Is it okay to veto "Mom-mom" for a grandmother name?

[Anonymous]

Her kid is 5, I am sure they have sorted it out by now!!

[Anonymous]

Mom-mom is ridiculous and encroaching. Grammy, Nana, Grandy, GG, Bubbe. I would be upset since I’d want to be the only “Mom” or mom-adjacent. Even if others think it’s irrational, it’s your right. Veto it and suggest alternatives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Her kid is 5, I am sure they have sorted it out by now!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My mom goes by Gigi, and tells everyone who will listen it stands for Gorgeous Grandma. It could be worse, OP. That said, I don't love Mom-Mom, not b/c it's confusing but because I don't like the sound of it.
Is she actually asking your opinion?

OP here. I wouldn't mind Gigi. She said "what do you guys think?" in her email.

For those saying it's not confusing...I'm thinking about a little kid learning to talk. They're not going to be able to differentiate between Mama and Mom Mom.

And yeah, I want to be my kids only "Mom." Call me petty but that's how I feel! She already has two kids to call her Mom.

MIL is not a bitch and we have a fine relationship. This will not cause years of drama so no worries.

Then my best advice (NP) is to just own it and be direct and honest. You want to be the only mom and that’s totally reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Just have your kids call them grandma. My grandma tried to get me to call her a babyish name. I didn’t like it and told her I wasn’t a baby. I just kept saying grandma. My cousins all call her Gaga. Feel bad now that i didn’t but kids tell the truth and don’t do what you want them to

[Anonymous]

I think mom-mom is fine, if the grandma is the mother of the baby’s mother. If baby is a child of two moms I agree, it would be confusing to have two grandmas called mom-mom.

[Anonymous]

Grandma Mary and Grandma Jane. Easy peasy!

Having said that, DH and I want to be called Lolly and Pop.

[Anonymous]

Generally, I'd be fine with whatever the grandma's wanted. Nana, ya-ya, grandma, granny, whatever. But I would not be comfortable with mom-mom. Too close to mom.

However - it's your MIL. Talk to your husband. See if he agrees, or at least is willing to support you on this, and then HE should tell his mom to pick another name.

[Anonymous]

It’s a regional thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That is a ridiculous nickname and I would veto it. Gently. But veto.

No need to veto. Kid will probably come up with something completely different! Just leave "Mom-Mom" alone and not be so petty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Grandma Mary and Grandma Jane. Easy peasy!

Having said that, DH and I want to be called Lolly and Pop.

I think W and Laura are called that. But, your grandkids might come up with different names so don't get too attached.

[Anonymous]

I called my moms parents mom mom and pop pop my kids called my mom mom mom my dad granddad and her parents were mom mom and pop pop my grandson calls us mom mom and pop pop

[Anonymous]

In my native language, every relationship has a unique name.

So instead of grandma -
Paternal grandmother - Daadi
Maternal grandmother - Naani

Instead of aunts -
Dad's sister - Bua
Mom's sister - Maasi
Dad's brother's wife - Taayi/Chaachi
Mom's brother's wife - Maami

[Anonymous]

No it’s not appropriate she is nuts tell her to pick Grammy or something.... btw my mil wanted to be call oma ( German) even though a great deal of my family were victims in the Holocaust. Btw she is not German herself!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just tell her that, similarly to how she thinks two "grandmas" would be confusing, "mom-mom" would be confusing, too.

Let her know any name that's not similar to "mom" or "mommy" works for you. You can recommend some (Grammy, Deedee, Nana, Nan, Granny, Gran, etc) if you think she'd be receptive, or you can just leave it at that.

OP again. Thank you! This is exactly how I'll explain it. I'll agree that she's totally right that two grandmas is confusing but I also think having to "mom"s is confusing as well. I'm totally fine with any other name!

I'm sure it's fine if you grew up with Mom mom as a normal grandmother name, but my husband actually calls both his grandmothers "Grandma." So it's not like it's some sort of family tradition she's trying to continue.

To whom is it confusing?

It’s confusing to the child calling out for his mom!

Can you imagine a 2 year old calling out “Mom! Mom! Help! Mom! Mom!”

Then grandma insists he wants her and every interaction is a negotiation about who the child is talking to. It sounds exhausting and obnoxious.

Man, it would be awesome to point to someone else when the endless chorus of “Mom Mom Mom Mom Mom look at me” starts.