Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:As to the poster who decries those of us who refuse to offer unqualified sympathy - sorry, but I DO have unqualified sympathy for the children whose lives are cut short, often brutally, by the negligence of their parents.
Dead children get my sympathy, not the parents who got them dead by parenting failure.
The woman in Arizona who ran her six year old over with an outboard motorboat, cutting her to pieces and ending her life because six adults couldn’t keep track of six children while boating on the water is a great example. Nearly all of these horrific tragedies ending in the death or disabling or permanent disfigurement of a child are the result of negligent parenting or guardianship of the child by one or more responsible adults who didn’t act responsibly. It’s hard to care for kids and keep them safe from the kinds of risks their brains are too undeveloped to appreciate. But many many people manage it and those who don’t are in almost all cases negligent. It makes me angry that children as so undervalued in our society that we write off justice for them by declaring the parent’s guilt and grief as punishment enough.
If society tells you it’s sad and tragic but ultimately okay to negligently kill your kid, what disincentive is there that might compel you to be a better parent in future? The Miller family is the example of how a negligent parent continues being negligent. Nobody even made her take a parenting course after her unattended toddler drowned, I’m sure. And then she nearly suffocated all her other kids to death.
I'm the poster you are railing at. I started posting in this thread because of all of the posts agreeing that the parents here are cursed because of what has befallen their children.
While I strenuously disagree with your point generally, it is telling that THIS is what you object to and not the posters cackling with glee about Bode and Morgan Miller getting hit by karma in the form of a child dying. My rage started because people seemed to think that
they deserved the death of a three year old and ignoring the fact that the child is the one who was hurt there. So focused on the parents actions they were blind to the fact that an actual literal real life human child died and the loss of her life impacted no one more than HER.
So feel proud of yourself for being such a wonderful parent and judgmental person but question why you hold such viciousness for parents but seem to fall into the same trap others do of having your bloodthirst for guilt and shame be greater than your awareness of the children impacted by these events.