly by a guy, but I have been called ugly by another woman and that hurt.

I feel like in either instance it’s insecurity and rarely about looks. As someone else said, it’s just someone trying to take your power.

The only time I can recall being called ugly was by a girl in 6th grade. It did hurt my feelings. She herself was really plain, and she remained plain as an adult. Looking at photos from that period of time, I looked pretty, and I was always dressed neatly, and I was a happy kid. I think this girl realized she was never going to have a pretty day in her life and she was just trying to target someone else with her unhappy self image.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Idk what’s worse, being called ugly by guys or girls. I’ve actually never been called ugly by a guy, but I have been called ugly by another woman and that hurt.

I feel like in either instance it’s insecurity and rarely about looks. As someone else said, it’s just someone trying to take your power.

The only time I can recall being called ugly was by a girl in 6th grade. It did hurt my feelings. She herself was really plain, and she remained plain as an adult. Looking at photos from that period of time, I looked pretty, and I was always dressed neatly, and I was a happy kid. I think this girl realized she was never going to have a pretty day in her life and she was just trying to target someone else with her unhappy self image.

Yeah. For me it was a girl in my early 20s and I was dating her...ex? Crush? I don’t remember. Either way I don’t remember her being a great beauty herself but I am usually called pretty. Either way it was upsetting and gave me serious issues.

[Anonymous]

Haven't read through all 13 pages, but hasn't everyone at one point or another?

[Anonymous]

I have never been called ugly outright, but I clearly remember being called fat several times in my life. A boy I had a crush on in seventh grade called me fat and I remember feeling so crushed. I literally hated him after that and harbored a grudge against him for years! To be honest I still do.

I was never really fat, I was more teetering on the edge of being overweight and I always felt less-than because of it.

[Anonymous]

I dont know if I was ever called ugly, but I was called thunder thighs in middle school

[Anonymous]

I was called ugly plenty of times. Mostly by rude and cruel junior high boys. I don't think it mattered much because I knew I was not objectively ugly. It was just a quip used by the dim. "You're ugly. You're gay. You smell." Clever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was called ugly plenty of times. Mostly by rude and cruel junior high boys. I don't think it mattered much because I knew I was not objectively ugly. It was just a quip used by the dim. "You're ugly. You're gay. You smell." Clever.

This. Very unintelligent insult. It's when you don't really know someone and having nothing actually cutting to say about their personality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was called ugly once in my teens/college by other girls and it's made me so insecure. Everyone else has called me pretty but I'm still shook up about two women I knew as a teenager. Wtf.

Was it during rush? If so, it doesn’t count.

[Anonymous]

Yes, by my mother, fat and ugly. It took me years to see that my mom was a narcissist. To be honest, I was overweight and not attractive from late elementary school through high school. I was definitely a late bloomer. However, I don't think my mom ever saw me as pretty, even on my wedding day. I think she felt as though I somehow made her look bad. She would often separate herself from me saying that she was never overweight, was always pretty, that I was bigger than she was (I was probably 11 or 12) when she got married, that I would never get married, no one would want me, etc. I think it made her feel good to hurt me in front of other people.