I'm raising my daughter to be 'traditional wife' one day

[Anonymous]

Can I re-raise myself to stay at home and bake? I love that plan. I don't want to go into the office tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can I re-raise myself to stay at home and bake? I love that plan. I don't want to go into the office tomorrow.

It’s never too late! Look into FI/RE movement.

[Anonymous]

Nothing is stopping you from quitting your job, marrying a dude that can afford to pay rent on his income alone. You can enjoy staying at home, baking, tidying up and dressing up as a dutiful 1950's era wife for him.

Just don't complain when he dumps you after 10 or 15 years and there are little in the way of marital assets to split, you have no recent work history and you haven't taken a class in years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A man is not a plan.

Actually for many women it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing is stopping you from quitting your job, marrying a dude that can afford to pay rent on his income alone. You can enjoy staying at home, baking, tidying up and dressing up as a dutiful 1950's era wife for him.

Just don't complain when he dumps you after 10 or 15 years and there are little in the way of marital assets to split, you have no recent work history and you haven't taken a class in years.

Then she will want to together with a dude named Ali Mony.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing is stopping you from quitting your job, marrying a dude that can afford to pay rent on his income alone. You can enjoy staying at home, baking, tidying up and dressing up as a dutiful 1950's era wife for him.

Just don't complain when he dumps you after 10 or 15 years and there are little in the way of marital assets to split, you have no recent work history and you haven't taken a class in years.

How about she agrees not to complain if he dumps her if you agree not to complain if he DOESN’T dump her and instead she gets to be the happy, stress-free housewife who is adored by her husband while you are still grinding away wondering whether you or your DH will have the next affair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing is stopping you from quitting your job, marrying a dude that can afford to pay rent on his income alone. You can enjoy staying at home, baking, tidying up and dressing up as a dutiful 1950's era wife for him.

Just don't complain when he dumps you after 10 or 15 years and there are little in the way of marital assets to split, you have no recent work history and you haven't taken a class in years.

How about she agrees not to complain if he dumps her if you agree not to complain if he DOESN’T dump her and instead she gets to be the happy, stress-free housewife who is adored by her husband while you are still grinding away wondering whether you or your DH will have the next affair.

If. Her life is based on total ifs. He has all the power. If there are no marital assets, he can walk away , keep his career and solid work history and she is left with 50 percent of nothing plus no way to support herself.
Pick up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing is stopping you from quitting your job, marrying a dude that can afford to pay rent on his income alone. You can enjoy staying at home, baking, tidying up and dressing up as a dutiful 1950's era wife for him.

Just don't complain when he dumps you after 10 or 15 years and there are little in the way of marital assets to split, you have no recent work history and you haven't taken a class in years.

How about she agrees not to complain if he dumps her if you agree not to complain if he DOESN’T dump her and instead she gets to be the happy, stress-free housewife who is adored by her husband while you are still grinding away wondering whether you or your DH will have the next affair.

No one is rooting for him to dump her.

Everyone is worried that they’re going to be asked to pick up the pieces when he does. Because their kids will need to eat— read the article linked in earlier in the thread about how fun the SNAP office was for the former tradwife.

And people will want to help someone who has no skills AND has raised her daughter to have no skills. Great!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A man is not a plan.

Actually for many women it is.

And then they’ll end up like my friend’s mom, who was literally stuffing cash into nooks and crannies in their home for years, thinking she was building a stockpile and an exit strategy due to his constant infidelity. During a family holiday, the kids were playing a game and a piece rolled under a big china cabinet. The dads moved it and oops, here’s several thousand and grandma’s got a lot of explaining to do. Her husband was furious. State senator. He left her a year later and she got nothing, and got intensely audited, searched, etc., because the judge agreed that it was likely she had money stashed and hidden.

[Anonymous]

Why Women Kill.

[Anonymous]

I think we get into trouble when we talk about tradwives of not being "capable" of more. It's relative. I know plenty of full time WOHMs who are far less capable of lives skills as SAHMs who can run their families and homes like well oiled machines.

I thought I wanted to be a trad wife. Turns out I am really loving my career and being a mom at the same time.

Raise your kids to be capable people. Get the best grades they can at the most rigorous courses they can handle. Teach them how to be healthy though exercise and nutrition and common sense. How to cook, how to buy a train ticket, how to change a tire, all of that. How to choose a college that suits them and not someone else's image.

