Slightly Irritating Things Your In-Laws Do

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Anonymous wrote:Mine makes comments about how lucky I am for owning all kinds of fairly common household objects (like a Keurig) and manages to tie it back to her son's generosity. My DH is awesome but I'm the primary breadwinner in our family.

My too. I hate it.

Do you all not just say you make more money? I'm pretty sure I'd say something like, "Well, since I make more money than your son, it's actually due to my generosity"

I wouldn’t be able to resist saying it either! What do you ladies stand to gain by feeding her delusions?

I'm one of the PPs. I avoid talking about money with her, period, because she's generally pretty crass and talks about how lucky we are and we have it made, etc. etc. so I see no need to invite comments. Plus the comments aren't explicit "you are so lucky to have such a great coffee maker because Bob makes so much money" but more insidious than that.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine makes comments about how lucky I am for owning all kinds of fairly common household objects (like a Keurig) and manages to tie it back to her son's generosity. My DH is awesome but I'm the primary breadwinner in our family.

My too. I hate it.

Do you all not just say you make more money? I'm pretty sure I'd say something like, "Well, since I make more money than your son, it's actually due to my generosity"

I wouldn’t be able to resist saying it either! What do you ladies stand to gain by feeding her delusions?

I'm one of the PPs. I avoid talking about money with her, period, because she's generally pretty crass and talks about how lucky we are and we have it made, etc. etc. so I see no need to invite comments. Plus the comments aren't explicit "you are so lucky to have such a great coffee maker because Bob makes so much money" but more insidious than that.

Tilt your head, smile and look puzzled: "What do you mean by that Samantha?"

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I love my MIL but she will only communicate with me about planning, only talks to me and not her son about what to bring for dinner etc. Meanwhile I have a super high stress job and make 4X as much as my DH. But somehow he gets off with no work or coordination because I'm in charge of the house single-handedly apparently

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Anonymous wrote:I love my MIL but she will only communicate with me about planning, only talks to me and not her son about what to bring for dinner etc. Meanwhile I have a super high stress job and make 4X as much as my DH. But somehow he gets off with no work or coordination because I'm in charge of the house single-handedly apparently

Stop being a doormat.

“Hang on, Nancy, I’m passing the phone; Kevin is handling the Christmas logistics this year.”

Each and every time.

Done.

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Anonymous wrote:They expect a hot lunch every day. Refuse to eat cold cuts and make a sandwich, so they eat leftovers for lunch. This means I have to make a fresh dinner every night they are here.

I’m so glad my ILs are visiting someone else! Do they also eat the ingredients of the dinner you have planned for that night, which you discover after a long day at work when you go to cook that evening’s meal? I’ve taken to putting ingredients in brown bags, taping them shut, and writing “JIM DO NOT EAT: TUESDAY’S DINNER” on the outside....

I once came home to find they’d eaten the entire quart of tomato sauce I’d defrosted for that night’s dinner.

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The fact that they still breathe is irritating.

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My wife’s MIL is a habitual frowny face maker and always asks “what?” when she walks into the room. The answer is “nothing” 99% of the time. Drives us it’s but we laugh about it too.

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They are cheap as $hit.

Anyone that has hosted them or gone out to dinner with them feels so taken advantage of they politely decline forever thereafter.

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Anonymous wrote:They expect a hot lunch every day. Refuse to eat cold cuts and make a sandwich, so they eat leftovers for lunch. This means I have to make a fresh dinner every night they are here.

I’m so glad my ILs are visiting someone else! Do they also eat the ingredients of the dinner you have planned for that night, which you discover after a long day at work when you go to cook that evening’s meal? I’ve taken to putting ingredients in brown bags, taping them shut, and writing “JIM DO NOT EAT: TUESDAY’S DINNER” on the outside....

I once came home to find they’d eaten the entire quart of tomato sauce I’d defrosted for that night’s dinner.

The food in our house gets depleted fast when they eat - this includes fresh fruit and bread every other day, all staples, raw ingredients, frozen proteins from Costco, all snacks, all drinks, all sweets for sure. They never offer to replace it, even though they eat 3 meals a day plus snacks in our house while we are all at work and school all day. This happens every single 3 week visit. Never offer to take us out to a restaurant either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They expect a hot lunch every day. Refuse to eat cold cuts and make a sandwich, so they eat leftovers for lunch. This means I have to make a fresh dinner every night they are here.

I’m so glad my ILs are visiting someone else! Do they also eat the ingredients of the dinner you have planned for that night, which you discover after a long day at work when you go to cook that evening’s meal? I’ve taken to putting ingredients in brown bags, taping them shut, and writing “JIM DO NOT EAT: TUESDAY’S DINNER” on the outside....

I once came home to find they’d eaten the entire quart of tomato sauce I’d defrosted for that night’s dinner.

The food in our house gets depleted fast when they eat - this includes fresh fruit and bread every other day, all staples, raw ingredients, frozen proteins from Costco, all snacks, all drinks, all sweets for sure. They never offer to replace it, even though they eat 3 meals a day plus snacks in our house while we are all at work and school all day. This happens every single 3 week visit. Never offer to take us out to a restaurant either.

Shorter visits, duh.

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL knows I take an XL in t-shirts and then buys me t-shirts that she knows are too small and says "Well, I thought about getting women's women's XL, but then again you couldn't be that big, so I got a medium. I guess I can return it. Or wear it myself because I am so much smaller."

That’s not slightly irritating, it’s downright mean.

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Anonymous wrote: Being too old and feeble to visit for a high school graduation but having no problem taking a cross country road trip the next month.

NP High school graduations are so boring! If they went for their own kids I say they don't have to go for grandkids. College graduations are even worse.

I can understand not going to the ceremony (chances are, the number of tickets is limited anyway), but not going to an after-graduation celebration at the house or at a restaurant, either?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They expect a hot lunch every day. Refuse to eat cold cuts and make a sandwich, so they eat leftovers for lunch. This means I have to make a fresh dinner every night they are here.

I’m so glad my ILs are visiting someone else! Do they also eat the ingredients of the dinner you have planned for that night, which you discover after a long day at work when you go to cook that evening’s meal? I’ve taken to putting ingredients in brown bags, taping them shut, and writing “JIM DO NOT EAT: TUESDAY’S DINNER” on the outside....

I once came home to find they’d eaten the entire quart of tomato sauce I’d defrosted for that night’s dinner.

The food in our house gets depleted fast when they eat - this includes fresh fruit and bread every other day, all staples, raw ingredients, frozen proteins from Costco, all snacks, all drinks, all sweets for sure. They never offer to replace it, even though they eat 3 meals a day plus snacks in our house while we are all at work and school all day. This happens every single 3 week visit. Never offer to take us out to a restaurant either.

You keep inviting them for 3 weeks ... why?

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Political ranting and the constant Fox news is my #1. I'm actually pretty moderate/conservative too, but they are off in space. They call me super liberal in fact.

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FIL is great at pretending he was/is super dad. He managed to trick me into believing him. Yet, he was absent for 6 months at a time or more when his kids were little, and was not too involved. Blames his wife for any character faults of their kids. Throws money at problems.
The worst part is that my STBX is the same way