Almost 7 year old in kindergarten!!

[Anonymous]

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And yet, I know which of my DC's classmates were redshirted, but not why. Possibly they all had cancer, but I suspect most were for the usual reasons, immaturity and to gain an advantage.

People know things all the time that it's none of their business to know.

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I would think 7 means the child may have had, like mentioned above, cancer or something like Lyme disease which can take years to recover from and tends to be an invisible disease that wrecks havoc that can be hidden, including cognitive stuff even though kids seem fine/outgoing and well. Many people seem to hold kids back up to 15 -18 months though.

[Anonymous]

I didn't redshirt my late summer birthday kid, and he is now disrupting the hell out of your kids' K class (seriously, emails home every single week) If we hold him back, people will complain about the K who is red shirted and making their kids look and feel dumb when he has no obvious special needs.

Maybe the 7 year old K has no obvious special needs BECAUSE he has been red shirted and thus given more time to mature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't redshirt my late summer birthday kid, and he is now disrupting the hell out of your kids' K class (seriously, emails home every single week) If we hold him back, people will complain about the K who is red shirted and making their kids look and feel dumb when he has no obvious special needs.

Maybe the 7 year old K has no obvious special needs BECAUSE he has been red shirted and thus given more time to mature.

I have two summer bday kids who were not reshirted. I used to get notes sent home, too, though not every week. My DS got more notes sent home than my DD. Pretty stereotypical, but it's true, boys do seem to have less self control and are less mature.

It will pass. I talked to DS's 2nd grade teacher about his seemingly lack of ability to sit still for more than 10sec. She said, "Don't worry. It's normal". DS is now 10 and can sit still for much longer now. BTW, DS is in a gifted program, and if we had redshirted, he'd have been bored half to death. He's already somewhat bored at times in school. He is smaller and less mature than most of the kids, but he will catch up in a couple of years. We've had talks about him being one of the youngest in class and what that means.

Hang in there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't redshirt my late summer birthday kid, and he is now disrupting the hell out of your kids' K class (seriously, emails home every single week) If we hold him back, people will complain about the K who is red shirted and making their kids look and feel dumb when he has no obvious special needs.

Maybe the 7 year old K has no obvious special needs BECAUSE he has been red shirted and thus given more time to mature.

If you hold your late summer birthday kid back, they will not be 7 in K. I think most people are ok enough with holding late summer kids back, but in the case of my kid's K class, there is a boy who turned 7 in December. He's 21 months older than the youngest kid in the class. He didn't have cancer or lyme disease. He's a bit disruptive, but really just seems very old to be in K. I know he has some learning/behavior issues and I'm not sure 1st grade would be better for him (meaning he'd be equally disruptive) but the giant age gap is notable.

[Anonymous]

I didn't redshirt my late summer birthday kid, and he is now disrupting the hell out of your kids' K class (seriously, emails home every single week)

Being the youngest in the class doesn't necessarily cause inappropriate and disruptive behavior. My son's birthday is at the very beginning of September and he was not redshirted because we couldn't afford to pay for more preschool. We have gotten zero emails home, zero complaints from the teacher, and she has expressed that he is generally well behaved. I'm not saying that there aren't any disadvantages to being the youngest in a class, because there absolutely are, but "disrupting the hell" out of a class is not inherently one of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I didn't redshirt my late summer birthday kid, and he is now disrupting the hell out of your kids' K class (seriously, emails home every single week)

Being the youngest in the class doesn't necessarily cause inappropriate and disruptive behavior. My son's birthday is at the very beginning of September and he was not redshirted because we couldn't afford to pay for more preschool. We have gotten zero emails home, zero complaints from the teacher, and she has expressed that he is generally well behaved. I'm not saying that there aren't any disadvantages to being the youngest in a class, because there absolutely are, but "disrupting the hell" out of a class is not inherently one of them.

Agree. My child has early Sept bday and is one of the youngest. She had no problem whatsoever. The children in her class who are most impulsive have birthdays all over the place. Some are older, some are in the middle. (none are the youngest! probably because a parent wouldn't send their young wiggly child to K). Anyway...I'm not sure it's age related in K. I think some kids have a hard time controlling themselves, and some don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I didn't redshirt my late summer birthday kid, and he is now disrupting the hell out of your kids' K class (seriously, emails home every single week)

Being the youngest in the class doesn't necessarily cause inappropriate and disruptive behavior. My son's birthday is at the very beginning of September and he was not redshirted because we couldn't afford to pay for more preschool. We have gotten zero emails home, zero complaints from the teacher, and she has expressed that he is generally well behaved. I'm not saying that there aren't any disadvantages to being the youngest in a class, because there absolutely are, but "disrupting the hell" out of a class is not inherently one of them.

I find it concerning that wealthier families can afford holding back a child.
Private schools will often not accept summer boys.
I hope this isn't a way to buy advantages. Sad really.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn't redshirt my late summer birthday kid, and he is now disrupting the hell out of your kids' K class (seriously, emails home every single week) If we hold him back, people will complain about the K who is red shirted and making their kids look and feel dumb when he has no obvious special needs.

Maybe the 7 year old K has no obvious special needs BECAUSE he has been red shirted and thus given more time to mature.

If you hold your late summer birthday kid back, they will not be 7 in K. I think most people are ok enough with holding late summer kids back, but in the case of my kid's K class, there is a boy who turned 7 in December. He's 21 months older than the youngest kid in the class. He didn't have cancer or lyme disease. He's a bit disruptive, but really just seems very old to be in K. I know he has some learning/behavior issues and I'm not sure 1st grade would be better for him (meaning he'd be equally disruptive) but the giant age gap is notable.

