When am i too old for more kids?

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Anonymous wrote:Not the first to point this out in this thread, but can we get a little middle ground, please? It's not either 19 or 45. Many people have children in their early thirties after several years of working. For example, I know many mothers who have recently had children after 6 or so years of law practice. They are financially stable AND still fairly young. So, it can't be that you have to be in your 40s to be financially stable, and, the comparison should not always be with unwed 19 year olds with little chance of financial sucess. I think people would feel less judgmental of you if they understood better why your 30s was not an appropriate time for you to have children, seeing as how many women are able to establish a career by this point in their lives. My guess is that the answers vary a lot, but I doubt that it takes most women 20 years post-college to become financially prepared to support a child, especially if you have a spouse who works. Anyway, please stop creating this 45 with 3 degrees vs. 19 and homeless dischotomy. The fact is that many women have kids b/t 30 and 35.

Financial Stability here. The subject of the post was whether 40 is too late to have kids. I think alot of older women sensed a lack of support from some here in their own decision to go ahead and have kids at 40+. So they all pointed out the distinct advantages of having children at 40+ that aren't commonly seen when women are younger.

Sure, there are some highly educated women in their 30's who may be earning a strong income. But the advantage of women who are 40+ is that not only do more of them have a stronger education, they, more importantly, have had more time to accumulate MONEY (I'm being blunt and not cushioning my words diplomatically as one other poster asked me to do LOL). This brings them peace of mind, and it also allows them to quit their jobs if they desire to focus solely on raising their child as a SAHM. It has many advantages. The older moms also have more relationship stability.

This isn't to say 30+ moms are clueless, unproductive, or unable to raise children properly. This is to not deny advantages the 40+ moms have.

Will all of you people just stop! Just because you have a nice little nest egg or more education doesn't mean that you are going to be a better mother! Being a mother is something that you learn while raising your kid. "Financial Stability" or whatever you want to call yourself, I have a better name for you...how about "Self Righteous" Get off your high horse and come on back down to reality. Most of our mothers and grandmothers had their babies at a very young age and I am pretty damn sure that we all turned out just fine. My mother is my hero, she taught me patience, love, respect and trust....something I am currently teaching my son...and something that I don't need a college degree to instill in him. Everyone who is saying that women in their 40's with more money and more education will be better mothers, make me sick! Sounds like you need to grow up to me.

Silly goose. Have you learned nothing on this board? One has to be at least 37 [i] to have the wisdom to select the best developmental toys, foods, and apparel to equip a baby to ace a test and get into the only preschool in town that will be able to cope with their extraordinary, unprecedented talent, 99.9 percentile genius, and the sophistication that they've acquired living with such accomplished parents. After that, at about 41, a parent has what it takes to select the soccer program that will help them catch the eye of the Ivy League athletic recruiters, and have the money to deal with the Ivies' lack of scholarships, and then have the social experience to throw a wedding that makes the style section.

That is the ONLY way that a child can become a happy, well-developed person.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Not the first to point this out in this thread, but can we get a little middle ground, please? It's not either 19 or 45. Many people have children in their early thirties after several years of working. For example, I know many mothers who have recently had children after 6 or so years of law practice. They are financially stable AND still fairly young. So, it can't be that you have to be in your 40s to be financially stable, and, the comparison should not always be with unwed 19 year olds with little chance of financial sucess. I think people would feel less judgmental of you if they understood better why your 30s was not an appropriate time for you to have children, seeing as how many women are able to establish a career by this point in their lives. My guess is that the answers vary a lot, but I doubt that it takes most women 20 years post-college to become financially prepared to support a child, especially if you have a spouse who works. Anyway, please stop creating this 45 with 3 degrees vs. 19 and homeless dischotomy. The fact is that many women have kids b/t 30 and 35.

Financial Stability here. The subject of the post was whether 40 is too late to have kids. I think alot of older women sensed a lack of support from some here in their own decision to go ahead and have kids at 40+. So they all pointed out the distinct advantages of having children at 40+ that aren't commonly seen when women are younger.

Sure, there are some highly educated women in their 30's who may be earning a strong income. But the advantage of women who are 40+ is that not only do more of them have a stronger education, they, more importantly, have had more time to accumulate MONEY (I'm being blunt and not cushioning my words diplomatically as one other poster asked me to do LOL). This brings them peace of mind, and it also allows them to quit their jobs if they desire to focus solely on raising their child as a SAHM. It has many advantages. The older moms also have more relationship stability.

