Is it a status symbol to marry young?

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think marriage limits your life as much as kids do, at least not a good marriage between two compatible friends with reasonable means.

Do avoid kids until you have at least $100k income and a reliable support system. That is either in the form of relatives, a nanny, or a stay at home parent. It’s tough to have kids if you don't have outside help, especially with 2 working parents. It can put lot of strain on your marriage as well.

What should poor people do? Just get jobs as nannies?

You can improve your earning potential and save up some money before jumping into overpriced and overrated business of parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think marriage limits your life as much as kids do, at least not a good marriage between two compatible friends with reasonable means.

Do avoid kids until you have at least $100k income and a reliable support system. That is either in the form of relatives, a nanny, or a stay at home parent. It’s tough to have kids if you don't have outside help, especially with 2 working parents. It can put lot of strain on your marriage as well.

What should poor people do? Just get jobs as nannies?

You can improve your earning potential and save up some money before jumping into overpriced and overrated business of parenting.

Not in Oklahoma.

[Anonymous]

Idk why people equate marriage to parenting. You can marry one you love and enjoy life and career. There is no reason to have children right away, use family planning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Idk why people equate marriage to parenting. You can marry one you love and enjoy life and career. There is no reason to have children right away, use family planning.

50% of pregnancies are unplanned.

[Anonymous]

It’s in fashion to marry and have kids earlier because it’s expensive and hard to do when done “right”. The gen x/ millennial route of endlessly dating and struggle pushing out a baby in one’s mid-late 30s has been done to death and it’s depressing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I notice a trend that people are increasingly getting married younger in UC/UMC circles. 25-27 year old brides vs 31-36 year old ones from a few years ago.

It seems young rich people now are more willing to marry and have children earlier.

Absolutely false. The young millennials and Zers are not getting married at all. A lot of them are buying houses together and still not getting married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s in fashion to marry and have kids earlier because it’s expensive and hard to do when done “right”. The gen x/ millennial route of endlessly dating and struggle pushing out a baby in one’s mid-late 30s has been done to death and it’s depressing.

It’s a regional/educational thing (and not completely income), not a generational thing. My friends from back home who live in McMansions are having kids as young as ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I notice a trend that people are increasingly getting married younger in UC/UMC circles. 25-27 year old brides vs 31-36 year old ones from a few years ago.

It seems young rich people now are more willing to marry and have children earlier.

Absolutely false. The young millennials and Zers are not getting married at all. A lot of them are buying houses together and still not getting married.

I absolutely cannot wrap my head around buying a house with someone I’m not married to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Idk why people equate marriage to parenting. You can marry one you love and enjoy life and career. There is no reason to have children right away, use family planning.

50% of pregnancies are unplanned.

Well, if two well-informed partners are using proper prevention, chances are much lower. There is some risk in everything. It can happen without marriage as well so I don’t get the point in not marrying due to fear of pregnancy unless you are celibate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I notice a trend that people are increasingly getting married younger in UC/UMC circles. 25-27 year old brides vs 31-36 year old ones from a few years ago.

It seems young rich people now are more willing to marry and have children earlier.

Absolutely false. The young millennials and Zers are not getting married at all. A lot of them are buying houses together and still not getting married.

I absolutely cannot wrap my head around buying a house with someone I’m not married to.

If you are living together, own property together and having sex so some odds of ending up parenting together, might as well put commitment phobia aside and marry unless you don’t believe in marriage and never plan to have one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I notice a trend that people are increasingly getting married younger in UC/UMC circles. 25-27 year old brides vs 31-36 year old ones from a few years ago.

It seems young rich people now are more willing to marry and have children earlier.

Absolutely false. The young millennials and Zers are not getting married at all. A lot of them are buying houses together and still not getting married.

It could still be a trend among the ones getting married who are UC/UMC. I haven’t seen the data so I don’t know, but that could be what OP is referring to - changing demographics among the subgroup choosing to marry.

[Anonymous]

Young marriage gives you the option to divorce/remarry, whereas last-to-marry (involuntarily) marriage turns into the bullying MIL stories you see here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Idk why people equate marriage to parenting. You can marry one you love and enjoy life and career. There is no reason to have children right away, use family planning.

50% of pregnancies are unplanned.

It’s actually 60% to this born to women under the age of 30 which is the majority of all pregnant since most women of all races have their children in their 20s.

Furthermore, it’s also a reflection of Americans ooor education Regarding sex and birth control methods.

[Anonymous]

Op I think you are on social media too much. The young, beautiful, rich Mormons have taken over parenting blogs and social media. But they are a very small subset of society.

Maybe you just didn’t realize it. But if you see a gorgeous woman on social media in her 20s, with 2+ kids, an equally gorgeous husband and a magazine spread home, probably Morman