Why are older men attracted to very young women when they are older?

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Anonymous wrote:Middle aged guy here. When I first became attracted to women, I found women my age attractive. So at 13 I thought 13 year olds were attractive. By the time I was 16, I thought 13 was too young. When I was 20, I thought 16 year olds were too young and not attractive. This continued until about age 23/24. 23 & 24 year olds continued to look attractive even as I aged and even today.

I wouldn't want to try to date someone that age now, but in terms of sexual attraction it is definitely there.

I'm a bit different, when I was a kid I was always most attracted to girls few years older. When I was 11 I liked the 13-14 year old girls, when I was 15 I really liked 18-20 year old women. I was always kind of grossed out by girls even 1 grade below me during my school years. Then once I hit adulthood I began becoming attracted to younger women, and I am still very attracted to women in the 18-25 range as a guy in his early 30's.

Same here and it doesn't change as you get older. Women ages 18-25 are peak attractive. It just is. Of course, there is more to being attractive than physical appearance.

Some women. I looked like a complete child from 18 to 25. My peak attractiveness level was about age 27 to 34; and I’m only stopping at 34 because I got pregnant…otherwise I would say 27-37.

First of all, no 25-year-old looks like a “complete child.” And second, unless you lost a ton of weight at age 25, you are probably misperceiving things. I have NEVER seen a woman who was more attractive at 37 than at 23 unless there was some significant weight loss involved.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Middle aged guy here. When I first became attracted to women, I found women my age attractive. So at 13 I thought 13 year olds were attractive. By the time I was 16, I thought 13 was too young. When I was 20, I thought 16 year olds were too young and not attractive. This continued until about age 23/24. 23 & 24 year olds continued to look attractive even as I aged and even today.

I wouldn't want to try to date someone that age now, but in terms of sexual attraction it is definitely there.

I'm a bit different, when I was a kid I was always most attracted to girls few years older. When I was 11 I liked the 13-14 year old girls, when I was 15 I really liked 18-20 year old women. I was always kind of grossed out by girls even 1 grade below me during my school years. Then once I hit adulthood I began becoming attracted to younger women, and I am still very attracted to women in the 18-25 range as a guy in his early 30's.

You've never had to deal with "You're mom is hot!".

Same here and it doesn't change as you get older. Women ages 18-25 are peak attractive. It just is. Of course, there is more to being attractive than physical appearance.

Some women. I looked like a complete child from 18 to 25. My peak attractiveness level was about age 27 to 34; and I’m only stopping at 34 because I got pregnant…otherwise I would say 27-37.

First of all, no 25-year-old looks like a “complete child.” And second, unless you lost a ton of weight at age 25, you are probably misperceiving things. I have NEVER seen a woman who was more attractive at 37 than at 23 unless there was some significant weight loss involved.

[Anonymous]

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First of all, no 25-year-old looks like a “complete child.” And second, unless you lost a ton of weight at age 25, you are probably misperceiving things. I have NEVER seen a woman who was more attractive at 37 than at 23 unless there was some significant weight loss involved.

You've never had to deal with "You're mom is hot!".

[Anonymous]

Some women get more attractive when they age because they develop more confidence or style. Also, a lot of young women dye their hair in a way that makes them look ugly in my eyes. I know a few women who got much hotter after they let themselves go grey.

Most of the time, though, younger women look better.

[Anonymous]

I’m a middle aged woman who dated younger men after I got divorced. I didn’t find them particularly attractive, and mostly I got annoyed with their immaturity.

But what I LOVED was the power imbalance. I make very good money, and watching these cute but dumb idiots jump through hoops at the chance of having someone buy them dinner was intoxicating. I liked male strippers solely because I enjoyed seeing how far they would disrespect and humiliate themselves for a few dollars. I loved knowing I would always be smarter, more powerful, and have more than those losers ever would.

When I got remarried it was with someone who makes far less than I do. It’s kind of like having a dog. I’m nice to him most of the time, he’s nice to have around, but when he gets into trouble I just have to glance at him and use a stern voice and he slinks off with a “yes ma’am” because he’s stuck and can’t leave.

I can see why men like doing this. It’s quite a trip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a middle aged woman who dated younger men after I got divorced. I didn’t find them particularly attractive, and mostly I got annoyed with their immaturity.

