How to get around teen freezing Life 360

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why my teens don’t do this stuff. I don’t think it’s superior parenting. Just luck I guess. I have other forms of bad luck, but so far not this.

I really hope it is good luck for you.

But I will point out that ALL parents think that their kids don't do this stuff, unless or until they get caught. I'm not saying your kids do it. I'm saying you just can't be sure.

I say this as a parent who has no reason to believe her kids do this stuff, and as someone who absolutely DID do this stuff as a teen and never got caught.

Maybe. But the “crowds” that do this stuff are a little too cool for my kids, even though they are acquaintance-type friends with them. And thanks to social media nowadays, everyone knows who is in the drinking groups.

I am curious how you know who the drinking groups are? You are saying ppl post tik toks and ig posts of under age drinking?

Yes, they post on social media with solo cups or drinks in cuzies. Also, my kids know kids who do go to the parties and tell them who was there and who was the drunkest. There are also videos of people being drunk. Plus the kids brag about the drinking - it’s not cool if people don’t know you do it! Nothing is a secret. Nothing.

I would really caution against concluding that the group of kids that are openly public about their drinking are the ONLY kids drinking (or doing drugs).

This is so true. My DD was a nerd and I never thought she ever drank in HS and she told me she did a good amount of times at sleepovers, parties, and she even vaped sometimes. I was honestly shocked.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why my teens don’t do this stuff. I don’t think it’s superior parenting. Just luck I guess. I have other forms of bad luck, but so far not this.

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I think there are kids born with better impulse control and better foresight about the consequences of actions. Others simply have to learn everything the hard way and are more prone to boundary pushing and limits testing.

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Anonymous wrote:How old is the teen, and what are you worried they are doing when they have location turned off?

We just had this discussed in our house. 17 year old wants privacy and not to be tracked. He does occasionally go to “hang outs” he sometimes has beer. He swears he never has and never will drink and drive. We talked about what good the tracking does us - it doesn’t let us keep our kid safe and alive, which is what we’d like to do. It does allow us to catch him in a lie if he wants to lie to us and we want to snoop.

We agreed to skip it. Everyone in the family has Life360, but we all agreed to use it for checking when people will be home, that they are still alive on a road trip without texting for updates, etc. Our life has been more peaceful and I worry a lot less than I did when I checked the tracking more.

This is clearly age and kid dependent. I have a kid who is almost and adult, and he is generally a kind and thoughtful person who doesn’t get into trouble very often. A younger kid is a different story.

We do have a hard and fast rule that if kid breaks rules in the car (excessive speed, drinking and driving) we take the car keys. You could do the same with the phone - disable Life360 and the phone goes away. There is also a premium version of Life360 that can’t be disabled. But kids can just leave their phones someplace allowed while they go make mischief. Tracking may not actually keep them safe. It does make you crazy checking, though. I know that from experience!

That is not true. You can still offload the app or delete the app outright, or yes leave your phone in the location your parents think you will be. It doesn't matter if it is premium or not.

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OP, the way to know if they are trying to freeze is to see when it was last updated and if you refresh and theirs can’t, they tried to freeze it. Oh and if their battery life stays the same.

Like “last updated 3 hours ago”

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Anonymous wrote:OP, the way to know if they are trying to freeze is to see when it was last updated and if you refresh and theirs can’t, they tried to freeze it. Oh and if their battery life stays the same.

Like “last updated 3 hours ago”

This is true. I was in bed last night and saw this and I would initially think they were home. But I tried to refresh and it didn't. So I checked his bed and he wasn't there. Caught. Went to a party with friends. Left at 12:45am supposedly (it was 1:30am when I checked) and had him home by 2am in an uber. Said it was his first time doing it. I doubt it. He seemed sober. Took his phone and not sure how long to punish him for. But anyway, glad I read this post. I would have been clueless.

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Any update OP?

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When are people just going to start implanting trackers in their kids?

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Anonymous wrote:When are people just going to start implanting trackers in their kids?

