Sorry but your stinky eye won't make my crying toddler shut up...

[Anonymous]

People, can you give the OP a frinkin break????. It would be a lie if we were never in OP's situationof having a crying child in public atleast a few times right? Are we never supposed to go on with our lives because of this? Every single time we need to go somewhere or do something, we need to make sure the kid never opens his mouth? Come on, most of us are parents, we have been there too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am confused as to why OP has no food and apparently nothing to eat on in her house but her family is treated like regulars at their Chipolte. If they recognize you coming through the door and prepare your "usual" order- clearly you are spending way too much time there.

don't you have a favorite restaurant too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you're absolutely right and I'm not arguing that. my main question was, what goes on on people's head when they see a helpless mom trying to stop a child who's misbehaving and give them an ugly look or make nasty comments? seeing the embarrassed parent struggling is not bad enough forthem?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, your mistake is that in this one incident, you taught your daughter the lesson that if she screams and yells, mommy will run around like a crazy person trying to give her what she wants. In my opinion that is a BIG mistake. In your shoes, the minute my child started kicking up, I would have taken her outside, told her firmly that she is not allowed to scream like that, and that she could have the ipod when she was quiet and prepared to behave. If you don't start this kind of discipline with a toddler, it won't magically happen at age 4 or 14. You have to start laying the foundation for her respecting you NOW. Perhaps the look you got was not just because your toddler was screaming, but because you let it go on while you tried to appease her. As a parent, my first priority was always to teach my kids the lesson that they could not act up, particularly in public. I only had to do this 2 or 3 times with each of my kids (the only place it is hard to execute is an airplane) before I could put a stop to any misbehavior with a mere threat of "are we going to have to leave this store?" and now they are two of the most nicely behaved kids you can imagine. At 10 and 7, they understand that whining or having a fit will not work EVER. Don't negotiate with terrorists!

op here. this is usually the approach i take. unfortunately, at that moment my priority was shut her up the fastest way possible so the infant would not start screaming too. it took me a long while to put him to sleep so i could eat my food. once we have the routine with 2 kids figured out i'll definitely go back to the right approach. for now, getting fed is a priority. sorry i had to put patrons through this and the fact that i was embarrassed with her behavior should tell this ugly guy something but clearly some people (like we see here all the time) have no empathy.

even worse, they can't relate with people going through something they faced themselves. and that is really really disturbing.

OP, I know it is no use trying to explain to you why you are getting the response you are but here goes. I would bet a lot of parents have been in your shoes, stuff happens and kids get upset. Your first post was somewhat harmless but your other responses have a huge sense of entitlement. My favorite part about your post is that this man who didn't enjoy your screaming children making him ugly and how one day he will feel sorry- not everyone wants to have kids, if he gave your child the stink eye for getting upset after 30 seconds I am gonna guess he will never be in your shoes.

I think there are plenty of tired and stressed parents here who have more empathy for the people around them and therefore do not take their children out to eat. My best friend (single mom) hasn't been able to enjoy a meal at a restaurant for 2 years now. I personally do not have kids but I would not give a mom of a upset child the stink eye unless I thought they were doing nothing to correct the situation (or worse running around escalating it.) You say you were embarrassed and also upset, do you think that perhaps you were making a scene worse?

My point was it seems you are unaware or don't care about your behavior- you act like it was the way the child was acting that bothered this man- after reading this whole thread I believe it was a reaction to you acting like you owned the place. I think when most people see helpless moms, even when they are not parents themselves feel some empathy for them, unless of course there are being PITAs themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am confused as to why OP has no food and apparently nothing to eat on in her house but her family is treated like regulars at their Chipolte. If they recognize you coming through the door and prepare your "usual" order- clearly you are spending way too much time there.

don't you have a favorite restaurant too?

yes I do, but not to the point where eating at home is "not an option"

[Anonymous]