But what I LOVED was the power imbalance. I make very good money, and watching these cute but dumb idiots jump through hoops at the chance of having someone buy them dinner was intoxicating. I liked male strippers solely because I enjoyed seeing how far they would disrespect and humiliate themselves for a few dollars. I loved knowing I would always be smarter, more powerful, and have more than those losers ever would.

When I got remarried it was with someone who makes far less than I do. It’s kind of like having a dog. I’m nice to him most of the time, he’s nice to have around, but when he gets into trouble I just have to glance at him and use a stern voice and he slinks off with a “yes ma’am” because he’s stuck and can’t leave.

I can see why men like doing this. It’s quite a trip.

Wow, I find this fascinating. You sound like you would make a great dominatrix. What were your parents like? I am a woman who is essentially your polar opposite- I think I could use a little more callous and cavalier in my life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a middle aged woman who dated younger men after I got divorced. I didn’t find them particularly attractive, and mostly I got annoyed with their immaturity.

But what I LOVED was the power imbalance. I make very good money, and watching these cute but dumb idiots jump through hoops at the chance of having someone buy them dinner was intoxicating. I liked male strippers solely because I enjoyed seeing how far they would disrespect and humiliate themselves for a few dollars. I loved knowing I would always be smarter, more powerful, and have more than those losers ever would.

When I got remarried it was with someone who makes far less than I do. It’s kind of like having a dog. I’m nice to him most of the time, he’s nice to have around, but when he gets into trouble I just have to glance at him and use a stern voice and he slinks off with a “yes ma’am” because he’s stuck and can’t leave.

I can see why men like doing this. It’s quite a trip.

Wow, I find this fascinating. You sound like you would make a great dominatrix. What were your parents like? I am a woman who is essentially your polar opposite- I think I could use a little more callous and cavalier in my life.

Ha! I believe this. Do you think this dynamic is sustainable though? I imagine it is if the lower powered spouse truly enjoys being slinked around. But if it is a period of people pleasing that then turns into the lower powered partner becoming resentful and frustrated at the power imbalance won’t it ultimately wreck havoc for the relationship?

I guess this would be a reason to enter into such a marriage only if both parties are fully aware and enjoying the terms of the power imbalance.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Younger women are prettier, have better bodies, and most important, they have better personalities. I'm a 56 year old man dating a 27 year old.

I’ve seen you on another thread bragging. It’s really not impressive. You know she is either with you for money or there is something wrong with her. No normal 20 something wants to be with an old guy (no matter how good you look for almost 60).

I'm not bragging. I'm trolling my old fat ex-wife who hangs around on dcum.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a middle aged woman who dated younger men after I got divorced. I didn’t find them particularly attractive, and mostly I got annoyed with their immaturity.

But what I LOVED was the power imbalance. I make very good money, and watching these cute but dumb idiots jump through hoops at the chance of having someone buy them dinner was intoxicating. I liked male strippers solely because I enjoyed seeing how far they would disrespect and humiliate themselves for a few dollars. I loved knowing I would always be smarter, more powerful, and have more than those losers ever would.

When I got remarried it was with someone who makes far less than I do. It’s kind of like having a dog. I’m nice to him most of the time, he’s nice to have around, but when he gets into trouble I just have to glance at him and use a stern voice and he slinks off with a “yes ma’am” because he’s stuck and can’t leave.

I can see why men like doing this. It’s quite a trip.

Wow, I find this fascinating. You sound like you would make a great dominatrix. What were your parents like? I am a woman who is essentially your polar opposite- I think I could use a little more callous and cavalier in my life.

Ha! I believe this. Do you think this dynamic is sustainable though? I imagine it is if the lower powered spouse truly enjoys being slinked around. But if it is a period of people pleasing that then turns into the lower powered partner becoming resentful and frustrated at the power imbalance won’t it ultimately wreck havoc for the relationship?

I guess this would be a reason to enter into such a marriage only if both parties are fully aware and enjoying the terms of the power imbalance.

PP. Zero interest in being a doninatrix since that’s still pleasing a man.

H is free to leave anytime he wants but I doubt he will. He choose a career based on passion rather than money and he’ll be screwed when it comes to retirement (we have a prenup). I’m not a raging B or anything. It’s more along the lines of a parent/child relationship - we get along, but there’s no doubt about who is in charge and makes the rules. If he wants the benefits of my salary, that’s what he has to tolerate. Otherwise the door is right down the hall.