This isn't to say 30+ moms are clueless, unproductive, or unable to raise children properly. This is to not deny advantages the 40+ moms have.

Will all of you people just stop! Just because you have a nice little nest egg or more education doesn't mean that you are going to be a better mother! Being a mother is something that you learn while raising your kid. "Financial Stability" or whatever you want to call yourself, I have a better name for you...how about "Self Righteous" Get off your high horse and come on back down to reality. Most of our mothers and grandmothers had their babies at a very young age and I am pretty damn sure that we all turned out just fine. My mother is my hero, she taught me patience, love, respect and trust....something I am currently teaching my son...and something that I don't need a college degree to instill in him. Everyone who is saying that women in their 40's with more money and more education will be better mothers, make me sick! Sounds like you need to grow up to me.

Silly goose. Have you learned nothing on this board? One has to be at least 37 [i] to have the wisdom to select the best developmental toys, foods, and apparel to equip a baby to ace a test and get into the only preschool in town that will be able to cope with their extraordinary, unprecedented talent, 99.9 percentile genius, and the sophistication that they've acquired living with such accomplished parents. After that, at about 41, a parent has what it takes to select the soccer program that will help them catch the eye of the Ivy League athletic recruiters, and have the money to deal with the Ivies' lack of scholarships, and then have the social experience to throw a wedding that makes the style section.

That is the ONLY way that a child can become a happy, well-developed person.

VERY FUNNY! I think that women in their 20's in the end will make better parents because we will have the stamina to run our children from soccer pratice to football practice and then on to basketball practice...where as the women in their 40's will be old and decrepit by the time their kid is 10....hey good luck with that....hope the osteoporosis doesn't effect your ability to take your kids out to the park and push them on the swing.

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Anonymous wrote:Not the first to point this out in this thread, but can we get a little middle ground, please? It's not either 19 or 45. Many people have children in their early thirties after several years of working. For example, I know many mothers who have recently had children after 6 or so years of law practice. They are financially stable AND still fairly young. So, it can't be that you have to be in your 40s to be financially stable, and, the comparison should not always be with unwed 19 year olds with little chance of financial sucess. I think people would feel less judgmental of you if they understood better why your 30s was not an appropriate time for you to have children, seeing as how many women are able to establish a career by this point in their lives. My guess is that the answers vary a lot, but I doubt that it takes most women 20 years post-college to become financially prepared to support a child, especially if you have a spouse who works. Anyway, please stop creating this 45 with 3 degrees vs. 19 and homeless dischotomy. The fact is that many women have kids b/t 30 and 35.

Financial Stability here. The subject of the post was whether 40 is too late to have kids. I think alot of older women sensed a lack of support from some here in their own decision to go ahead and have kids at 40+. So they all pointed out the distinct advantages of having children at 40+ that aren't commonly seen when women are younger.

Sure, there are some highly educated women in their 30's who may be earning a strong income. But the advantage of women who are 40+ is that not only do more of them have a stronger education, they, more importantly, have had more time to accumulate MONEY (I'm being blunt and not cushioning my words diplomatically as one other poster asked me to do LOL). This brings them peace of mind, and it also allows them to quit their jobs if they desire to focus solely on raising their child as a SAHM. It has many advantages. The older moms also have more relationship stability.

This isn't to say 30+ moms are clueless, unproductive, or unable to raise children properly. This is to not deny advantages the 40+ moms have.

Will all of you people just stop! Just because you have a nice little nest egg or more education doesn't mean that you are going to be a better mother! Being a mother is something that you learn while raising your kid. "Financial Stability" or whatever you want to call yourself, I have a better name for you...how about "Self Righteous" Get off your high horse and come on back down to reality. Most of our mothers and grandmothers had their babies at a very young age and I am pretty damn sure that we all turned out just fine. My mother is my hero, she taught me patience, love, respect and trust....something I am currently teaching my son...and something that I don't need a college degree to instill in him. Everyone who is saying that women in their 40's with more money and more education will be better mothers, make me sick! Sounds like you need to grow up to me.

Silly goose. Have you learned nothing on this board? One has to be at least 37 [i] to have the wisdom to select the best developmental toys, foods, and apparel to equip a baby to ace a test and get into the only preschool in town that will be able to cope with their extraordinary, unprecedented talent, 99.9 percentile genius, and the sophistication that they've acquired living with such accomplished parents. After that, at about 41, a parent has what it takes to select the soccer program that will help them catch the eye of the Ivy League athletic recruiters, and have the money to deal with the Ivies' lack of scholarships, and then have the social experience to throw a wedding that makes the style section.

