I want my husband to reimburse me for half the income I lost during maternity leave

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thank God that I married a male chauvinist... his pride will not allow me to contribute anything at all...so in the end it was "my (DW) money was my(DW) money, but his money was our money". He made significantly more than I did.

Plus...on the first birthday of each of my kids...I was given spectacular pieces of jewellery from this wonderful old-fashioned man.

So yeah...I feel appreciated and pampered and he gets everything he wants from me as well.

Owned. You should feel owned like chattel.

Regardless of whether you WOH, SAH, have joint finances or shared...it's a terrible situation to be in a "partnership" with someone who disrespects women - i.e., is a male chauvinist. Jewelry is not an adequate substitute for respect.

Your arrangement is gross. "Pampered"? Who are you?

Someone skinnier and more attractive than you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thank God that I married a male chauvinist... his pride will not allow me to contribute anything at all...so in the end it was "my (DW) money was my(DW) money, but his money was our money". He made significantly more than I did.

Plus...on the first birthday of each of my kids...I was given spectacular pieces of jewellery from this wonderful old-fashioned man.

So yeah...I feel appreciated and pampered and he gets everything he wants from me as well.

Owned. You should feel owned like chattel.

Regardless of whether you WOH, SAH, have joint finances or shared...it's a terrible situation to be in a "partnership" with someone who disrespects women - i.e., is a male chauvinist. Jewelry is not an adequate substitute for respect.

Your arrangement is gross. "Pampered"? Who are you?

Someone skinnier and more attractive than you.

Fortunately, I don't have to be skinny and attractive to have my husband respect and love me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thank God that I married a male chauvinist... his pride will not allow me to contribute anything at all...so in the end it was "my (DW) money was my(DW) money, but his money was our money". He made significantly more than I did.

Plus...on the first birthday of each of my kids...I was given spectacular pieces of jewellery from this wonderful old-fashioned man.

So yeah...I feel appreciated and pampered and he gets everything he wants from me as well.

Owned. You should feel owned like chattel.

Regardless of whether you WOH, SAH, have joint finances or shared...it's a terrible situation to be in a "partnership" with someone who disrespects women - i.e., is a male chauvinist. Jewelry is not an adequate substitute for respect.

Your arrangement is gross. "Pampered"? Who are you?

Someone skinnier and more attractive than you.

Whatever you need to tell yourself, hon. I think you've found the world's newest profession!

[Anonymous]

I married a guy who is a feminist but is also well-mannered and thoughtful (so i guess that makes him old-fashioned?). Men can be both. Very generous and supportive of me and our adult daughters in anything we want to do. Totally supportive of me working or not working or part-time. He does want to work and always has, so he would not have wanted to be a SAHD. so he has essentially supported our family for decades without a mention. Feels glad to do that. He is the least materialistic person I know. We have joint accounts. What's his is mine, and mine is his. I have a significant inheritance that we have not touched, but is there is the bank as our safety. But that is mutual as well.

This is what has worked for us. One day, we will both pass away and our nestegg that we have accrued/inherited will go to the next generation. And I will be grateful that I did not spend decades fighting over money or giving it a high value beyond what is necessary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I married a guy who is a feminist but is also well-mannered and thoughtful (so i guess that makes him old-fashioned?). Men can be both. Very generous and supportive of me and our adult daughters in anything we want to do. Totally supportive of me working or not working or part-time. He does want to work and always has, so he would not have wanted to be a SAHD. so he has essentially supported our family for decades without a mention. Feels glad to do that. He is the least materialistic person I know. We have joint accounts. What's his is mine, and mine is his. I have a significant inheritance that we have not touched, but is there is the bank as our safety. But that is mutual as well.

This is what has worked for us. One day, we will both pass away and our nestegg that we have accrued/inherited will go to the next generation. And I will be grateful that I did not spend decades fighting over money or giving it a high value beyond what is necessary.

what kind of man calls himself a "feminist"...do you ever fantasize about a real man?

[Anonymous]

I called him a feminist. He would not think of that as a word to use. Not sure he even knows what it means. But he is. It is deeply ingrained in his nature to be fair, nonjudgmental and supportive of the choices of women (and men.). So yes, that describes him well, which is why I chose that word.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I married a guy who is a feminist but is also well-mannered and thoughtful (so i guess that makes him old-fashioned?). Men can be both. Very generous and supportive of me and our adult daughters in anything we want to do. Totally supportive of me working or not working or part-time. He does want to work and always has, so he would not have wanted to be a SAHD. so he has essentially supported our family for decades without a mention. Feels glad to do that. He is the least materialistic person I know. We have joint accounts. What's his is mine, and mine is his. I have a significant inheritance that we have not touched, but is there is the bank as our safety. But that is mutual as well.

This is what has worked for us. One day, we will both pass away and our nestegg that we have accrued/inherited will go to the next generation. And I will be grateful that I did not spend decades fighting over money or giving it a high value beyond what is necessary.

+1 Same here, (except for the significant inheritance part)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I married a guy who is a feminist but is also well-mannered and thoughtful (so i guess that makes him old-fashioned?). Men can be both. Very generous and supportive of me and our adult daughters in anything we want to do. Totally supportive of me working or not working or part-time. He does want to work and always has, so he would not have wanted to be a SAHD. so he has essentially supported our family for decades without a mention. Feels glad to do that. He is the least materialistic person I know. We have joint accounts. What's his is mine, and mine is his. I have a significant inheritance that we have not touched, but is there is the bank as our safety. But that is mutual as well.

This is what has worked for us. One day, we will both pass away and our nestegg that we have accrued/inherited will go to the next generation. And I will be grateful that I did not spend decades fighting over money or giving it a high value beyond what is necessary.

what kind of man calls himself a "feminist"...do you ever fantasize about a real man?

What kind of man doesn't call himself a feminist? Really, what kind of piggish guy openly claims that women aren't deserving of the same respect as men?