Literally every single MCPS kid I know has a tutor. Do YOU?

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I did not assume anything. I asked it. And you won't know if your ES kid will later suffer burn out or not. You can't see the future, not I for that matter. But I think kids who are tutored in ES have a bigger chance of burn out later than those who are not. Does your kid ever get a whole day just to be a kid, learning to occupy himself, not having anything structured for him?

Show me the research.

Also - just because I teach my kid does not mean that my kid does not have a childhood, friends, downtime, unstructured time etc. I think you may be projecting here.

If I follow your logic to its conclusion then the kids who are not tutored/enriched etc are 1) low achievers 2) create discipline problems in school 3) are disruptive and disrespectful 4) have unlimited amount of TV viewing time 5) are being raised on junk food 6) have negligent parents.

Not assuming anything either - just curious to know if I just described your kid!

what am I projecting? No, you didn't describe my kid. DC is in HGC. Got in with no tutoring. DC watches TV, plays electronic games, eats some junk food, occasionally misbehaves, has gone to sleepovers, rides the bike way too fast sometimes, skiis down the slope way too fast for my liking. DCs not perfect...DC is a kid that is living his childhood. DC doesn't need tutoring in DCs life to make it enriching.

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I did not assume anything. I asked it. And you won't know if your ES kid will later suffer burn out or not. You can't see the future, not I for that matter. But I think kids who are tutored in ES have a bigger chance of burn out later than those who are not. Does your kid ever get a whole day just to be a kid, learning to occupy himself, not having anything structured for him?

Show me the research.

Also - just because I teach my kid does not mean that my kid does not have a childhood, friends, downtime, unstructured time etc. I think you may be projecting here.

If I follow your logic to its conclusion then the kids who are not tutored/enriched etc are 1) low achievers 2) create discipline problems in school 3) are disruptive and disrespectful 4) have unlimited amount of TV viewing time 5) are being raised on junk food 6) have negligent parents.

Not assuming anything either - just curious to know if I just described your kid!

what am I projecting? No, you didn't describe my kid. DC is in HGC. Got in with no tutoring. DC watches TV, plays electronic games, eats some junk food, occasionally misbehaves, has gone to sleepovers, rides the bike way too fast sometimes, skiis down the slope way too fast for my liking. DCs not perfect...DC is a kid that is living his childhood. DC doesn't need tutoring in DCs life to make it enriching.

Oh my! This is so strange! Your kid does many of the same activities like many of the kids I know who gets tutored! Who would have thunk?

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I'm not concerned about your kids or what you're doing with them. Rather, your posts have such a condescending and judgmental ring to them, I was thinking it would kind of suck if our kids were on the same birthday party or social circuit and this is what you're thinking in your head all the time about the rest of us slacker parents. I don't need that in my life.

Whatever. I cannot do anything about your own insecurities. If another student's achievements makes you feel that you are a slacker mom or being judged (and that too in an anonymous forum where you do not know if anything I have said it true or false) then that is your problem. BTW - how would you know what anyone is thinking about you in their own heads? You do not get out much, do you?

So sorry. Such a packed social schedule the past few days I didn't see your response. I don't fear your child's achievements, or yours. What scares me about you is the idea that I might know you IRL, maybe have to socialize with you for our kids' sake. I just don't care to waste my time with people like you, and it's a pity that, living in MoCo, it is hard to avoid. But like I said, as an Asian mom myself, I just had to say something to dispel the caricature that people like you too often paint of Asian moms. And before you dismiss me as the kind of mom who "just" focuses on dance and sports classes, and who is just too clueless to apprehend all the faults you see in the inferior MCPS system, or too cheap and shortsighted to see the need to pay thousands to tutor my kids on the ES curriculum, I'm Ivy and my kids are HGC. I never had a tutor and never took a prep course and neither have my kids. If you want to win people over to your ideas about improving the curriculum, you should drop the condescending attitude.

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I'm not concerned about your kids or what you're doing with them. Rather, your posts have such a condescending and judgmental ring to them, I was thinking it would kind of suck if our kids were on the same birthday party or social circuit and this is what you're thinking in your head all the time about the rest of us slacker parents. I don't need that in my life.

Whatever. I cannot do anything about your own insecurities. If another student's achievements makes you feel that you are a slacker mom or being judged (and that too in an anonymous forum where you do not know if anything I have said it true or false) then that is your problem. BTW - how would you know what anyone is thinking about you in their own heads? You do not get out much, do you?

