Slightly Irritating Things Your In-Laws Do

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My Father in law describes his home as “the vacation house” and gets really upset if we take a vacation anywhere else.

He constantly says that kids these days are “too safe” and gives my children gifts like a cordless drill or a real saw. They are 3 and 5.

This is not slightly irritating, this is obnoxious. Anyone who gave my 3 year old a real saw to play with would never be unsupervised with my kids EVER.

Pp- you hit it on the head. He is NEVER allowed to be around the kids without supervision. Ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Too broke to pay for badly needed home maintenance but will travel overseas to go birdwatching at the drop of a hat. Oh wait, that's MY mom, not my MIL.

Good for her!

[Anonymous]

When making small talk about the behavior of boys (I have 2), MIL says “well we don’t put up with that when we are watching them”.

[Anonymous]

My #1 irritation is that they don't come visit us and stay. They live 4 hours away and will come down for 3-4 hours for lunch every 4 months. For instance when I had a newborn they'd come down, we'd clean for hours beforehand, they eat and then leave. It was exhausting and I got zero help with the baby, just a photo op for them. And then when it's our turn to visit, they expect a 4 day visit about every 6 weeks. Their house is 1/3 the size of ours and there's only one guest room for the 5 of us. I'm so annoyed we can't just do a 4 hour hit and run on them and leave like they do to us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Too broke to pay for badly needed home maintenance but will travel overseas to go birdwatching at the drop of a hat. Oh wait, that's MY mom, not my MIL.

Good for her!

Sure, until the roof collapses or a wall turns into a waterfall when it rains (that one actually happened).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My #1 irritation is that they don't come visit us and stay. They live 4 hours away and will come down for 3-4 hours for lunch every 4 months. For instance when I had a newborn they'd come down, we'd clean for hours beforehand, they eat and then leave. It was exhausting and I got zero help with the baby, just a photo op for them. And then when it's our turn to visit, they expect a 4 day visit about every 6 weeks. Their house is 1/3 the size of ours and there's only one guest room for the 5 of us. I'm so annoyed we can't just do a 4 hour hit and run on them and leave like they do to us.

Do you clean your home?

Is your guest mattress comfortable?

Are you a decent cook/clean kitchen habits?

There are certain family homes we don't stay in...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My #1 irritation is that they don't come visit us and stay. They live 4 hours away and will come down for 3-4 hours for lunch every 4 months. For instance when I had a newborn they'd come down, we'd clean for hours beforehand, they eat and then leave. It was exhausting and I got zero help with the baby, just a photo op for them. And then when it's our turn to visit, they expect a 4 day visit about every 6 weeks. Their house is 1/3 the size of ours and there's only one guest room for the 5 of us. I'm so annoyed we can't just do a 4 hour hit and run on them and leave like they do to us.

Consider yourself lucky.

I’d clean my house AND my neighbors house from top to bottom if I only had to see my ILs once every 4 months. Sign me up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My #1 irritation is that they don't come visit us and stay. They live 4 hours away and will come down for 3-4 hours for lunch every 4 months. For instance when I had a newborn they'd come down, we'd clean for hours beforehand, they eat and then leave. It was exhausting and I got zero help with the baby, just a photo op for them. And then when it's our turn to visit, they expect a 4 day visit about every 6 weeks. Their house is 1/3 the size of ours and there's only one guest room for the 5 of us. I'm so annoyed we can't just do a 4 hour hit and run on them and leave like they do to us.

Consider yourself lucky.

I’d clean my house AND my neighbors house from top to bottom if I only had to see my ILs once every 4 months. Sign me up!

And they can”expect” anything they want. You CAN do a visit similar to theirs. Why can’t you? Your husband won’t? Then you have a slightly irritating husband problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My #1 irritation is that they don't come visit us and stay. They live 4 hours away and will come down for 3-4 hours for lunch every 4 months. For instance when I had a newborn they'd come down, we'd clean for hours beforehand, they eat and then leave. It was exhausting and I got zero help with the baby, just a photo op for them. And then when it's our turn to visit, they expect a 4 day visit about every 6 weeks. Their house is 1/3 the size of ours and there's only one guest room for the 5 of us. I'm so annoyed we can't just do a 4 hour hit and run on them and leave like they do to us.

Do you clean your home?

Is your guest mattress comfortable?

Are you a decent cook/clean kitchen habits?

There are certain family homes we don't stay in...

Yes to all of that. I'm a fantastic host. I have come to the conclusion they don't want to help us with the kids or when we have a newborn. Which is fine, but expecting us to visit with a 2 week old is insane.

[Anonymous]

They died before I could meet them so sad not to have grandparents on that side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They died before I could meet them so sad not to have grandparents on that side.

So...it was irritating that they died?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My Father in law describes his home as “the vacation house” and gets really upset if we take a vacation anywhere else.

He constantly says that kids these days are “too safe” and gives my children gifts like a cordless drill or a real saw. They are 3 and 5.

Lol that’s awesome

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Being too old and feeble to visit for a high school graduation but having no problem taking a cross country road trip the next month.

NP High school graduations are so boring! If they went for their own kids I say they don't have to go for grandkids. College graduations are even worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My #1 irritation is that they don't come visit us and stay. They live 4 hours away and will come down for 3-4 hours for lunch every 4 months. For instance when I had a newborn they'd come down, we'd clean for hours beforehand, they eat and then leave. It was exhausting and I got zero help with the baby, just a photo op for them. And then when it's our turn to visit, they expect a 4 day visit about every 6 weeks. Their house is 1/3 the size of ours and there's only one guest room for the 5 of us. I'm so annoyed we can't just do a 4 hour hit and run on them and leave like they do to us.

Consider yourself lucky.

I’d clean my house AND my neighbors house from top to bottom if I only had to see my ILs once every 4 months. Sign me up!

And they can”expect” anything they want. You CAN do a visit similar to theirs. Why can’t you? Your husband won’t? Then you have a slightly irritating husband problem.

Maybe because it's a little harder to drive 4 hours with little kids/infants stay somewhere 4 hours and then get back in the car for 4 hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My #1 irritation is that they don't come visit us and stay. They live 4 hours away and will come down for 3-4 hours for lunch every 4 months. For instance when I had a newborn they'd come down, we'd clean for hours beforehand, they eat and then leave. It was exhausting and I got zero help with the baby, just a photo op for them. And then when it's our turn to visit, they expect a 4 day visit about every 6 weeks. Their house is 1/3 the size of ours and there's only one guest room for the 5 of us. I'm so annoyed we can't just do a 4 hour hit and run on them and leave like they do to us.

Consider yourself lucky.

I’d clean my house AND my neighbors house from top to bottom if I only had to see my ILs once every 4 months. Sign me up!

And they can”expect” anything they want. You CAN do a visit similar to theirs. Why can’t you? Your husband won’t? Then you have a slightly irritating husband problem.

Maybe because it's a little harder to drive 4 hours with little kids/infants stay somewhere 4 hours and then get back in the car for 4 hours.

Well, you can also NOT make the drive. You can also NOT entertain them in your home. You CAN adjust do restaurants or outings. You CAN stop making excuses.