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Yes I look young but I don't need to hear it ALL THE TIME....
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I am 28 years old and 5'1 and very petite. My face looks young, I get it, and without make up I probably could pass for 16 when I do not open my mouth.
HOWEVER, this does not give a stranger the right so scream in an office elevator at 7am...are you an intern, you look like a high school student, how old are you? Not to mention for the first 2 comments I completely ignored the woman and she kept screaming until I acknowledged her with a "yeah I get it all the time." When you ID me at a liquor store, YES its real...go call the cops. And then when you figure out its real please don't give me the "oh you look so young speech." When I am at Red Door Spa for a massage and you are a masseuse I have never been to, do not ask me if I am old enough to be here for a massage. Read the paper you give me to fill out with my age and then look around...you will see Im not with anyone else especially a parent. When I pick up my car from servicing, do not ask me if this is my car and I am old enough to drive. YES you idiot...now give me my car and get the hell out of my face. I am sure some of you will think this is great to look young, and I do agree. In a few years I will be laughing in the faces of all the rude people out there who think the above responses to a stranger are funny and/ or ok. But its completely uneccessary! I cannot wait to be pregnant because I am going to take off my wedding and engagement rings, wear no make up, and will love seeing the utter disgust from people about a "teen pregnancy." Does anyone else have a problem to the extreme like this? Come on I know I am not the only pudgy baby face out there 
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Anonymous
| That was me, but somehow in my late 30s, I morphed from looking like I was 22 to, well, my late 30s and have looked my age ever since. So enjoy it while you can! |
Anonymous
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Yep. I'm mid 30s, two inches taller than you and pretty tiny. I have a total baby face. I get it fairly often, though definitely once you get past 30 it declines.
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Anonymous
Me, too. And now that people keep calling me ma'am even when my kids aren't with me, I'm missing people saying that I look young. |
Anonymous
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I look very young and I used to feel the way you do. We took a vacation with my family once to a fancy resort in the Caribbean and I had to go to the front desk to let them know about a leak in our room and they totally treated me like a kid and said they would need to speak to one of my parents before they moved us to another room. I was 25. I was furious. I had to get some x-rays done when I was 28 and before the technician asked if there was any chance I was pregnant she said, "I'm glad your mom didn't come in with you because it's always awkward to ask this in front of the moms." If she had looked at my form he'd know my age. Really pissed me off.
But now that I'm 34 and have a 2-year-old I actually think it's funny. Just yesterday I was buying a father's day card fthat said "tom my husband" and the woman who was ringing me up asked in disbelief if I have a husband. When I said yes she said I was too young to have a husband. When I told her my age and that I not only have a husband but a 2-year-old too she congratulated me and told me to keep on doing whatever I was doing to keep up my youthful look. She was probably in her 60s. We both laughed about it...and I went home and bragged to my husband. |
Anonymous
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OP here. I know it is a good thing and I find that when said in a polite way like "you look great for your age, you look young" thats totally fine.
But why do some people take it to that obnoxious level? And in those cases, I really dont think they are doing it for a compliment, its like a weird way to insult someone. Maybe I am just too sensitive, but some of the things that I described as happening above I find to be pure idiocricy! |
Anonymous
| This happens to my husband all the time. He is a 29 year old attorney but looks REALLY young. In meetings with new people, they sometimes condescendingly ask him if he is 12. He is not too pleased about that. He wants to say back to these 40+ year olds telling him this "what are you, 65?" when they look older than they are, but he doesn't because he is actually considerate. |
Anonymous
| Well I haven't had the extreme you describe happen me but I am about to be 38 in a couple of days and I am told (often enough that I believe it) that I look between 27-30. I don't mind it because growing up I was very tall for my age and people always thought I was a couple of years older and would make comments that made me feel really bad about myself. (People, please, NEVER comment on the appearance of a child, childhood is hard enough for some kids but to point out they are different from their peers is torture.) About the time I turned 18 people thought I was 16 and when I was 25 people thought I was 18. The gap has been increasing since. All I can really say is 1. I don't smoke 2. I don't drink 3. I don't spend a lot of time in the sun (nor do I wear sunscreen often, but I started wearing a sun hat a couple of years ago 4. I'm overweight which fills out wrinkles and fine lines. (Thin people look better when they're young, but people packing a few extra pounds age better!!) |
Anonymous
| The worst for me was when people asked if I was the mom or the nanny. Has that happened to you, OP? And they would ask even though my son is practically my clone. |
Anonymous
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OP again (yeah Im not being very productive today).
10:59- THIS is the most annoying thing in the world. I am a CPA and when I am in professional meetings and people do this I am fuming. Its like yes you old 85 year old man...I am younger than you, can we please act like adults now! I feel for your DH! And my DH looks young and gets it all the time in the workplace bc he is in marketing and does alot of phone calls (with a very deep voice), and when he meets clients in person they are in shock about his age. 11:10- nope not compared to the nanny yet bc I have no kids. But like I said, when I am pregnant, I am prepared for the teen mom lectures. Haha |
Anonymous
I agree with this. I had my first son at age 25, DH was 27, people swore we were teenagers. When we bought our house, the neighbors kept talking to my BIL because they didn't think we were old enough to be homeowners. Now, ten years later, not so much. I don't look my age, but I look old enough for people to do the math and get a good ball park figure. |
Anonymous
| This happens to me much less frequently now that I have kids. I realize the lack of sleep has aged me about ten years. So I look 33 (my age) instead of 23. |
Anonymous
It was never this extreme, but I still could pass for being in my early 20s even though I am 34 with a 5 year old. It doesn't help when I can still shop in the juniors section for clothing, especially dresses. The last few dresses I have worn to formal events were bought in the Macy's Junior department. No one gave me teen mom lectures, thankfully, but I always made sure to wear my wedding ring when I was out and about. It also helped that whenever I wasn't at work in professional looking maternity clothes, I was pretty much bedridden and not out about town. Having a kid has definitely aged me, though - lots of gray hairs and my body is a wreck under my size 6P clothing. No more cute bikinis for me 
At least tonight I get to go to the NKOTBSB concert and scream like a 13 year old again! |
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Anonymous
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OP,
Of all the problems in the world ... Maybe just lighten up and tell folks your age and joke about it now and then instead of acting like this is a burden of tragic proportions? When I was in my early 30s I was doing research at a high school and folks thought I was a student. I LOVED IT! |