So sorry. Such a packed social schedule the past few days I didn't see your response. I don't fear your child's achievements, or yours. What scares me about you is the idea that I might know you IRL, maybe have to socialize with you for our kids' sake. I just don't care to waste my time with people like you, and it's a pity that, living in MoCo, it is hard to avoid. But like I said, as an Asian mom myself, I just had to say something to dispel the caricature that people like you too often paint of Asian moms. And before you dismiss me as the kind of mom who "just" focuses on dance and sports classes, and who is just too clueless to apprehend all the faults you see in the inferior MCPS system, or too cheap and shortsighted to see the need to pay thousands to tutor my kids on the ES curriculum, I'm Ivy and my kids are HGC. I never had a tutor and never took a prep course and neither have my kids. If you want to win people over to your ideas about improving the curriculum, you should drop the condescending attitude.

+1 Asian mom that doesn't make my already smart kids go to tutors. I'd use one if my kid needed help or actually ASKED to have one. So glad I am not the only Asian mom that thinks this way.

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Anonymous wrote:

I'm not concerned about your kids or what you're doing with them. Rather, your posts have such a condescending and judgmental ring to them, I was thinking it would kind of suck if our kids were on the same birthday party or social circuit and this is what you're thinking in your head all the time about the rest of us slacker parents. I don't need that in my life.

Whatever. I cannot do anything about your own insecurities. If another student's achievements makes you feel that you are a slacker mom or being judged (and that too in an anonymous forum where you do not know if anything I have said it true or false) then that is your problem. BTW - how would you know what anyone is thinking about you in their own heads? You do not get out much, do you?

So sorry. Such a packed social schedule the past few days I didn't see your response. I don't fear your child's achievements, or yours. What scares me about you is the idea that I might know you IRL, maybe have to socialize with you for our kids' sake. I just don't care to waste my time with people like you, and it's a pity that, living in MoCo, it is hard to avoid. But like I said, as an Asian mom myself, I just had to say something to dispel the caricature that people like you too often paint of Asian moms. And before you dismiss me as the kind of mom who "just" focuses on dance and sports classes, and who is just too clueless to apprehend all the faults you see in the inferior MCPS system, or too cheap and shortsighted to see the need to pay thousands to tutor my kids on the ES curriculum, I'm Ivy and my kids are HGC. I never had a tutor and never took a prep course and neither have my kids. If you want to win people over to your ideas about improving the curriculum, you should drop the condescending attitude.

Hi Ivy! Sour grapes? Your own insecurity is so entertaining! You need to attack others to feel good about yourself. Ha ha! At least my success does not depend on anyone else's failure!

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I did not assume anything. I asked it. And you won't know if your ES kid will later suffer burn out or not. You can't see the future, not I for that matter. But I think kids who are tutored in ES have a bigger chance of burn out later than those who are not. Does your kid ever get a whole day just to be a kid, learning to occupy himself, not having anything structured for him?

Show me the research.

Also - just because I teach my kid does not mean that my kid does not have a childhood, friends, downtime, unstructured time etc. I think you may be projecting here.

If I follow your logic to its conclusion then the kids who are not tutored/enriched etc are 1) low achievers 2) create discipline problems in school 3) are disruptive and disrespectful 4) have unlimited amount of TV viewing time 5) are being raised on junk food 6) have negligent parents.

Not assuming anything either - just curious to know if I just described your kid!

what am I projecting? No, you didn't describe my kid. DC is in HGC. Got in with no tutoring. DC watches TV, plays electronic games, eats some junk food, occasionally misbehaves, has gone to sleepovers, rides the bike way too fast sometimes, skiis down the slope way too fast for my liking. DCs not perfect...DC is a kid that is living his childhood. DC doesn't need tutoring in DCs life to make it enriching.

Oh my! This is so strange! Your kid does many of the same activities like many of the kids I know who gets tutored! Who would have thunk?

Yea, but those hours that your kid is in a tutor class, my kid is learning to occupy himself with activities, and probably having a bit more fun than your's, especially on a beautiful day. If your kid is riding his bike for 15min, my kid can do so for an 1hr. Love that he loves to ride his bike for so long with his friends.

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I did not assume anything. I asked it. And you won't know if your ES kid will later suffer burn out or not. You can't see the future, not I for that matter. But I think kids who are tutored in ES have a bigger chance of burn out later than those who are not. Does your kid ever get a whole day just to be a kid, learning to occupy himself, not having anything structured for him?

