
Is he European? I would not be offended by this as I also view fitness clothes as appropriate for the gym only. It does not take more time to put on dressy pants than to put on yoga pants. I think it is great that he is able to communicate to you his values because it will let you to decide if this corresponds with your values and priorities. By the way, Antoine Arnault also expresses his opinion on his wife's outfits and I don't see this as a big deal. |
If my wife had a tight butt I’d be fine with her wearing yoga pants to a coffee shop. But after three kids and being 52 it would not be her best look. However, I do love her butt and with the right clothes her butt looks very good. If you can pull it off all power to you but not many women can. |
-1 Your thinking and the PP's thinking is outdated. It is more recognized now that obesity is not a character flaw but a complex disorder with impairments in metabolism and regulation. There are certainly characteristics of addiction associated with it for some. If it were as easy as 'just lose weight' or 'stop eating' or 'exercise more', it wouldn't be the problem that it is today. Instead of being judgmental about it and considering it a character flaw, you should do some self-education to learn more about it. Being discriminated for a weight issue that is beyond your control is no different than discriminating against someone because of color, age or disability. I feel compelled to point out that skin color is not the characteristic associated with people of color. Ever hear of the 'resume test'? Ever hear a black person 'code switch'? Many people of color to present themselves differently depending on the environment. They know they are discriminated against for more than their skin color. How much do you spend on anti-aging products? You cannot change your chronological age but there's a whole anti-aging industry geared towards looking younger. If only people were judged on the content of their character rather than physical appearance..... |
As a kid, teachers gave us well-intentioned lessons about not discriminating. But I remember being thrown by them saying something like "the only difference between black and white people is the color of their skin." Even in grade school, I recognized that wasn't true. Why could I tell someone was probably black over the phone or on the radio if only skin color was different? |
Lol, you must be one helluva dawg! |
Uh, ok |
Wow, so many trolls have taken over these forums they just aren't very useful anymore. |
+1 If your bf showed up in sweats, would you be flattered that he was so comfortable around you? If yes, it's okay for you to wear the same. If not, and you think he should make more of an effort, then he has a point. |
Ok Eurotrash. Some of us don’t actually think “dressy pants” are appropriate for a Saturday bookstore visit. And why would I care what some French businessman thinks? The fact is, a man who thinks he has oversigh over his parter’s outfits has control issues in other areas. |
Most boyfriends don’t even know wtf yoga pants are. And DC isn’t a dressy place in the winter or summer, or ever. Troll |
Bring back things and those see through stretch lululemons. |
The male equivalent is more like khakis or cargo pants. But I wouldn’t mind any sort of athleisure as long as it fit and was clean and not too worn. I am very active on the weekends and wouldn’t wear my “dressy pants” to the bookstore, lol, because I would have walked or biked there, and may in fact be headed to yoga or the gym after. |
Well, I read all 13 pages and this thread went in several directions. Speaking as a guy, I'd be interested in exactly how upset he was or how snotty his words were. On the surface this sounds bad but I'll be honest and open myself up to the slings and arrows on this board. My wife never wears these outside of the house, but I'll admit I wouldn't be comfortable with her wearing them out in public all the time, and absolutely because I don't like the idea of her goods being shown off to other men. Now, before the the women here start firing away. My wife and I have a great marriage and among other things, we're open and communicate very well. If the above situation occurred, I'd simply tell her I'm not comfortable and this is why. I have no problem being vulnerable. Also to be clear, I'm not demanding she change her behavior, it's her choice after the conversation happens. if your boyfriend was angrier than that during the conversation, folks here are probably right that you need to think about moving on. But if he was simply explaining his preference and did so without anger...well, men can have preferences too, it doesn't always have to be about narcissism and control, and I'm not sure why that conclusion is jumped to so frequently. No matter how good someone looks in those pants, some of them are so thin and stretched that in the right light, they're basically see through, and your boyfriend may not be comfortable with that. Again, it can be as simple as preferences. Men might prefer to not date a woman whose fashion choices are practically an OnlyFans website. Without having heard the conversation, I have no idea what the tone was, but it might be a lot less malicious than people here are making it out to be. Having lurked here long enough, let me just head off the inevitable. - Yes, I make a lot of money, about twice as much as my wife. No, I do not care and don't use this as a control thing, she also has a great career and we're equal partners. - Yes, I am over six feet tall. - Yes, I help with the housework. - Yes, I help with our kids. In fact, due to my flexible schedule, I actually do significantly more of the child related activities than she does. - Yes, I am in reasonably good shape. No, I am not a hypocrite, I don't dress to attract female attention while expecting different of her. - Yes, everything works. We have sex probably four times a week on average and I'm pretty giving, making sure she's taken care of. I probably missed one but that seems to be the list of ways men get attacked here. While all of the the above is true, it was mostly tongue in cheek so please don't get your blood pressure up responding to me. TL;DR - men can also have opinions/preferences if shared respectfully, it isn't always abusive behavior. |
And that is totally fine! Just dont wear them if they make you feel uncomfortable ![]() ![]() ![]() |
This is another reason why men are preferring foreign women
Foreign women, rich or poor, don’t wear athleisure 24/7 Euro, Asian, Latin American, African — it’s just not done |