To answer PP - my parents were normal. I was actually the doormat most of my life in relationships. I busted my butt trying to be the perfect girlfriend and wife, and all i wanted was to be loved and have a family. But I learned that no matter how much effort you put into being pretty, making a nice home, being a supportive and loving partner, men will ultimately do whatever the hell the want to do with zero thought of how it my hurt or affect you. So I figured if they can play that game, why can’t I?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Younger women are prettier, have better bodies, and most important, they have better personalities. I'm a 56 year old man dating a 27 year old.

I’ve seen you on another thread bragging. It’s really not impressive. You know she is either with you for money or there is something wrong with her. No normal 20 something wants to be with an old guy (no matter how good you look for almost 60).

I'm not bragging. I'm trolling my old fat ex-wife who hangs around on dcum.

Ha, you might be my xH. Pretty sure he does the same for me.

Doesn’t bother me one bit. Actually makes me a little happy to know he’s still so invested in me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Younger women are prettier, have better bodies, and most important, they have better personalities. I'm a 56 year old man dating a 27 year old.

You’re dating someone 30 yrs younger than you. Yes, I know you have sex; it’s great. But what else do you do together outside of the house? What do you talk about? Do you have any kids and if so, how old are they? How long have you been dating her? Have you met any of her friends or her parents?

She's amazingly intelligent. Finishing a PhD in science. We talk about everything, and lose track of the time. She grew up respecting her father so she appreciates my wisdom and life experience. We have had many dates outside the house and a short road trip. We will go for longer trips once school is out. We also enjoy cooking together. I have late-teens kids. She had met one of my kids and that went well. I'll meet her parents soon.

OMG this is a train wreck waiting to happen. She will grow to absolutely hate and despise you and your late-teen kids. Her parents will hate you even more. Ask me how I know. And your age gap is much bigger.

Eh. A friend of mine met her husband when she was 18 and he was 42. They have two beautiful kids. They've had their share of ups and downs for sure but she's in her mid 40s now and they are still going strong.

Did the 42yo have kids and an ex wife? If not, sure (although 18?!). If so, I’m guessing this is fake or she hasn’t shared with you how bad the downs are, even if he’s a billionaire.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Middle aged guy here. When I first became attracted to women, I found women my age attractive. So at 13 I thought 13 year olds were attractive. By the time I was 16, I thought 13 was too young. When I was 20, I thought 16 year olds were too young and not attractive. This continued until about age 23/24. 23 & 24 year olds continued to look attractive even as I aged and even today.

I wouldn't want to try to date someone that age now, but in terms of sexual attraction it is definitely there.

I'm a bit different, when I was a kid I was always most attracted to girls few years older. When I was 11 I liked the 13-14 year old girls, when I was 15 I really liked 18-20 year old women. I was always kind of grossed out by girls even 1 grade below me during my school years. Then once I hit adulthood I began becoming attracted to younger women, and I am still very attracted to women in the 18-25 range as a guy in his early 30's.

Same here and it doesn't change as you get older. Women ages 18-25 are peak attractive. It just is. Of course, there is more to being attractive than physical appearance.

Some women. I looked like a complete child from 18 to 25. My peak attractiveness level was about age 27 to 34; and I’m only stopping at 34 because I got pregnant…otherwise I would say 27-37.

First of all, no 25-year-old looks like a “complete child.” And second, unless you lost a ton of weight at age 25, you are probably misperceiving things. I have NEVER seen a woman who was more attractive at 37 than at 23 unless there was some significant weight loss involved.

You're wrong. Being skinny in her early 20's will make a woman look like a child. And as years go by and she gains some weight, she becomes more attractive.

[Anonymous]

These people are not self aware and still see themselves as 35 year olds. My father is like this. He doesn’t realize that he’s old. Seriously.

If they see themselves as a 35 year old, then why not date a 35 year old?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These people are not self aware and still see themselves as 35 year olds. My father is like this. He doesn’t realize that he’s old. Seriously.

If they see themselves as a 35 year old, then why not date a 35 year old?

I'm the same way. I still feel like I am 30. No age-related problems. Weight 20 pounds less now than I did at 35.

[Anonymous]

biology. plain and simple