Birthday party etiquette and siblings

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - Yes its drop off! Frankly, this is the first drop off party we have ever been to....host family says parents are welcome to drop off or stay. I am not totally comfortable with dropping off (yet) and we are still getting to know the families in the class but I am sure i can find someone to keep an eye on him.

Drop off or don’t go. They said ‘drop off’ and you’re like ‘no I’ll stay with my younger kid that was specifically no invited.’ You’ve got to be kidding me. You were putting the host in a bad spot and now everyone’s gonna think the host allowed your kid, but not theirs and think the host is the bad person when it’s you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I attended a party with my 8 year old this year where a mother brought a younger (autistic and nonverbal) sibling along. When the invited child tried to give his younger sibling a treat bag the host mom got really upset and said there were only enough for invited guests, so he quickly returned it. It was awful and made me realize it’s better to choose cheaper party options that are more forgiving to uninvited siblings than expensive elements that are extremely limited.

That’s on the mother of the 2 kids. She should have corrected her older kid and not put the host mom in that situation. The mom should’ve told her kids. These are just for the inside and guess it’s sweet. You want your sibling to have one and you can share yours. Quite frankly, she should’ve told the child that before hand and eight-year-old child should’ve known that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I attended a party with my 8 year old this year where a mother brought a younger (autistic and nonverbal) sibling along. When the invited child tried to give his younger sibling a treat bag the host mom got really upset and said there were only enough for invited guests, so he quickly returned it. It was awful and made me realize it’s better to choose cheaper party options that are more forgiving to uninvited siblings than expensive elements that are extremely limited.

That’s on the mother of the 2 kids. She should have corrected her older kid and not put the host mom in that situation. The mom should’ve told her kids. These are just for the inside and guess it’s sweet. You want your sibling to have one and you can share yours. Quite frankly, she should’ve told the child that before hand and eight-year-old child should’ve known that.

Doesn’t everyone have extra treat bags? My goodness. We must run in different circles because there are always a few extra treat bags available for younger siblings, etc. How embarrassing for the host mom to lose her sh!t over something so small. And for a younger disabled kid at that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I attended a party with my 8 year old this year where a mother brought a younger (autistic and nonverbal) sibling along. When the invited child tried to give his younger sibling a treat bag the host mom got really upset and said there were only enough for invited guests, so he quickly returned it. It was awful and made me realize it’s better to choose cheaper party options that are more forgiving to uninvited siblings than expensive elements that are extremely limited.

That’s on the mother of the 2 kids. She should have corrected her older kid and not put the host mom in that situation. The mom should’ve told her kids. These are just for the inside and guess it’s sweet. You want your sibling to have one and you can share yours. Quite frankly, she should’ve told the child that before hand and eight-year-old child should’ve known that.

Doesn’t everyone have extra treat bags? My goodness. We must run in different circles because there are always a few extra treat bags available for younger siblings, etc. How embarrassing for the host mom to lose her sh!t over something so small. And for a younger disabled kid at that!

That's nice, assuming your bags are appropriate for younger siblings. I'd rather my 6yo not be given an extra bag for his 3yo sibling that has stuff like hard candy , gum, and toys with tiny parts. This has happened a few times and it's nice gesture but I end up just throwing it out because it's not age appropriate and my 6yo doesn't need yet more candy....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - Yes its drop off! Frankly, this is the first drop off party we have ever been to....host family says parents are welcome to drop off or stay. I am not totally comfortable with dropping off (yet) and we are still getting to know the families in the class but I am sure i can find someone to keep an eye on him.

Drop off or don’t go. They said ‘drop off’ and you’re like ‘no I’ll stay with my younger kid that was specifically no invited.’ You’ve got to be kidding me. You were putting the host in a bad spot and now everyone’s gonna think the host allowed your kid, but not theirs and think the host is the bad person when it’s you.

It's a public venue with 100s of other kids running around. The parent specifically said that she wasn't planning to go in the party room. My goodness, overreact much?