Show me the research.

Also - just because I teach my kid does not mean that my kid does not have a childhood, friends, downtime, unstructured time etc. I think you may be projecting here.

If I follow your logic to its conclusion then the kids who are not tutored/enriched etc are 1) low achievers 2) create discipline problems in school 3) are disruptive and disrespectful 4) have unlimited amount of TV viewing time 5) are being raised on junk food 6) have negligent parents.

Not assuming anything either - just curious to know if I just described your kid!

what am I projecting? No, you didn't describe my kid. DC is in HGC. Got in with no tutoring. DC watches TV, plays electronic games, eats some junk food, occasionally misbehaves, has gone to sleepovers, rides the bike way too fast sometimes, skiis down the slope way too fast for my liking. DCs not perfect...DC is a kid that is living his childhood. DC doesn't need tutoring in DCs life to make it enriching.

Oh my! This is so strange! Your kid does many of the same activities like many of the kids I know who gets tutored! Who would have thunk?

Yea, but those hours that your kid is in a tutor class, my kid is learning to occupy himself with activities, and probably having a bit more fun than your's, especially on a beautiful day. If your kid is riding his bike for 15min, my kid can do so for an 1hr. Love that he loves to ride his bike for so long with his friends.

Well! Your snowflake is peachy, you are Ivy, your kids are in HGC....you sound like an insufferable person...why the need to prove anything in an anonymous forum? You are beyond pathetic!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'm not concerned about your kids or what you're doing with them. Rather, your posts have such a condescending and judgmental ring to them, I was thinking it would kind of suck if our kids were on the same birthday party or social circuit and this is what you're thinking in your head all the time about the rest of us slacker parents. I don't need that in my life.

Whatever. I cannot do anything about your own insecurities. If another student's achievements makes you feel that you are a slacker mom or being judged (and that too in an anonymous forum where you do not know if anything I have said it true or false) then that is your problem. BTW - how would you know what anyone is thinking about you in their own heads? You do not get out much, do you?

So sorry. Such a packed social schedule the past few days I didn't see your response. I don't fear your child's achievements, or yours. What scares me about you is the idea that I might know you IRL, maybe have to socialize with you for our kids' sake. I just don't care to waste my time with people like you, and it's a pity that, living in MoCo, it is hard to avoid. But like I said, as an Asian mom myself, I just had to say something to dispel the caricature that people like you too often paint of Asian moms. And before you dismiss me as the kind of mom who "just" focuses on dance and sports classes, and who is just too clueless to apprehend all the faults you see in the inferior MCPS system, or too cheap and shortsighted to see the need to pay thousands to tutor my kids on the ES curriculum, I'm Ivy and my kids are HGC. I never had a tutor and never took a prep course and neither have my kids. If you want to win people over to your ideas about improving the curriculum, you should drop the condescending attitude.

+1 Asian mom that doesn't make my already smart kids go to tutors. I'd use one if my kid needed help or actually ASKED to have one. So glad I am not the only Asian mom that thinks this way.

Sorry - but Asian moms never call their kids "smart". You are are troll!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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I did not assume anything. I asked it. And you won't know if your ES kid will later suffer burn out or not. You can't see the future, not I for that matter. But I think kids who are tutored in ES have a bigger chance of burn out later than those who are not. Does your kid ever get a whole day just to be a kid, learning to occupy himself, not having anything structured for him?

Show me the research.

Also - just because I teach my kid does not mean that my kid does not have a childhood, friends, downtime, unstructured time etc. I think you may be projecting here.

If I follow your logic to its conclusion then the kids who are not tutored/enriched etc are 1) low achievers 2) create discipline problems in school 3) are disruptive and disrespectful 4) have unlimited amount of TV viewing time 5) are being raised on junk food 6) have negligent parents.

Not assuming anything either - just curious to know if I just described your kid!

what am I projecting? No, you didn't describe my kid. DC is in HGC. Got in with no tutoring. DC watches TV, plays electronic games, eats some junk food, occasionally misbehaves, has gone to sleepovers, rides the bike way too fast sometimes, skiis down the slope way too fast for my liking. DCs not perfect...DC is a kid that is living his childhood. DC doesn't need tutoring in DCs life to make it enriching.