That is the ONLY way that a child can become a happy, well-developed person.

VERY FUNNY! I think that women in their 20's in the end will make better parents because we will have the stamina to run our children from soccer pratice to football practice and then on to basketball practice...where as the women in their 40's will be old and decrepit by the time their kid is 10....hey good luck with that....hope the osteoporosis doesn't effect your ability to take your kids out to the park and push them on the swing.

I don't have a dog in this fight (had my kids in my thirties, LOL), but I find it hysterical that this poster thinks someone at age 50 is "old and decrepit"--that, to me, says far more about this poster's general lack of maturity and zero knowledge about life than anything else! Reminds me of my six-year-old who thinks that anyone over about age fifteen is old, LOL.

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Anonymous wrote:Not the first to point this out in this thread, but can we get a little middle ground, please? It's not either 19 or 45. Many people have children in their early thirties after several years of working. For example, I know many mothers who have recently had children after 6 or so years of law practice. They are financially stable AND still fairly young. So, it can't be that you have to be in your 40s to be financially stable, and, the comparison should not always be with unwed 19 year olds with little chance of financial sucess. I think people would feel less judgmental of you if they understood better why your 30s was not an appropriate time for you to have children, seeing as how many women are able to establish a career by this point in their lives. My guess is that the answers vary a lot, but I doubt that it takes most women 20 years post-college to become financially prepared to support a child, especially if you have a spouse who works. Anyway, please stop creating this 45 with 3 degrees vs. 19 and homeless dischotomy. The fact is that many women have kids b/t 30 and 35.

Financial Stability here. The subject of the post was whether 40 is too late to have kids. I think alot of older women sensed a lack of support from some here in their own decision to go ahead and have kids at 40+. So they all pointed out the distinct advantages of having children at 40+ that aren't commonly seen when women are younger.

My mom is 54 and she is a grandmother.....hmmmm

Sure, there are some highly educated women in their 30's who may be earning a strong income. But the advantage of women who are 40+ is that not only do more of them have a stronger education, they, more importantly, have had more time to accumulate MONEY (I'm being blunt and not cushioning my words diplomatically as one other poster asked me to do LOL). This brings them peace of mind, and it also allows them to quit their jobs if they desire to focus solely on raising their child as a SAHM. It has many advantages. The older moms also have more relationship stability.

This isn't to say 30+ moms are clueless, unproductive, or unable to raise children properly. This is to not deny advantages the 40+ moms have.

Will all of you people just stop! Just because you have a nice little nest egg or more education doesn't mean that you are going to be a better mother! Being a mother is something that you learn while raising your kid. "Financial Stability" or whatever you want to call yourself, I have a better name for you...how about "Self Righteous" Get off your high horse and come on back down to reality. Most of our mothers and grandmothers had their babies at a very young age and I am pretty damn sure that we all turned out just fine. My mother is my hero, she taught me patience, love, respect and trust....something I am currently teaching my son...and something that I don't need a college degree to instill in him. Everyone who is saying that women in their 40's with more money and more education will be better mothers, make me sick! Sounds like you need to grow up to me.

Silly goose. Have you learned nothing on this board? One has to be at least 37 [i] to have the wisdom to select the best developmental toys, foods, and apparel to equip a baby to ace a test and get into the only preschool in town that will be able to cope with their extraordinary, unprecedented talent, 99.9 percentile genius, and the sophistication that they've acquired living with such accomplished parents. After that, at about 41, a parent has what it takes to select the soccer program that will help them catch the eye of the Ivy League athletic recruiters, and have the money to deal with the Ivies' lack of scholarships, and then have the social experience to throw a wedding that makes the style section.

That is the ONLY way that a child can become a happy, well-developed person.

VERY FUNNY! I think that women in their 20's in the end will make better parents because we will have the stamina to run our children from soccer pratice to football practice and then on to basketball practice...where as the women in their 40's will be old and decrepit by the time their kid is 10....hey good luck with that....hope the osteoporosis doesn't effect your ability to take your kids out to the park and push them on the swing.

