Parents haven't blamed everything on rae or claimed victimhood. You're seeing ghosts. |
At what point do you accept accountability? I take my kid the park 1-2x a week to shoot on goal + discuss what they did well in the last game. When she was younger she did Futsal 1-2x a week depending on games, played soccer with the boys at lunch, and did 1-2 hours of private lessons a month. Even now she does weekly weight training sessions on top of regular practices. What have you done with your kid? Maybe there's a reason theyre not on the top team while others are independent of when they were born during the year. |
Not the OP, or any OP for that matter, but it matters how you talk about it because it affects how the kids feel. Our club made the changes early with the little kids so my kid moved from the top team in his BY age group to the top team with a SY grouping. I wanted him to feel happy and excited about soccer and positive about his new team even though it was alot of change, so I modeled that by being happy and excited about it myself. I never said he was "playing down" becuase if I had he would have started to feel like it was a negative thing. So I guess you can do whatever you want, but if anyone called it playing down in front of my son I'd correct them, and remind them that he'd be playing up a grade his entire elementary school time, he was merely playing with his grade now, because what people say matters. |
They're offering 5000 if you just give the ball back. ![]() |
Weekly weight training wow! Soo impressive! |
As players get older they need more time to recover between sessions. This is why all the big leagues only allow 1 game per day. Its also why olders dont participate in tournaments with 2 games per day as much as they used to. One day of strength training on top of 3-4 days of field practice is reasonable. You just dont know any of this yet. |
Great. It's still not the flex you think it is. |
How long until your kid quits and you blame everything on rae? |
My kid is 9, so we will find out real quick where things shake out in a few months. If they quit great, they play another sport, an instrument and are in advanced classes. Soccer is not their identity. |
I’m the 10% poster. You’re misunderstanding what I’m saying. RAE is absolutely real. And it absolutely has an impact. Just to be clear, I am not discounting experiences, I was just clarifying the actually data on RAE’s impact. 10% is a huge impact on opportunity at 9/10. I think people maybe don't realize it because they’re thinking in terms of “chance” opposed to impact. Here is a good example of what a 10% impact looks like when measuring external data. Pro-Agility Tests (5-10-5) Make D1 soccer player 4.8s average 10% variance there is 5.28s average, guess what, they’re not making the team! Jump Mat test: D1 male: 18-20” 10% less 16.2-18” Guess what, they’re not playing D1, maybe D2 Etc etc etc. At older ages the impact RAE has is less. Mainly because the elite pool continues to narrow. So imagine that impact at 9, well that 10% makes the difference between top team and bottom team. Bottom team doesn’t make the ECNL squad, so they don’t go to speed school, they don’t take the privates, they don’t compete against bigger, faster kids that drive them to get faster and better. They don’t get exposed to the culture and environment to incentivize them to keep up with their peers (because their peers are at a different level). They don’t get the coaching on how to take a PK so the goalie can’t read their shot etc. etc. etc. it’s called accumulated advantage for a reason. |
Well at least you're being honest.
I highly suggest considering the 2nd team if the 1st team doesn't work out. Also I double highly suggest dropping all the rae excuses from your head. No matter what you do rae isnt something you can control. Since there's nothing you can do about it focus on the things you can control at age 9. Which are practicing, privates, and futsal. It really does all come down to the number of touches your kid does per week. Quality touches makes them even better. |
Futsal makes you slow. People need to get off the futsal crack pipe. |
😅 let’s make policy on base rates of 1. Genius! |
You cant control when you were born so either you consider yourself a rae victim and give up or you dont and make the necessary adjustments needed to be a stand out player. Theres always going to be bigger, stronger, faster, richer, more entitled, etc people than you. How you choose to react / interact with them is what defines who you are. |
The landscape between boys and girls could not be more different. The number of boys with high technical skill and soccer IQ is astronomical. The competitiveness is on a whole different level. I guarantee any boy on a top team or boy who wants to be on a top team is doing the schedule you just posted and probably 3x more regardless of their birth month. It’s great that you don’t think RAE didn’t impact your daughter. Other people have different experiences and they shouldn’t be discounted. |