Vent about my wedding last weekend...
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Thank you all who all that came to my wedding last weekend. It was definitely they most beautiful day of my life and only because YOU were there!!!
Now, that I know that most of you here were not there let me vent... Hm... let's start with the cake... chocolate was good but I ORDERED DARK FOREST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! the chocolate filling with chocolate cake was just too much! The ribbons around it were supposed to be RIBBONS not fondant strips - it looked HORRIBLE!!!!!!!!!!!!! didn't you have any kind of tool to help you at least to cut it straight???????? And the layer of fondant on top of the cake was so thin that I could see through it!! oh well... it could be worse, at least the cake didn't fall or melted... I've seen terrible wedding cake tales... LOL To the person who delivered the flowers - remember that huge box I gave you and asked you to bring with you to the reception site? THAT BOX WAS SUPPOSED TO BE DELIVERED WITH THE FLOWERS!!!! all my chair sashes, the kids prizes, my bouquet support for the sweet heart table, the decoration for the tables... EVERYTHING WAS THERE!!! Thanks heaven nobody knew we were supposed to have glow sticks and disposable cameras for the kids to play with... nobody expected chair decorations or sparkling things all over the tables... *sigh* now, last but not least... TO THE "BEACH" WHO TOOK MY BOUQUET... If I were not a true Christian, if my lord Jesus Christ didn't asked me to love my enemy I would curse you NOW! I would curse you for the rest of your life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Why in this world you took my bouquet???? it was sitting there on MY TABLE! Who in this planet takes the bride's bouquet? oh well... I sure didn't do things how the tradition asks - instead of trowing the "throw bouquet" I gave it to my dear friend because we promised to each other that whoever got married first would do that. Did you get jealous? is that why you took my bouquet???? I'm in tears right now... I had the preservation all set up to save it and take it to my home country to show to my grandma and my mom during my honeymoon but BECAUSE OF YOU all they'll see is pictures... I feel like screaming right now!!! *siiiiiiiiiigh* Now, to the very nice women here... all the classy ladies that know it all about etiquette... How do I ask politely if someone took it AS A MISTAKE to return it to me so I can preserve it ASAP??????????? TIA |
Anonymous
| get over it, bridezilla |
Anonymous
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I got married during a flood. In Pennsylvania. As I stood on the dance floor, explaning to the fire/rescue people why I would like to cut the cake before being evacuated, one thing occurred to me:
Gee, I'm really glad I didn't sweat the small stuff, because NOTHING worked out for me, except holding the actual ceremony in front of family and friends (and a river headed to 12 feet over flood stage). That was the important part, nothing else mattered. It is disappointing when things don't go as planned, but maybe you're putting too much emotion into small details. |
Anonymous
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I'd say relax about the cake and the flowers. Trust me, I loved my wedding, but on the backend learned about multiple problems that arose. It happens.
As for the bouquet, I sympathize. Mine is preserved and hangs in our home, so I know that's special. Is there any chance that it was picked up by an overly ambitious waitstaff/cleaning crew that was clearing tables as the reception was winding down? Otherwise, maybe a quick, kind non-accusatory email to female family members and bridesmaids "hey ladies, any chance anyone picked up my bouquet for me? I accidentally left it behind and am hoping someone picked it up for me". |
Anonymous
OP here: sweet heart... I had several chances to be the Bridezilla but I kept my cool. All my vendors complimented my behavior and they were surprised to see how I handled and overcame all the issues we had during planning - by the way I didn't have a wedding planner. We all developed a relationship and several got my information to pass along regarding my profession. Anyway, I'm only venting online because I know only 1 DCUM user who was there and honestly, being a parent of 4 children she has no time to come and check the OFF TOPIC section of this website. My vendors will never read it and I didn't even addressed this issue to my, now, husband. You all should be honored to be the only ones to know about the frustrations I'm facing. And sure soon my mom and grandma (who I don't see in person since 2003) will soon know why they won't get to see my wedding flowers... 
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Anonymous
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OP again... Thank you PPs for the kind words.
I'm so sorry for the flood during your wedding =[ I sure wanted an outside wedding and to avoid all the stress that goes with it I sucked it up and had inside... To the other PP, you're right... I ate the cake, it was good and the kids had fun anyway... Thank you for the suggestion on the wording of the email... It does sound very casual and cute. Much better than what I would write being so sad... Thanks again!!! |
Anonymous
I don't know about you guys, but I definitely feel honored and special that queenzilla has shared her vent with me. Why would you leave a box containing all your decorations to be brought for someone who has nothing to do with those decorations? Doesn't seem too smart. |
Anonymous
| I'm guessing that about now your husband is looking into divorce lawyers. |
Anonymous
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Sadly, wedding vendors too often fail to come through. They must not be anticipating repeat business. Guests can also be insensitive.
Sorry about your negative experience. |
Anonymous
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Op you are really over reacting. I was married in TX. I planned a wedding from here in DC with no or little help. Things just happen. You have to let it go.
Looking back on my wedding which was in Feb., I was so grateful my grandfather was there and was still able to marry us. He passed away in June so that to me was the most important. The cake/flowers are just things not the real important stuff. Move on and enjoy your new life. |
Anonymous
OP again... I don't know if you noticed... I addressed the nice and elegant women in this website. Clearly you're not one of us. You can now resume to your activity or crawl back under your rock. Thanks. |
Anonymous
Actually, you said "you ALL should be honored." |
Anonymous
I think you missed the post where I said I DIDN'T ADDRESS HIM WITH SUCH ISSUES!!! He was not part of the wedding planning and I promised I would not bug him with issues regarding it afterward. I'm keeping my word that's why I'm here. Wanna join the other PP under her rock? |
Anonymous
You all the ladies addressed on the ORIGINAL POST. Sorry for the lack of details. I'm stressed 8) |
Anonymous
| Mm..Why did you have to promise not to bug him? That is odd..I was so happy to be married I could have cared less about all the little details. Move on.. |