ohhhhh ok now I get it. but honestly I'm responsible by my behavior and my child's behavior. unfortunately I can't control what other people think. I did my best, too bad it was not good enough. life goes on.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you're absolutely right and I'm not arguing that. my main question was, what goes on on people's head when they see a helpless mom trying to stop a child who's misbehaving and give them an ugly look or make nasty comments? seeing the embarrassed parent struggling is not bad enough forthem?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, your mistake is that in this one incident, you taught your daughter the lesson that if she screams and yells, mommy will run around like a crazy person trying to give her what she wants. In my opinion that is a BIG mistake. In your shoes, the minute my child started kicking up, I would have taken her outside, told her firmly that she is not allowed to scream like that, and that she could have the ipod when she was quiet and prepared to behave. If you don't start this kind of discipline with a toddler, it won't magically happen at age 4 or 14. You have to start laying the foundation for her respecting you NOW. Perhaps the look you got was not just because your toddler was screaming, but because you let it go on while you tried to appease her. As a parent, my first priority was always to teach my kids the lesson that they could not act up, particularly in public. I only had to do this 2 or 3 times with each of my kids (the only place it is hard to execute is an airplane) before I could put a stop to any misbehavior with a mere threat of "are we going to have to leave this store?" and now they are two of the most nicely behaved kids you can imagine. At 10 and 7, they understand that whining or having a fit will not work EVER. Don't negotiate with terrorists!

op here. this is usually the approach i take. unfortunately, at that moment my priority was shut her up the fastest way possible so the infant would not start screaming too. it took me a long while to put him to sleep so i could eat my food. once we have the routine with 2 kids figured out i'll definitely go back to the right approach. for now, getting fed is a priority. sorry i had to put patrons through this and the fact that i was embarrassed with her behavior should tell this ugly guy something but clearly some people (like we see here all the time) have no empathy.

even worse, they can't relate with people going through something they faced themselves. and that is really really disturbing.

OP, I know it is no use trying to explain to you why you are getting the response you are but here goes. I would bet a lot of parents have been in your shoes, stuff happens and kids get upset. Your first post was somewhat harmless but your other responses have a huge sense of entitlement. My favorite part about your post is that this man who didn't enjoy your screaming children making him ugly and how one day he will feel sorry- not everyone wants to have kids, if he gave your child the stink eye for getting upset after 30 seconds I am gonna guess he will never be in your shoes.

I think there are plenty of tired and stressed parents here who have more empathy for the people around them and therefore do not take their children out to eat. My best friend (single mom) hasn't been able to enjoy a meal at a restaurant for 2 years now. I personally do not have kids but I would not give a mom of a upset child the stink eye unless I thought they were doing nothing to correct the situation (or worse running around escalating it.) You say you were embarrassed and also upset, do you think that perhaps you were making a scene worse?

My point was it seems you are unaware or don't care about your behavior- you act like it was the way the child was acting that bothered this man- after reading this whole thread I believe it was a reaction to you acting like you owned the place. I think when most people see helpless moms, even when they are not parents themselves feel some empathy for them, unless of course there are being PITAs themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People, can you give the OP a frinkin break????. It would be a lie if we were never in OP's situationof having a crying child in public atleast a few times right? Are we never supposed to go on with our lives because of this? Every single time we need to go somewhere or do something, we need to make sure the kid never opens his mouth? Come on, most of us are parents, we have been there too.

Have you read the thread? OP just said she is having fun...

I think there was more sympathy for here plight before she revealed herself as a crazy person!

[Anonymous]

I think OP's bridal bouquet was stolen, and she's still cranky about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People, can you give the OP a frinkin break????. It would be a lie if we were never in OP's situationof having a crying child in public atleast a few times right? Are we never supposed to go on with our lives because of this? Every single time we need to go somewhere or do something, we need to make sure the kid never opens his mouth? Come on, most of us are parents, we have been there too.

Have you read the thread? OP just said she is having fun...

I think there was more sympathy for here plight before she revealed herself as a crazy person!

i'm having fun with the ladies getting all worked up with something that doesn't affect them. i appreciate those who can empathize though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think OP's bridal bouquet was stolen, and she's still cranky about that.

wha?

[Anonymous]

Why are you ladies still arguing with OP? Do you realize that she is bored and you are making her day? I declare her the winner in this battle. She's a crazy b*tch but she is winning.

[Anonymous]

Who will write the comment #200! Go OP Go!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People, can you give the OP a frinkin break????. It would be a lie if we were never in OP's situationof having a crying child in public atleast a few times right? Are we never supposed to go on with our lives because of this? Every single time we need to go somewhere or do something, we need to make sure the kid never opens his mouth? Come on, most of us are parents, we have been there too.

It's Chipotle.

not 1789

She's the one making the big shit out of this deal - not us. If I'm at some fast food place and a kid is acting up, who gives a rat's ass. But she's so bent out of shape b/c some patron gave her the wrong look.

OP's a moron.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think OP's bridal bouquet was stolen, and she's still cranky about that.

wha?

You are a DCUM virgin.

[Anonymous]

Anyone going to Chipotle soon?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think OP's bridal bouquet was stolen, and she's still cranky about that.

wha?

You are a DCUM virgin.

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