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ANTI-CHILDREN wedding? can't even bring children to the resort even if you have your own babysitter?
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Anonymous
No you are not - explain to her your reason and I am sure she will understand. If you don't feel confortable explainning these reasons to her, tell her little sally had a stomach bug and couldn't go. |
Anonymous
| I say bring the kids (and a babysitter). Seriously, what are they going to do, arrest you? Ban you from the wedding? And, unless they've rented out the entire resort, I bet there will be at least a few kids running around anyway. |
Anonymous
I would also tell her you don't want to bring your kids, and explain why. If she's a bitch about it, she'll probably react by not wanting your daughter in the wedding party anyway, so it's win-win! There's also the possibility that she's including your daughter to be nice/inclusive, but that she doesn't really feel that strongly about it, and will be totally cool with you explaining why you don't want to take the kids. Good luck! |
Anonymous
| People, this post is originally from February. OP didn't go to the wedding. Let's let it die. |
Anonymous
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Hi OP - I'm joining this kinda late, but wanted to throw in my two cents. DH and I were married at a very exclusive and private resort in the Caribbean that, while not officially "child-free," was not of a family-friendly mindset, and made that clear by certain house rules about kids not being allowed in the pools at certain times, in restaurants at certain times, in certain locations, etc.
However, we never in a million years would suggest to our guests that they could not bring their children. To me that is rude and very selfish...our attitude was that weddings are about FAMILY(!) -- it's the joining of two families, etc. And, despite our hotel's rather hostile policies we had several friends/family bring children. It would not have been the same otherwise. That being said, I can understand why your friends would request that no children be present during the ceremony or reception, but to ban them ENTIRELY from a resort, when the resort is not child-free is presumptuous and preposterous, in my opinion. Trust me, if we could have kids at our wedding, then well behaved kids can be welcome anywhere. If you really are inclined to attend, I would bring your kids but make sure they have a baby sitter for the wedding/ceremony/reception - those belong to the bride and groom. The rest is YOUR vacation and YOUR business that YOU are shelling out money for. Simply because you attend the wedding doesn't mean the bride and groom have control over the rest of your vacation stay! If I |
Anonymous
| i love that people don't look at date stamps or read any of the thread and think it's still relevant. |
Anonymous
| I hate when guests expect weddings to be planned around them. the day is about the bride and groom, period. Everyone else should be happy to get invited. I plan on a destination wedding, giving plenty of notice and ensuring that both sets of parents can be there. Otherwise, everyone else is welcome but if they cant come I understand. The day is about myself and the man I am marrying, not about throwing a party for all my friends where I am to slave over their wishes and give up what we want. I have spent many weddings with children wreaking havoc and generally being loud and out of control because parents think its a chance to allow their kids to run free and be watched by other people. No thanks. |
Anonymous
| Imagine if it was your your wedding reception. You see you, your new spouse, other people you love-- and kids screaming kids - skidding across the dance floorand throwing handfuls of cake at each other!!!!! These brides love their family and friends, but it is up to them whether or not they want kids at their wedding! |
Anonymous
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Well, you have no "right" to the wedding since it's an invitation. You either go or don't go. Up to you.
[Granted, it's not the choice my hubs and I made for our wedding; we invited everyone. But the joint was hoppin' and started late, so parents had to make their own call as to whether the set up was child-friendly or not.] |
Anonymous
| It's their wedding. Go, play by their rules (or request), or don't go at all. but, don't bring the kids. It's inconsiderate. |
Anonymous
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Die, thread, die! Woops...
(Really, what does it take? A stake through the heart? Chicken with 40 cloves of garlic?) |
Anonymous
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Haha! I love it! I posted for the first time on this thread on 12-14. Now I see that this is one of those vampire threads.
I am amused. (It doesn't take much, does it...) |
Anonymous
| Wow, that is incredibly rude. I wouldn't waste my dime on a wedding where the bride/groom are so inconsiderate. To completely prohibit the children of their guests from the resort? I'm surprised your husband wants to go regardless of them pinpointing you guys in the email. I can understand no children to the events but they don't own the resort, and they aren't REAL friends if they're so inflexible. Children are children, and you can't just dump your flesh and blood to make these so called 'friends' happy especially if you're uncomfortable doing it, and don't have childcare at home that you feel safe leaving them with. If your hubby really wants to go, screw them and take a sitter and just respect their no kid policy at the wedding...but they don't own the resort!! |
Anonymous
http://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/alton-brown/40-cloves-and-a-chicken-recipe/index.html HTH Woops! |
Anonymous
| They have no right to say who can and can't be at the resort. Personally I would go as planned and wouldn't feel even a bit awkward. If they said anything they would be the ones feeling like jerks, not me. |