I don't have a dog in this fight (had my kids in my thirties, LOL), but I find it hysterical that this poster thinks someone at age 50 is "old and decrepit"--that, to me, says far more about this poster's general lack of maturity and zero knowledge about life than anything else! Reminds me of my six-year-old who thinks that anyone over about age fifteen is old, LOL.

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I don't have a dog in this fight (had my kids in my thirties, LOL), but I find it hysterical that this poster thinks someone at age 50 is "old and decrepit"--that, to me, says far more about this poster's general lack of maturity and zero knowledge about life than anything else! Reminds me of my six-year-old who thinks that anyone over about age fifteen is old, LOL.

LOL!

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We're only saying that as older mothers, society looks down on us - unfairly, I might add. And being older has its advantages - financial stability being one.

Society rightly looks down on you older mothers who refuse to accept that there are opportunity costs to any big decision. We're supposed to pretend that you're just like us in every way -- only richer -- and that there are no downsides to waiting a decade or two later. If only we all had the wisdom to make the superior, pre-geriatric choice...!

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Anonymous wrote:Not the first to point this out in this thread, but can we get a little middle ground, please? It's not either 19 or 45. Many people have children in their early thirties after several years of working. For example, I know many mothers who have recently had children after 6 or so years of law practice. They are financially stable AND still fairly young. So, it can't be that you have to be in your 40s to be financially stable, and, the comparison should not always be with unwed 19 year olds with little chance of financial sucess. I think people would feel less judgmental of you if they understood better why your 30s was not an appropriate time for you to have children, seeing as how many women are able to establish a career by this point in their lives. My guess is that the answers vary a lot, but I doubt that it takes most women 20 years post-college to become financially prepared to support a child, especially if you have a spouse who works. Anyway, please stop creating this 45 with 3 degrees vs. 19 and homeless dischotomy. The fact is that many women have kids b/t 30 and 35.

Financial Stability here. The subject of the post was whether 40 is too late to have kids. I think alot of older women sensed a lack of support from some here in their own decision to go ahead and have kids at 40+. So they all pointed out the distinct advantages of having children at 40+ that aren't commonly seen when women are younger.

Sure, there are some highly educated women in their 30's who may be earning a strong income. But the advantage of women who are 40+ is that not only do more of them have a stronger education, they, more importantly, have had more time to accumulate MONEY (I'm being blunt and not cushioning my words diplomatically as one other poster asked me to do LOL). This brings them peace of mind, and it also allows them to quit their jobs if they desire to focus solely on raising their child as a SAHM. It has many advantages. The older moms also have more relationship stability.

This isn't to say 30+ moms are clueless, unproductive, or unable to raise children properly. This is to not deny advantages the 40+ moms have.

Will all of you people just stop! Just because you have a nice little nest egg or more education doesn't mean that you are going to be a better mother! Being a mother is something that you learn while raising your kid. "Financial Stability" or whatever you want to call yourself, I have a better name for you...how about "Self Righteous" Get off your high horse and come on back down to reality. Most of our mothers and grandmothers had their babies at a very young age and I am pretty damn sure that we all turned out just fine. My mother is my hero, she taught me patience, love, respect and trust....something I am currently teaching my son...and something that I don't need a college degree to instill in him. Everyone who is saying that women in their 40's with more money and more education will be better mothers, make me sick! Sounds like you need to grow up to me.

Silly goose. Have you learned nothing on this board? One has to be at least 37 [i] to have the wisdom to select the best developmental toys, foods, and apparel to equip a baby to ace a test and get into the only preschool in town that will be able to cope with their extraordinary, unprecedented talent, 99.9 percentile genius, and the sophistication that they've acquired living with such accomplished parents. After that, at about 41, a parent has what it takes to select the soccer program that will help them catch the eye of the Ivy League athletic recruiters, and have the money to deal with the Ivies' lack of scholarships, and then have the social experience to throw a wedding that makes the style section.

That is the ONLY way that a child can become a happy, well-developed person.

VERY FUNNY! I think that women in their 20's in the end will make better parents because we will have the stamina to run our children from soccer pratice to football practice and then on to basketball practice...where as the women in their 40's will be old and decrepit by the time their kid is 10....hey good luck with that....hope the osteoporosis doesn't effect your ability to take your kids out to the park and push them on the swing.

I don't have a dog in this fight (had my kids in my thirties, LOL), but I find it hysterical that this poster thinks someone at age 50 is "old and decrepit"--that, to me, says far more about this poster's general lack of maturity and zero knowledge about life than anything else! Reminds me of my six-year-old who thinks that anyone over about age fifteen is old, LOL.

