I'm a stripper. AMA.

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There is a big difference between being asked to police men's sex drives and being asked not to thrust your vagina in a man face

Is there? Who is responsible for men wanting to see women dance while partially nude? Why is his personal interactions the responsibility of someone selling him a legal service? You not wanting someone else to be sexy isn't her problem. Those are your own security issues, and it is perpetuating sexist beliefs.

Also the first PP needs an anatomy lesson.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter to you that many of your customers are coming there against the wishes or without the knowledge of their significant others?

No. Even if I wasn't a dancer, the industry would still exist. Grown-ups are responsible for their own actions, period.

I don't have a problem with what you do, but that answer is not really justification. Almost any crime and hurtful action can be justified in this manner.

OP is not responsible for other people's choices.

She is enabling them

I hate the idea that all women are somehow responsible for policing the sex drives of men. Men are capable of making their own choices and being responsible for them. Men wanting to pay for sexual attention from women is hardly new.

OP, I've known a few women that were strippers. One admitted she had to stop because her view of men was deteriorating. Do you find yourself having a level of disrespect for men since you've started?

There is a big difference between being asked to police men's sex drives and being asked not to thrust your vagina in a man face

Is there? Who is responsible for men wanting to see women dance while partially nude? Why is his personal interactions the responsibility of someone selling him a legal service? You not wanting someone else to be sexy isn't her problem. Those are your own security issues, and it is perpetuating sexist beliefs.

You can't just stumble into a strip club. People make the choice to patronize them.

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Anonymous wrote:If your husband needs to reach you when you're working, how does he do it? Can you check your phone in between dances easily?

You seem awesome OP.

Thank you.

I carry my phone with me and check it periodically. If there was an emergency, my husband could call the club.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter to you that many of your customers are coming there against the wishes or without the knowledge of their significant others?

No. Even if I wasn't a dancer, the industry would still exist. Grown-ups are responsible for their own actions, period.

I don't have a problem with what you do, but that answer is not really justification. Almost any crime and hurtful action can be justified in this manner.

OP is not responsible for other people's choices.

She is enabling them

I hate the idea that all women are somehow responsible for policing the sex drives of men. Men are capable of making their own choices and being responsible for them. Men wanting to pay for sexual attention from women is hardly new.

OP, I've known a few women that were strippers. One admitted she had to stop because her view of men was deteriorating. Do you find yourself having a level of disrespect for men since you've started?

I was a victim of childhood sexual abuse, so I always saw men as predatory and not to be trusted. Years of therapy and healing helped change that for the better. Stripping has reversed some of that, but I remain in therapy and address these issues.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter to you that many of your customers are coming there against the wishes or without the knowledge of their significant others?

No. Even if I wasn't a dancer, the industry would still exist. Grown-ups are responsible for their own actions, period.

I don't have a problem with what you do, but that answer is not really justification. Almost any crime and hurtful action can be justified in this manner.

OP is not responsible for other people's choices.

She is enabling them

I hate the idea that all women are somehow responsible for policing the sex drives of men. Men are capable of making their own choices and being responsible for them. Men wanting to pay for sexual attention from women is hardly new.

OP, I've known a few women that were strippers. One admitted she had to stop because her view of men was deteriorating. Do you find yourself having a level of disrespect for men since you've started?

There is a big difference between being asked to police men's sex drives and being asked not to thrust your vagina in a man face

You don't have to go to strip clubs.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter to you that many of your customers are coming there against the wishes or without the knowledge of their significant others?

No. Even if I wasn't a dancer, the industry would still exist. Grown-ups are responsible for their own actions, period.

I don't have a problem with what you do, but that answer is not really justification. Almost any crime and hurtful action can be justified in this manner.

OP is not responsible for other people's choices.

She is enabling them

I hate the idea that all women are somehow responsible for policing the sex drives of men. Men are capable of making their own choices and being responsible for them. Men wanting to pay for sexual attention from women is hardly new.

OP, I've known a few women that were strippers. One admitted she had to stop because her view of men was deteriorating. Do you find yourself having a level of disrespect for men since you've started?

I was a victim of childhood sexual abuse, so I always saw men as predatory and not to be trusted. Years of therapy and healing helped change that for the better. Stripping has reversed some of that, but I remain in therapy and address these issues.

Who was it? Did he get charged? Did you know the other victims? I'm so sorry that happened to you.

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Anonymous wrote:I just want to say, OP, I think you're awesome!