If you don’t want to track them, don’t give them a phone. Simple

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Anonymous wrote:When are people just going to start implanting trackers in their kids?

If you don’t want to track them, don’t give them a phone. Simple

DP, but this isn't even logical. If you don't want to track them, then...don't. Having a phone doesn't mean you have to use every feature.

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Anonymous wrote:When are people just going to start implanting trackers in their kids?

If you don’t want to track them, don’t give them a phone. Simple

DP, but this isn't even logical. If you don't want to track them, then...don't. Having a phone doesn't mean you have to use every feature.

This went way over your head sweetie.

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Anonymous wrote:When are people just going to start implanting trackers in their kids?

If you don’t want to track them, don’t give them a phone. Simple

DP, but this isn't even logical. If you don't want to track them, then...don't. Having a phone doesn't mean you have to use every feature.

I agree, what strange logic. I cannot for the life of me understand how parents can't see how ridiculous they are. Do any of you go back and read these posts? Are you capable of putting yourself in your teenagers' shoes? My two kids have made it safely into sophomore and senior years of college without me ever putting tracking devices on their phones. I allowed them the age-appropriate need for privacy, testing limits, having a little bit of fun, without their parents knowing every action and where they were at all times. I don't even think you should take away phones when they sneak out. The phones have nothing to do with sneaking out, drinking, etc. Use other punishments, consequences, get them therapy. But tracking? Please just stop. You're doing it only for you and your peace of mind and not for them, and that's not fair.

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Anonymous wrote:When are people just going to start implanting trackers in their kids?

If you don’t want to track them, don’t give them a phone. Simple

DP, but this isn't even logical. If you don't want to track them, then...don't. Having a phone doesn't mean you have to use every feature.

This went way over your head sweetie.

I am a different poster, and I don't get it, sweetie. I think you may not be as clever as you think you are.

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Anonymous wrote:When are people just going to start implanting trackers in their kids?

If you don’t want to track them, don’t give them a phone. Simple

DP, but this isn't even logical. If you don't want to track them, then...don't. Having a phone doesn't mean you have to use every feature.

I agree, what strange logic. I cannot for the life of me understand how parents can't see how ridiculous they are. Do any of you go back and read these posts? Are you capable of putting yourself in your teenagers' shoes? My two kids have made it safely into sophomore and senior years of college without me ever putting tracking devices on their phones. I allowed them the age-appropriate need for privacy, testing limits, having a little bit of fun, without their parents knowing every action and where they were at all times. I don't even think you should take away phones when they sneak out. The phones have nothing to do with sneaking out, drinking, etc. Use other punishments, consequences, get them therapy. But tracking? Please just stop. You're doing it only for you and your peace of mind and not for them, and that's not fair.

Wait wait wait.

You are saying let them keep their phone when they sneak out? Just get them into therapy? LOL

How did we all sneak out and survive without therapy?

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Anonymous wrote:When are people just going to start implanting trackers in their kids?

If you don’t want to track them, don’t give them a phone. Simple

DP, but this isn't even logical. If you don't want to track them, then...don't. Having a phone doesn't mean you have to use every feature.

This went way over your head sweetie.

I am a different poster, and I don't get it, sweetie. I think you may not be as clever as you think you are.

I think the point is (and I am not PP) that we are giving young children phones with every app and internet. They grow up really fast really quick now. And entitlement of they own that phone and can do what they please is not it. The phone is the parent's phone that they pay for and it is a privilege for a kid/teen to have it. If the parents want to track the family, that is part of the phone. Most families do it just to locate each other. I know my introverted teen isn't sneaking out, but when he is in the boonies at a friend's I just click on take me there and go. When he wants to know how far away I am from picking him up, he just checks. It's really not a big deal. And if you aren't hiding anything in your family it's great. If you are a teen that wants to get away with things, well I guess it sucks. But then pay for your own phone.

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Anonymous wrote:When are people just going to start implanting trackers in their kids?

What do they can dog them out of find some metal to cover it to block the signal?