50 is much older than the normal "child bearing age" and my mother is 54 and is a grandmother...one more year and she will be eligible for the senior citizen discounts at the movie theater and IHOP.......How embarassing for a 10 year old to walk in with her "grandmother" looking mother flashing her AARP card....YUCK!

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I'm with you on that. Let's stop pretending that doing it in the mid-40s is the same as doing it in the mid-30s. It's not.

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Anonymous wrote:Not the first to point this out in this thread, but can we get a little middle ground, please? It's not either 19 or 45. Many people have children in their early thirties after several years of working. For example, I know many mothers who have recently had children after 6 or so years of law practice. They are financially stable AND still fairly young. So, it can't be that you have to be in your 40s to be financially stable, and, the comparison should not always be with unwed 19 year olds with little chance of financial sucess. I think people would feel less judgmental of you if they understood better why your 30s was not an appropriate time for you to have children, seeing as how many women are able to establish a career by this point in their lives. My guess is that the answers vary a lot, but I doubt that it takes most women 20 years post-college to become financially prepared to support a child, especially if you have a spouse who works. Anyway, please stop creating this 45 with 3 degrees vs. 19 and homeless dischotomy. The fact is that many women have kids b/t 30 and 35.

Financial Stability here. The subject of the post was whether 40 is too late to have kids. I think alot of older women sensed a lack of support from some here in their own decision to go ahead and have kids at 40+. So they all pointed out the distinct advantages of having children at 40+ that aren't commonly seen when women are younger.

Sure, there are some highly educated women in their 30's who may be earning a strong income. But the advantage of women who are 40+ is that not only do more of them have a stronger education, they, more importantly, have had more time to accumulate MONEY (I'm being blunt and not cushioning my words diplomatically as one other poster asked me to do LOL). This brings them peace of mind, and it also allows them to quit their jobs if they desire to focus solely on raising their child as a SAHM. It has many advantages. The older moms also have more relationship stability.

This isn't to say 30+ moms are clueless, unproductive, or unable to raise children properly. This is to not deny advantages the 40+ moms have.

Will all of you people just stop! Just because you have a nice little nest egg or more education doesn't mean that you are going to be a better mother! Being a mother is something that you learn while raising your kid. "Financial Stability" or whatever you want to call yourself, I have a better name for you...how about "Self Righteous" Get off your high horse and come on back down to reality. Most of our mothers and grandmothers had their babies at a very young age and I am pretty damn sure that we all turned out just fine. My mother is my hero, she taught me patience, love, respect and trust....something I am currently teaching my son...and something that I don't need a college degree to instill in him. Everyone who is saying that women in their 40's with more money and more education will be better mothers, make me sick! Sounds like you need to grow up to me.

Silly goose. Have you learned nothing on this board? One has to be at least 37 [i] to have the wisdom to select the best developmental toys, foods, and apparel to equip a baby to ace a test and get into the only preschool in town that will be able to cope with their extraordinary, unprecedented talent, 99.9 percentile genius, and the sophistication that they've acquired living with such accomplished parents. After that, at about 41, a parent has what it takes to select the soccer program that will help them catch the eye of the Ivy League athletic recruiters, and have the money to deal with the Ivies' lack of scholarships, and then have the social experience to throw a wedding that makes the style section.

That is the ONLY way that a child can become a happy, well-developed person.

VERY FUNNY! I think that women in their 20's in the end will make better parents because we will have the stamina to run our children from soccer pratice to football practice and then on to basketball practice...where as the women in their 40's will be old and decrepit by the time their kid is 10....hey good luck with that....hope the osteoporosis doesn't effect your ability to take your kids out to the park and push them on the swing.

HEY! I'M 40 AND JUST RAN 10 MILES IN UNDER AN HOUR! THAT'S UNDER A 6 MILE MILE!!! I BET YOU CAN'T KEEP UP WITH ME! I ALSO HAVE 4 KIDS ALL UNDER 8 AND HAVE NO PROBLEM KEPINGUP WITH ALL THEIR SCHOOL AND ATHELTIC EVENTS!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm with you on that. Let's stop pretending that doing it in the mid-40s is the same as doing it in the mid-30s. It's not.

Amen...10 years makes a world of difference.