+1,000

I agree, but it's all the more puzzling why she is a stripper

Because it's a good way for her to earn money in the circumstances she's in -- or so I assume. Why do you do whatever you do for pay?

she lives off her husbands income, including supporting a toddler. Those are not circumstances with no options for any other way to make money for some savings and car repairs besides taking your clothes off with the purpose of sexually arousing men for money. This is not a woman who would be on the streets without this.

I work in an ER, and see/hear it all, so genuinely concerned for OP and her safety since I see the really dark and dangerous ending of these fun nights out with stripper, drugs, drinking and prostitiuon going on all around her, even if she's not participating directly.

There is a dark element, of course, but that is the nature of the nightlife. You will find drinking, drugs, and prostitution in many night clubs. There is an element of risk to what I do but I like to think I'm grounded enough to be safe. I do not socialize with coworkers or guests, period. Based on what I know, many of these ugly situations emerge as a result of partying, and I don't party.

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Anonymous wrote:Are there a lot of drugs in the club? Is one (or more) dancer also a part time dealer? Does hanky panty actually happen in the private rooms ... not by you as you've answered but with other girls?

As I've stated, I work in a so-called clean club where sexual touching and extras are prohibited. Our clientele tends to be more educated and professional. I know there is drug use, but management is very strict and would fire anyone suspected of abusing drugs or alcohol on the job - guests have been kicked out and banned from returning for bringing drugs in, also. The club enjoys a good reputation (as good a reputation as a strip club can have) and do not want to jeopardize that.

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Anonymous wrote:If you make 500-1000/shift, why do strippers stay in the low income class? Assuming there are ones who don't blow the $ on drugs, do you think one could save a lot? There seems to be huge earnings potential with no degrees req! For example after taxes, I make 2800 a month as a lawyer for the gov!

Not the op, but I had a 2 friends when I was much younger that were strippers. One had a 1 yr old child. She stripped for 5 yrs, banked enough for the kid's entire college tuition, bought a house then quit and started another career. She hustled and was like the OP in that it was strictly a money maker for her.

My other friend was a young twenty two year old. She got married straight out of high school and had just gotten a divorce because she was bored. Started stripping, partying, and doing drugs. She never saved a penny of her earnings.

It takes a certain kind of personality to really make it in that business. Unfortunately, a good number of strippers get sucked into the darker parts of the industry.

Sorry OP, not trying to hijack!

Op here: good points! Dancers basically fall into these categories exactly: either you're a woman with goals and responsibilities (single mom, law student, or trying to supplement a low-paying job - like teaching), or you're into it to get a sugar daddy or party. I fel badly for the girls who fall I to the second category, but I know better than to interfere.

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Do you work at Camelot in DC?

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter to you that many of your customers are coming there against the wishes or without the knowledge of their significant others?

No. Even if I wasn't a dancer, the industry would still exist. Grown-ups are responsible for their own actions, period.

I don't have a problem with what you do, but that answer is not really justification. Almost any crime and hurtful action can be justified in this manner.

OP is not responsible for other people's choices.

She is enabling them

I hate the idea that all women are somehow responsible for policing the sex drives of men. Men are capable of making their own choices and being responsible for them. Men wanting to pay for sexual attention from women is hardly new.

OP, I've known a few women that were strippers. One admitted she had to stop because her view of men was deteriorating. Do you find yourself having a level of disrespect for men since you've started?

I was a victim of childhood sexual abuse, so I always saw men as predatory and not to be trusted. Years of therapy and healing helped change that for the better. Stripping has reversed some of that, but I remain in therapy and address these issues.

Who was it? Did he get charged? Did you know the other victims? I'm so sorry that happened to you.

Thank you! It happens to so many girls and women, as we all know. It was my dad. No charges.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you work at Camelot in DC?

No, but I've been there as a guest They have beautiful girls!

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This is a such a great AMA thread. OP, you sound so grounded and secure with yourself, which is even better to hear considering your childhood. Good for you and thanks for being open here. I have learned a lot. I've spent a lot of time thinking about these kinds of issues (I work in a "feminist" environment and these conversations come up a lot) and your thread has been very enlightening. Thanks!

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What percentage of males clients get erections during personal dances?

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Anonymous wrote:This is a such a great AMA thread. OP, you sound so grounded and secure with yourself, which is even better to hear considering your childhood. Good for you and thanks for being open here. I have learned a lot. I've spent a lot of time thinking about these kinds of issues (I work in a "feminist" environment and these conversations come up a lot) and your thread has been very enlightening. Thanks!

+1 Agree! Great OP and really eye-opening to hear your perspective.