Oh my! This is so strange! Your kid does many of the same activities like many of the kids I know who gets tutored! Who would have thunk?

Yea, but those hours that your kid is in a tutor class, my kid is learning to occupy himself with activities, and probably having a bit more fun than your's, especially on a beautiful day. If your kid is riding his bike for 15min, my kid can do so for an 1hr. Love that he loves to ride his bike for so long with his friends.

Well! Your snowflake is peachy, you are Ivy, your kids are in HGC....you sound like an insufferable person...why the need to prove anything in an anonymous forum? You are beyond pathetic!

Tit for tat, honey. Right back at ya

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'm not concerned about your kids or what you're doing with them. Rather, your posts have such a condescending and judgmental ring to them, I was thinking it would kind of suck if our kids were on the same birthday party or social circuit and this is what you're thinking in your head all the time about the rest of us slacker parents. I don't need that in my life.

Whatever. I cannot do anything about your own insecurities. If another student's achievements makes you feel that you are a slacker mom or being judged (and that too in an anonymous forum where you do not know if anything I have said it true or false) then that is your problem. BTW - how would you know what anyone is thinking about you in their own heads? You do not get out much, do you?

So sorry. Such a packed social schedule the past few days I didn't see your response. I don't fear your child's achievements, or yours. What scares me about you is the idea that I might know you IRL, maybe have to socialize with you for our kids' sake. I just don't care to waste my time with people like you, and it's a pity that, living in MoCo, it is hard to avoid. But like I said, as an Asian mom myself, I just had to say something to dispel the caricature that people like you too often paint of Asian moms. And before you dismiss me as the kind of mom who "just" focuses on dance and sports classes, and who is just too clueless to apprehend all the faults you see in the inferior MCPS system, or too cheap and shortsighted to see the need to pay thousands to tutor my kids on the ES curriculum, I'm Ivy and my kids are HGC. I never had a tutor and never took a prep course and neither have my kids. If you want to win people over to your ideas about improving the curriculum, you should drop the condescending attitude.

+1 Asian mom that doesn't make my already smart kids go to tutors. I'd use one if my kid needed help or actually ASKED to have one. So glad I am not the only Asian mom that thinks this way.

Sorry - but Asian moms never call their kids "smart". You are are troll!

Do you know every Asian mom in this world? Wow! I'm Asian, and I do call my kids smart because they are. I make sure they know they are not the smartest or the best and to be humble, but I also let them know this so they know to not give up on something because it is hard. It gives them some confidence. And how wonderful for them that their parents think they are smart and have no problems complimenting them.

My parents also had a hard time complimenting us as kids. They do so now as adults, but it would've been nice to hear a compliment or two as a kid, like when I brought home 5 As and 1B, and all they could do was focus on the B - in PE for god's sake. Parents that never compliment their kids may end up having kids that have issues like "I'm never good enough" when they get older. How sad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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I'm not concerned about your kids or what you're doing with them. Rather, your posts have such a condescending and judgmental ring to them, I was thinking it would kind of suck if our kids were on the same birthday party or social circuit and this is what you're thinking in your head all the time about the rest of us slacker parents. I don't need that in my life.

Whatever. I cannot do anything about your own insecurities. If another student's achievements makes you feel that you are a slacker mom or being judged (and that too in an anonymous forum where you do not know if anything I have said it true or false) then that is your problem. BTW - how would you know what anyone is thinking about you in their own heads? You do not get out much, do you?

So sorry. Such a packed social schedule the past few days I didn't see your response. I don't fear your child's achievements, or yours. What scares me about you is the idea that I might know you IRL, maybe have to socialize with you for our kids' sake. I just don't care to waste my time with people like you, and it's a pity that, living in MoCo, it is hard to avoid. But like I said, as an Asian mom myself, I just had to say something to dispel the caricature that people like you too often paint of Asian moms. And before you dismiss me as the kind of mom who "just" focuses on dance and sports classes, and who is just too clueless to apprehend all the faults you see in the inferior MCPS system, or too cheap and shortsighted to see the need to pay thousands to tutor my kids on the ES curriculum, I'm Ivy and my kids are HGC. I never had a tutor and never took a prep course and neither have my kids. If you want to win people over to your ideas about improving the curriculum, you should drop the condescending attitude.

+1 Asian mom that doesn't make my already smart kids go to tutors. I'd use one if my kid needed help or actually ASKED to have one. So glad I am not the only Asian mom that thinks this way.