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Anonymous wrote:Not the first to point this out in this thread, but can we get a little middle ground, please? It's not either 19 or 45. Many people have children in their early thirties after several years of working. For example, I know many mothers who have recently had children after 6 or so years of law practice. They are financially stable AND still fairly young. So, it can't be that you have to be in your 40s to be financially stable, and, the comparison should not always be with unwed 19 year olds with little chance of financial sucess. I think people would feel less judgmental of you if they understood better why your 30s was not an appropriate time for you to have children, seeing as how many women are able to establish a career by this point in their lives. My guess is that the answers vary a lot, but I doubt that it takes most women 20 years post-college to become financially prepared to support a child, especially if you have a spouse who works. Anyway, please stop creating this 45 with 3 degrees vs. 19 and homeless dischotomy. The fact is that many women have kids b/t 30 and 35.

Financial Stability here. The subject of the post was whether 40 is too late to have kids. I think alot of older women sensed a lack of support from some here in their own decision to go ahead and have kids at 40+. So they all pointed out the distinct advantages of having children at 40+ that aren't commonly seen when women are younger.

Sure, there are some highly educated women in their 30's who may be earning a strong income. But the advantage of women who are 40+ is that not only do more of them have a stronger education, they, more importantly, have had more time to accumulate MONEY (I'm being blunt and not cushioning my words diplomatically as one other poster asked me to do LOL). This brings them peace of mind, and it also allows them to quit their jobs if they desire to focus solely on raising their child as a SAHM. It has many advantages. The older moms also have more relationship stability.

This isn't to say 30+ moms are clueless, unproductive, or unable to raise children properly. This is to not deny advantages the 40+ moms have.

Will all of you people just stop! Just because you have a nice little nest egg or more education doesn't mean that you are going to be a better mother! Being a mother is something that you learn while raising your kid. "Financial Stability" or whatever you want to call yourself, I have a better name for you...how about "Self Righteous" Get off your high horse and come on back down to reality. Most of our mothers and grandmothers had their babies at a very young age and I am pretty damn sure that we all turned out just fine. My mother is my hero, she taught me patience, love, respect and trust....something I am currently teaching my son...and something that I don't need a college degree to instill in him. Everyone who is saying that women in their 40's with more money and more education will be better mothers, make me sick! Sounds like you need to grow up to me.

Silly goose. Have you learned nothing on this board? One has to be at least 37 [i] to have the wisdom to select the best developmental toys, foods, and apparel to equip a baby to ace a test and get into the only preschool in town that will be able to cope with their extraordinary, unprecedented talent, 99.9 percentile genius, and the sophistication that they've acquired living with such accomplished parents. After that, at about 41, a parent has what it takes to select the soccer program that will help them catch the eye of the Ivy League athletic recruiters, and have the money to deal with the Ivies' lack of scholarships, and then have the social experience to throw a wedding that makes the style section.

That is the ONLY way that a child can become a happy, well-developed person.

VERY FUNNY! I think that women in their 20's in the end will make better parents because we will have the stamina to run our children from soccer pratice to football practice and then on to basketball practice...where as the women in their 40's will be old and decrepit by the time their kid is 10....hey good luck with that....hope the osteoporosis doesn't effect your ability to take your kids out to the park and push them on the swing.

HEY! I'M 40 AND JUST RAN 10 MILES IN UNDER AN HOUR! THAT'S UNDER A 6 MILE MILE!!! I BET YOU CAN'T KEEP UP WITH ME! I ALSO HAVE 4 KIDS ALL UNDER 8 AND HAVE NO PROBLEM KEPINGUP WITH ALL THEIR SCHOOL AND ATHELTIC EVENTS!

Good for you...you'll be 50 in 10 years while I will be only 38....talk to me then

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Anonymous wrote:Not the first to point this out in this thread, but can we get a little middle ground, please? It's not either 19 or 45. Many people have children in their early thirties after several years of working. For example, I know many mothers who have recently had children after 6 or so years of law practice. They are financially stable AND still fairly young. So, it can't be that you have to be in your 40s to be financially stable, and, the comparison should not always be with unwed 19 year olds with little chance of financial sucess. I think people would feel less judgmental of you if they understood better why your 30s was not an appropriate time for you to have children, seeing as how many women are able to establish a career by this point in their lives. My guess is that the answers vary a lot, but I doubt that it takes most women 20 years post-college to become financially prepared to support a child, especially if you have a spouse who works. Anyway, please stop creating this 45 with 3 degrees vs. 19 and homeless dischotomy. The fact is that many women have kids b/t 30 and 35.

