Are those grandparents who are worried about being "too far away" from grandchildren unaware of airplanes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of this comes down to the myth that you can’t express love without being physically close and hyper-involved. Grandparents who can’t or don’t travel or get to see their grandkids all the time don’t love them less and aren’t loved less.

What we’re talking about is insistent neediness from boomers. It’s not about you! If you are filled with genuine love, that will show and be repaid! Don’t force it!

Well that's not true. Grandkids absolutely love grandparents more if they see them more. Seeing someone once a year is not enough to establish a relationship at all, much less be really loved. They barely know them. My mother lives nearby and has been like a second mother to my son and he loves her like one. But he couldn't care less about the grandparents he sees once a year for a day or two, and doesn't even particularly care about the ones he sees once a month for a couple hours. Physical closeness absolutely matters. What nonsense to suggest otherwise.

+1. I saw my grandparents almost every day growing up. My grandmother was my best buddy and would take me to my piano and dance lessons. Later when I started driving we would drive all over town together just the two of us going to restaurants, shopping etc. It was awesome and totally different than having grandparents you see every few months.

[Anonymous]

Once a week/several times a month is much different than once a year/once every few months, but no, you don't need to live there