Friend is "hitting" on my husband who's okay with it? Should I be concerned.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s nice you guys invited her, and nice to hear others invite their single friends/neighbors on trips. I’m a single (divorced) mother. I’ll do dinners and outings with my married friends (our kids are friends) but they have always kept me out of trips. One even mentioned it was “delicate” to have me around their husbands. It’s Disappointing as I’m usually focused on my female friends/the wives and I have always made sure to have zero ambiguous behaviors with the husbands.

There's a whole trope about the divorced moms looking to poach married men. Seems that was what OP was looking at when they wrote this (troll) post.

Listen, if your man is happy, he's not going anywhere. Certainly not with a neighbor over a text when he knows he's married to someone as high-strung as OP. OP needs to tend her own garden and mind her own business, not start drama for the sake of drama, which is all this whole thread about nothing happening seems to be.

And all the ladies who are so paranoid they think OP is in the right should review their own marriages and fortify. This level of communication shouldn't make anyone in a stable relationship feel at all insecure.

Sounds like you’re saying that if OP’s marriage is good, she has nothing to worry about. Does that imply that if it’s not good, she does and has a reason to be insecure about the situation? I think it is highly likely that OP’s husband isn’t particularly happy in the marriage so doesn’t it make sense for her to be worried?

If this is the case, the problem is in OP's house, and has nothing to do with the neighbor. OP is projecting. Hard. All her insecurities are manifesting as problems.

Sitting next to someone isn't a problem.
Texting isn't a problem.
Talking to someone isn't a problem.

OP made those things a problem because she has a problem. She's either insecure, doesn't trust her spouse, knows he's likely to cheat, or some other issue, and instead of taking care of it at the root, she's blaming a neighbor who did literally nothing wrong. She may have even pulled this neighbor into her drama just to have someone to blame (who invites a neighbor on vacation?).

So then you agree that it makes sense for her to ask her husband not to text because there might be a deeper issue in the marriage that could lead to infidelity.

No, that's making her husband responsible for her problem. He's not doing anything wrong. Why should he stop? Because she's paranoid/neurotic/drama-prone? Nope. She needs to do her own work, go to therapy, journal out her feelings, and deal with herself. It's her problem. Nobody else's.

And if she decides she doesn't trust her spouse, she should get a divorce rather than trying to control him. You can only control yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s nice you guys invited her, and nice to hear others invite their single friends/neighbors on trips. I’m a single (divorced) mother. I’ll do dinners and outings with my married friends (our kids are friends) but they have always kept me out of trips. One even mentioned it was “delicate” to have me around their husbands. It’s Disappointing as I’m usually focused on my female friends/the wives and I have always made sure to have zero ambiguous behaviors with the husbands.

There's a whole trope about the divorced moms looking to poach married men. Seems that was what OP was looking at when they wrote this (troll) post.

Listen, if your man is happy, he's not going anywhere. Certainly not with a neighbor over a text when he knows he's married to someone as high-strung as OP. OP needs to tend her own garden and mind her own business, not start drama for the sake of drama, which is all this whole thread about nothing happening seems to be.

And all the ladies who are so paranoid they think OP is in the right should review their own marriages and fortify. This level of communication shouldn't make anyone in a stable relationship feel at all insecure.

Sounds like you’re saying that if OP’s marriage is good, she has nothing to worry about. Does that imply that if it’s not good, she does and has a reason to be insecure about the situation? I think it is highly likely that OP’s husband isn’t particularly happy in the marriage so doesn’t it make sense for her to be worried?

Has nothing to do with the state of the marriage. Even a good guy in a bad marriage isn’t go to cross that line.

This. A good man would never, and a man who would doesn't usually have very high standards about with whom.

[jsteele]

The original poster is a troll and a sock puppet.