Financial Stability here. The subject of the post was whether 40 is too late to have kids. I think alot of older women sensed a lack of support from some here in their own decision to go ahead and have kids at 40+. So they all pointed out the distinct advantages of having children at 40+ that aren't commonly seen when women are younger.

Sure, there are some highly educated women in their 30's who may be earning a strong income. But the advantage of women who are 40+ is that not only do more of them have a stronger education, they, more importantly, have had more time to accumulate MONEY (I'm being blunt and not cushioning my words diplomatically as one other poster asked me to do LOL). This brings them peace of mind, and it also allows them to quit their jobs if they desire to focus solely on raising their child as a SAHM. It has many advantages. The older moms also have more relationship stability.

This isn't to say 30+ moms are clueless, unproductive, or unable to raise children properly. This is to not deny advantages the 40+ moms have.

Will all of you people just stop! Just because you have a nice little nest egg or more education doesn't mean that you are going to be a better mother! Being a mother is something that you learn while raising your kid. "Financial Stability" or whatever you want to call yourself, I have a better name for you...how about "Self Righteous" Get off your high horse and come on back down to reality. Most of our mothers and grandmothers had their babies at a very young age and I am pretty damn sure that we all turned out just fine. My mother is my hero, she taught me patience, love, respect and trust....something I am currently teaching my son...and something that I don't need a college degree to instill in him. Everyone who is saying that women in their 40's with more money and more education will be better mothers, make me sick! Sounds like you need to grow up to me.

Silly goose. Have you learned nothing on this board? One has to be at least 37 [i] to have the wisdom to select the best developmental toys, foods, and apparel to equip a baby to ace a test and get into the only preschool in town that will be able to cope with their extraordinary, unprecedented talent, 99.9 percentile genius, and the sophistication that they've acquired living with such accomplished parents. After that, at about 41, a parent has what it takes to select the soccer program that will help them catch the eye of the Ivy League athletic recruiters, and have the money to deal with the Ivies' lack of scholarships, and then have the social experience to throw a wedding that makes the style section.

That is the ONLY way that a child can become a happy, well-developed person.

VERY FUNNY! I think that women in their 20's in the end will make better parents because we will have the stamina to run our children from soccer pratice to football practice and then on to basketball practice...where as the women in their 40's will be old and decrepit by the time their kid is 10....hey good luck with that....hope the osteoporosis doesn't effect your ability to take your kids out to the park and push them on the swing.

HEY! I'M 40 AND JUST RAN 10 MILES IN UNDER AN HOUR! THAT'S UNDER A 6 MILE MILE!!! I BET YOU CAN'T KEEP UP WITH ME! I ALSO HAVE 4 KIDS ALL UNDER 8 AND HAVE NO PROBLEM KEPINGUP WITH ALL THEIR SCHOOL AND ATHELTIC EVENTS!

Good for you...you'll be 50 in 10 years while I will be only 38....talk to me then

Some day you will be 50, sweetheart, believe it or not. I guess you haven't picked up that little bit of wisdom yet. And when it happens, I hope you are going through menopause and the memory of this dialogue has your breaking out in a sweat of shame.

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Anonymous wrote:Not the first to point this out in this thread, but can we get a little middle ground, please? It's not either 19 or 45. Many people have children in their early thirties after several years of working. For example, I know many mothers who have recently had children after 6 or so years of law practice. They are financially stable AND still fairly young. So, it can't be that you have to be in your 40s to be financially stable, and, the comparison should not always be with unwed 19 year olds with little chance of financial sucess. I think people would feel less judgmental of you if they understood better why your 30s was not an appropriate time for you to have children, seeing as how many women are able to establish a career by this point in their lives. My guess is that the answers vary a lot, but I doubt that it takes most women 20 years post-college to become financially prepared to support a child, especially if you have a spouse who works. Anyway, please stop creating this 45 with 3 degrees vs. 19 and homeless dischotomy. The fact is that many women have kids b/t 30 and 35.

Financial Stability here. The subject of the post was whether 40 is too late to have kids. I think alot of older women sensed a lack of support from some here in their own decision to go ahead and have kids at 40+. So they all pointed out the distinct advantages of having children at 40+ that aren't commonly seen when women are younger.