Sorry - but Asian moms never call their kids "smart". You are are troll!

Do you know every Asian mom in this world? Wow! I'm Asian, and I do call my kids smart because they are. I make sure they know they are not the smartest or the best and to be humble, but I also let them know this so they know to not give up on something because it is hard. It gives them some confidence. And how wonderful for them that their parents think they are smart and have no problems complimenting them.

My parents also had a hard time complimenting us as kids. They do so now as adults, but it would've been nice to hear a compliment or two as a kid, like when I brought home 5 As and 1B, and all they could do was focus on the B - in PE for god's sake. Parents that never compliment their kids may end up having kids that have issues like "I'm never good enough" when they get older. How sad.

Why do I always find grown-up ABCs with such a huge chip on their shoulder. Oh my parents were never happy with my grades ...boo hoo hoo. God, grow up! Take care of your kids, raise them the way the way you want to. Why do you care about how others are raising their kids? Are you not falling in the same trap as your parents - of comparing you children with others?

[Anonymous]

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I'm not concerned about your kids or what you're doing with them. Rather, your posts have such a condescending and judgmental ring to them, I was thinking it would kind of suck if our kids were on the same birthday party or social circuit and this is what you're thinking in your head all the time about the rest of us slacker parents. I don't need that in my life.

Whatever. I cannot do anything about your own insecurities. If another student's achievements makes you feel that you are a slacker mom or being judged (and that too in an anonymous forum where you do not know if anything I have said it true or false) then that is your problem. BTW - how would you know what anyone is thinking about you in their own heads? You do not get out much, do you?

So sorry. Such a packed social schedule the past few days I didn't see your response. I don't fear your child's achievements, or yours. What scares me about you is the idea that I might know you IRL, maybe have to socialize with you for our kids' sake. I just don't care to waste my time with people like you, and it's a pity that, living in MoCo, it is hard to avoid. But like I said, as an Asian mom myself, I just had to say something to dispel the caricature that people like you too often paint of Asian moms. And before you dismiss me as the kind of mom who "just" focuses on dance and sports classes, and who is just too clueless to apprehend all the faults you see in the inferior MCPS system, or too cheap and shortsighted to see the need to pay thousands to tutor my kids on the ES curriculum, I'm Ivy and my kids are HGC. I never had a tutor and never took a prep course and neither have my kids. If you want to win people over to your ideas about improving the curriculum, you should drop the condescending attitude.

+1 Asian mom that doesn't make my already smart kids go to tutors. I'd use one if my kid needed help or actually ASKED to have one. So glad I am not the only Asian mom that thinks this way.

Sorry - but Asian moms never call their kids "smart". You are are troll!

Do you know every Asian mom in this world? Wow! I'm Asian, and I do call my kids smart because they are. I make sure they know they are not the smartest or the best and to be humble, but I also let them know this so they know to not give up on something because it is hard. It gives them some confidence. And how wonderful for them that their parents think they are smart and have no problems complimenting them.

My parents also had a hard time complimenting us as kids. They do so now as adults, but it would've been nice to hear a compliment or two as a kid, like when I brought home 5 As and 1B, and all they could do was focus on the B - in PE for god's sake. Parents that never compliment their kids may end up having kids that have issues like "I'm never good enough" when they get older. How sad.

Why do I always find grown-up ABCs with such a huge chip on their shoulder. Oh my parents were never happy with my grades ...boo hoo hoo. God, grow up! Take care of your kids, raise them the way the way you want to. Why do you care about how others are raising their kids? Are you not falling in the same trap as your parents - of comparing you children with others?

I absolutely don't care what others think, and I do take care of them the way I want, much to my mother's chagrin. I'm just sick of the stereotypical Asian tiger-moms. And don't kid yourself, all parents, including you, to some degree or another, compare their kids with others, both the good and the bad parts.

[Anonymous]

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I did not assume anything. I asked it. And you won't know if your ES kid will later suffer burn out or not. You can't see the future, not I for that matter. But I think kids who are tutored in ES have a bigger chance of burn out later than those who are not. Does your kid ever get a whole day just to be a kid, learning to occupy himself, not having anything structured for him?

Show me the research.

Also - just because I teach my kid does not mean that my kid does not have a childhood, friends, downtime, unstructured time etc. I think you may be projecting here.