Then their life will happen to them just like it happens to everyone else. And they'll be as ready as they could have been.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A man is not a plan.

Actually for many women it is.

And then they’ll end up like my friend’s mom, who was literally stuffing cash into nooks and crannies in their home for years, thinking she was building a stockpile and an exit strategy due to his constant infidelity. During a family holiday, the kids were playing a game and a piece rolled under a big china cabinet. The dads moved it and oops, here’s several thousand and grandma’s got a lot of explaining to do. Her husband was furious. State senator. He left her a year later and she got nothing, and got intensely audited, searched, etc., because the judge agreed that it was likely she had money stashed and hidden.

Cool story. And the likelihood of that being a regular thing is low.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing is stopping you from quitting your job, marrying a dude that can afford to pay rent on his income alone. You can enjoy staying at home, baking, tidying up and dressing up as a dutiful 1950's era wife for him.

Just don't complain when he dumps you after 10 or 15 years and there are little in the way of marital assets to split, you have no recent work history and you haven't taken a class in years.

How about she agrees not to complain if he dumps her if you agree not to complain if he DOESN’T dump her and instead she gets to be the happy, stress-free housewife who is adored by her husband while you are still grinding away wondering whether you or your DH will have the next affair.

If. Her life is based on total ifs. He has all the power. If there are no marital assets, he can walk away , keep his career and solid work history and she is left with 50 percent of nothing plus no way to support herself.
Pick up

I’ve got bad news for you, ma’am. ALL of our lives are based on “ifs”. No one is guaranteed tomorrow. I mean maybe some parents are planning on slowing down and spending more time with their kids once they complete that next project or get that next promotion, and then a car accident or a heart attack or cancer happens, and that’s it. They missed their chance. Maybe you’re hustling to set your kid up go to whatever college they choose, but your kid is determined to leave home at 18 and try to make it in Hollywood. Money is a resource for sure, obviously, but so is time. And time is the only resource you are guaranteed to never get back.

Take a chance and try to have a happy life. Maybe it will work out and maybe it won’t, but that’s just life.

[Anonymous]

I’m a married conservative ( politically) non-religious woman. I consider myself traditional in many ways, but I don’t subscribe to this trad wives movement. I feel like women have been traditional for many years, and it’s not some trend that hot at the moment.

I don’t stay at home FT because I worked hard for my career and believe keeping myself up career wise is really important. I do enjoy taking care of my family by creating a loving and peaceful home, nourishing them with home cooked meals, and enjoying one-on-one attention with all of them. I compromised and I work PT while enjoying the benefits of being home with my kids more.

Being a traditional woman doesn’t always mean being a homemaker. I’m traditional in my values and “ submitting” to my husband.

I also do not understand the outrage. What is so wrong with providing a safe and loving home for your family? I may not fully provide financially, but I provide in ways my husband can’t. We are a team and this dynamic wouldn’t work without both of us doing our respective roles.

Women can have careers or choose to stay at home. Their choice is theirs.

I also have two boys and I will teach them basic tasks that every adult should know. Every human, regardless of gender, should know how to do laundry, cook basic meals, clean, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a married conservative ( politically) non-religious woman. I consider myself traditional in many ways, but I don’t subscribe to this trad wives movement. I feel like women have been traditional for many years, and it’s not some trend that hot at the moment.

I don’t stay at home FT because I worked hard for my career and believe keeping myself up career wise is really important. I do enjoy taking care of my family by creating a loving and peaceful home, nourishing them with home cooked meals, and enjoying one-on-one attention with all of them. I compromised and I work PT while enjoying the benefits of being home with my kids more.

Being a traditional woman doesn’t always mean being a homemaker. I’m traditional in my values and “ submitting” to my husband.

I also do not understand the outrage. What is so wrong with providing a safe and loving home for your family? I may not fully provide financially, but I provide in ways my husband can’t. We are a team and this dynamic wouldn’t work without both of us doing our respective roles.

Women can have careers or choose to stay at home. Their choice is theirs.

I also have two boys and I will teach them basic tasks that every adult should know. Every human, regardless of gender, should know how to do laundry, cook basic meals, clean, etc.

Great and respectful post.