He would have been better off being in 1st with his peers and parents getting services both in school and out of school. Holding back does not fix learning or behavioral problems in less kids are also given the tools to succeed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn't redshirt my late summer birthday kid, and he is now disrupting the hell out of your kids' K class (seriously, emails home every single week) If we hold him back, people will complain about the K who is red shirted and making their kids look and feel dumb when he has no obvious special needs.

Maybe the 7 year old K has no obvious special needs BECAUSE he has been red shirted and thus given more time to mature.

If you hold your late summer birthday kid back, they will not be 7 in K. I think most people are ok enough with holding late summer kids back, but in the case of my kid's K class, there is a boy who turned 7 in December. He's 21 months older than the youngest kid in the class. He didn't have cancer or lyme disease. He's a bit disruptive, but really just seems very old to be in K. I know he has some learning/behavior issues and I'm not sure 1st grade would be better for him (meaning he'd be equally disruptive) but the giant age gap is notable.

He would have been better off being in 1st with his peers and parents getting services both in school and out of school. Holding back does not fix learning or behavioral problems in less kids are also given the tools to succeed.

I love how everyone has the answers for this kid who they don't even know. You don't know his issues, you don't know what's been done to address them, you don't know about how many nights his parents spent agonizing over decisions of what they should do. Let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I didn't redshirt my late summer birthday kid, and he is now disrupting the hell out of your kids' K class (seriously, emails home every single week)

Being the youngest in the class doesn't necessarily cause inappropriate and disruptive behavior. My son's birthday is at the very beginning of September and he was not redshirted because we couldn't afford to pay for more preschool. We have gotten zero emails home, zero complaints from the teacher, and she has expressed that he is generally well behaved. I'm not saying that there aren't any disadvantages to being the youngest in a class, because there absolutely are, but "disrupting the hell" out of a class is not inherently one of them.

Being the oldest in the class doesn't necessarily cause inappropriate and disruptive behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn't redshirt my late summer birthday kid, and he is now disrupting the hell out of your kids' K class (seriously, emails home every single week) If we hold him back, people will complain about the K who is red shirted and making their kids look and feel dumb when he has no obvious special needs.

Maybe the 7 year old K has no obvious special needs BECAUSE he has been red shirted and thus given more time to mature.

I have two summer bday kids who were not reshirted. I used to get notes sent home, too, though not every week. My DS got more notes sent home than my DD. Pretty stereotypical, but it's true, boys do seem to have less self control and are less mature.

It will pass. I talked to DS's 2nd grade teacher about his seemingly lack of ability to sit still for more than 10sec. She said, "Don't worry. It's normal". DS is now 10 and can sit still for much longer now. BTW, DS is in a gifted program, and if we had redshirted, he'd have been bored half to death. He's already somewhat bored at times in school. He is smaller and less mature than most of the kids, but he will catch up in a couple of years. We've had talks about him being one of the youngest in class and what that means.

Hang in there.

Had the same experience with my DS (late June birthday). During a particularly difficult stretch in 3rd grade we had several talks with the school counselor and I said then that perhaps it would have been better to hold him back a year but her opinion was that he'd still have been having trouble but out of boredom rather than immaturity and that is harder to deal with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I didn't redshirt my late summer birthday kid, and he is now disrupting the hell out of your kids' K class (seriously, emails home every single week)

Being the youngest in the class doesn't necessarily cause inappropriate and disruptive behavior. My son's birthday is at the very beginning of September and he was not redshirted because we couldn't afford to pay for more preschool. We have gotten zero emails home, zero complaints from the teacher, and she has expressed that he is generally well behaved. I'm not saying that there aren't any disadvantages to being the youngest in a class, because there absolutely are, but "disrupting the hell" out of a class is not inherently one of them.

I find it concerning that wealthier families can afford holding back a child.
Private schools will often not accept summer boys.
I hope this isn't a way to buy advantages. Sad really.

Of course it is. Look at the ages of the seniors on St Albans and Landon's lacrosse team.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:7 in April or May you mean? Yes, I've heard of this. Crazy, but I've heard of it.

My son will be 8 in May. He's in 1st grade.

We kept him in preschool an extra year & it was the best decision ever.

This just shouldn't be allowed.

?????

He's just a year behind. So what? Kids are retained by parents or schools all of the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn't redshirt my late summer birthday kid, and he is now disrupting the hell out of your kids' K class (seriously, emails home every single week) If we hold him back, people will complain about the K who is red shirted and making their kids look and feel dumb when he has no obvious special needs.

Maybe the 7 year old K has no obvious special needs BECAUSE he has been red shirted and thus given more time to mature.

I have two summer bday kids who were not reshirted. I used to get notes sent home, too, though not every week. My DS got more notes sent home than my DD. Pretty stereotypical, but it's true, boys do seem to have less self control and are less mature.

It will pass. I talked to DS's 2nd grade teacher about his seemingly lack of ability to sit still for more than 10sec. She said, "Don't worry. It's normal". DS is now 10 and can sit still for much longer now. BTW, DS is in a gifted program, and if we had redshirted, he'd have been bored half to death. He's already somewhat bored at times in school. He is smaller and less mature than most of the kids, but he will catch up in a couple of years. We've had talks about him being one of the youngest in class and what that means.

Hang in there.

Thank you two for giving me hope. MY DS is in 2nd this year (youngest in class) and was diagnosed with innatentive add-- so glad to see it gets better. Us moms of youngest boys need to stick together.