If I follow your logic to its conclusion then the kids who are not tutored/enriched etc are 1) low achievers 2) create discipline problems in school 3) are disruptive and disrespectful 4) have unlimited amount of TV viewing time 5) are being raised on junk food 6) have negligent parents.

Not assuming anything either - just curious to know if I just described your kid!

what am I projecting? No, you didn't describe my kid. DC is in HGC. Got in with no tutoring. DC watches TV, plays electronic games, eats some junk food, occasionally misbehaves, has gone to sleepovers, rides the bike way too fast sometimes, skiis down the slope way too fast for my liking. DCs not perfect...DC is a kid that is living his childhood. DC doesn't need tutoring in DCs life to make it enriching.

Oh my! This is so strange! Your kid does many of the same activities like many of the kids I know who gets tutored! Who would have thunk?

Yea, but those hours that your kid is in a tutor class, my kid is learning to occupy himself with activities, and probably having a bit more fun than your's, especially on a beautiful day. If your kid is riding his bike for 15min, my kid can do so for an 1hr. Love that he loves to ride his bike for so long with his friends.

Well! Your snowflake is peachy, you are Ivy, your kids are in HGC....you sound like an insufferable person...why the need to prove anything in an anonymous forum? You are beyond pathetic!

That wasn't me ("Ivy"). There's at least one other Asian mom with well-adjusted kids who is posting here who finds *your* posts insufferable (and awfully defensive for someone who claims there is no point to proving anything on an anonymous forum).

[Anonymous]

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I'm not concerned about your kids or what you're doing with them. Rather, your posts have such a condescending and judgmental ring to them, I was thinking it would kind of suck if our kids were on the same birthday party or social circuit and this is what you're thinking in your head all the time about the rest of us slacker parents. I don't need that in my life.

Whatever. I cannot do anything about your own insecurities. If another student's achievements makes you feel that you are a slacker mom or being judged (and that too in an anonymous forum where you do not know if anything I have said it true or false) then that is your problem. BTW - how would you know what anyone is thinking about you in their own heads? You do not get out much, do you?

So sorry. Such a packed social schedule the past few days I didn't see your response. I don't fear your child's achievements, or yours. What scares me about you is the idea that I might know you IRL, maybe have to socialize with you for our kids' sake. I just don't care to waste my time with people like you, and it's a pity that, living in MoCo, it is hard to avoid. But like I said, as an Asian mom myself, I just had to say something to dispel the caricature that people like you too often paint of Asian moms. And before you dismiss me as the kind of mom who "just" focuses on dance and sports classes, and who is just too clueless to apprehend all the faults you see in the inferior MCPS system, or too cheap and shortsighted to see the need to pay thousands to tutor my kids on the ES curriculum, I'm Ivy and my kids are HGC. I never had a tutor and never took a prep course and neither have my kids. If you want to win people over to your ideas about improving the curriculum, you should drop the condescending attitude.

+1 Asian mom that doesn't make my already smart kids go to tutors. I'd use one if my kid needed help or actually ASKED to have one. So glad I am not the only Asian mom that thinks this way.

Sorry - but Asian moms never call their kids "smart". You are are troll!

Do you know every Asian mom in this world? Wow! I'm Asian, and I do call my kids smart because they are. I make sure they know they are not the smartest or the best and to be humble, but I also let them know this so they know to not give up on something because it is hard. It gives them some confidence. And how wonderful for them that their parents think they are smart and have no problems complimenting them.

My parents also had a hard time complimenting us as kids. They do so now as adults, but it would've been nice to hear a compliment or two as a kid, like when I brought home 5 As and 1B, and all they could do was focus on the B - in PE for god's sake. Parents that never compliment their kids may end up having kids that have issues like "I'm never good enough" when they get older. How sad.

Why do I always find grown-up ABCs with such a huge chip on their shoulder. Oh my parents were never happy with my grades ...boo hoo hoo. God, grow up! Take care of your kids, raise them the way the way you want to. Why do you care about how others are raising their kids? Are you not falling in the same trap as your parents - of comparing you children with others?

I absolutely don't care what others think, and I do take care of them the way I want, much to my mother's chagrin. I'm just sick of the stereotypical Asian tiger-moms. And don't kid yourself, all parents, including you, to some degree or another, compare their kids with others, both the good and the bad parts.

Obviously *you* care about how others are raising their kids, or you wouldn't be here trying to convince people that it's normal to pay $80-100/hr to tutor kids on an elementary school curriculum.