Sure, there are some highly educated women in their 30's who may be earning a strong income. But the advantage of women who are 40+ is that not only do more of them have a stronger education, they, more importantly, have had more time to accumulate MONEY (I'm being blunt and not cushioning my words diplomatically as one other poster asked me to do LOL). This brings them peace of mind, and it also allows them to quit their jobs if they desire to focus solely on raising their child as a SAHM. It has many advantages. The older moms also have more relationship stability.

This isn't to say 30+ moms are clueless, unproductive, or unable to raise children properly. This is to not deny advantages the 40+ moms have.

Will all of you people just stop! Just because you have a nice little nest egg or more education doesn't mean that you are going to be a better mother! Being a mother is something that you learn while raising your kid. "Financial Stability" or whatever you want to call yourself, I have a better name for you...how about "Self Righteous" Get off your high horse and come on back down to reality. Most of our mothers and grandmothers had their babies at a very young age and I am pretty damn sure that we all turned out just fine. My mother is my hero, she taught me patience, love, respect and trust....something I am currently teaching my son...and something that I don't need a college degree to instill in him. Everyone who is saying that women in their 40's with more money and more education will be better mothers, make me sick! Sounds like you need to grow up to me.

Silly goose. Have you learned nothing on this board? One has to be at least 37 [i] to have the wisdom to select the best developmental toys, foods, and apparel to equip a baby to ace a test and get into the only preschool in town that will be able to cope with their extraordinary, unprecedented talent, 99.9 percentile genius, and the sophistication that they've acquired living with such accomplished parents. After that, at about 41, a parent has what it takes to select the soccer program that will help them catch the eye of the Ivy League athletic recruiters, and have the money to deal with the Ivies' lack of scholarships, and then have the social experience to throw a wedding that makes the style section.

That is the ONLY way that a child can become a happy, well-developed person.

VERY FUNNY! I think that women in their 20's in the end will make better parents because we will have the stamina to run our children from soccer pratice to football practice and then on to basketball practice...where as the women in their 40's will be old and decrepit by the time their kid is 10....hey good luck with that....hope the osteoporosis doesn't effect your ability to take your kids out to the park and push them on the swing.

HEY! I'M 40 AND JUST RAN 10 MILES IN UNDER AN HOUR! THAT'S UNDER A 6 MILE MILE!!! I BET YOU CAN'T KEEP UP WITH ME! I ALSO HAVE 4 KIDS ALL UNDER 8 AND HAVE NO PROBLEM KEPINGUP WITH ALL THEIR SCHOOL AND ATHELTIC EVENTS!

Good for you...you'll be 50 in 10 years while I will be only 38....talk to me then

Some day you will be 50, sweetheart, believe it or not. I guess you haven't picked up that little bit of wisdom yet. And when it happens, I hope you are going through menopause and the memory of this dialogue has your breaking out in a sweat of shame.

Yeah, but when I'm 50...my kid will be 24 and I will be able to enjoy my retirement.....how's that bit of wisdom for you sweet pea?

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"Good for you...you'll be 50 in 10 years while I will be only 38....talk to me then"

"VERY FUNNY! I think that women in their 20's in the end will make better parents because we will have the stamina to run our children from soccer pratice to football practice and then on to basketball practice...where as the women in their 40's will be old and decrepit by the time their kid is 10....hey good luck with that....hope the osteoporosis doesn't effect your ability to take your kids out to the park and push them on the swing. "

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WHO are you, you crazy young gals? Thanks for proving that immaturity rules this thread! I'll take my 10 years, thank you. When you grow up and figure out how to handle your life, you can come to the "mature" ones.

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Anonymous wrote:"Good for you...you'll be 50 in 10 years while I will be only 38....talk to me then"

"VERY FUNNY! I think that women in their 20's in the end will make better parents because we will have the stamina to run our children from soccer pratice to football practice and then on to basketball practice...where as the women in their 40's will be old and decrepit by the time their kid is 10....hey good luck with that....hope the osteoporosis doesn't effect your ability to take your kids out to the park and push them on the swing. "

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WHO are you, you crazy young gals? Thanks for proving that immaturity rules this thread! I'll take my 10 years, thank you. When you grow up and figure out how to handle your life, you can come to the "mature" ones.

OHHHHHH it's okay for the over 40 women to talk trash about the 20 year old mothers...but then when we start sticking up for ourselves then we are immature?? Sounds like most of you women can't take the heat...so get on out of the kitchen!