How to get around teen freezing Life 360

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously stop tracking your kid. People parented for thousands of years without doing this.

My kid is 14 so no

They don’t drive so your tracking their walking?

Are you kidding pp

Tracking whether they are sneaking out. Or really at a friends house. Or really at a sleepover, or really studying at home (if you are elsewhere)

Some teens lie and sneak. I have 3 of them and 1 is trying to break the rules every darn day. So I get it.

So let me get this straight. You did such a poor job raising your child to this point they engage in these behaviors? And you haven’t learned from your past mistakes and want to hover still?

Glad you have a great kid! It’s easy to judge when you do. I have multiple kids. One is harder and a rule breaker and the other two wouldn’t dream of it - it’s not always parenting.

Disagree.
It’s 99% parenting.
The problem is in thinking that you can parent different children in the same way/method and it will “take” for each kid in the same way.
It may not.
So you try something else.
But at the heart of it is establishing boundaries in a way that they internalize so that they are partners with you on holding the line.

Not the PP but I 100% disagree with you. I couldn't for the life of my understand why 1 of my 4 kids was so different. Defiant, impulsive, risk taker, etc... Beyond a late ADHD diagnosis (because they aren't hyper or lack focus and have good grades) we went even further and did a neurosych eval and received multiple diagnosis. Brains aren't all wired the same, each individual has a personality even as a baby, and personal things that have happened to them (bullying, exclusion, poor teacher, terrible coach, etc...) absolutely play into who they are. Kids and teens are NOT robots that just cater to the exact needs to a specific parenting.

I hear you. My own kid that is significantly more challenging than his siblings also has ADHD and emotional regulation issues. He struggles with impulse control and doesn’t respond as easily to consequences (aka he has to get them over and over again to learn). It’s really hard.

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Anonymous wrote:Apparently the people commenting either don't have teen children or have kids who sit inside on a device. Some people have teens who are out riding bikes, skateboards and scooters ALL DAY! ITS LIFE FOR THEM! So yes, parents with active children and children who go out a lot need Life360. Perfect parents and perfect children....just wait! That or they have no friends and sit inside with Mommy and Daddy all day!

Why do you need Life360? Isn’t find your iPhone enough

For location settings yes. Life 360 also gives information on speed and timing of travel etc.

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Anonymous wrote:I personally have done work around for Find my, where I switch the location to my iPad rather than phone so it looks like I’m at home. Easy to do and no one is the wiser, UNLESS they check the “device” find my, then it would be obvious where I really am

Are you a teen or adult?

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I agree in the Freedom, but have also caught my kid with location off at the store waiting for another older friend to buy him beer... my rule is "you are on my insurance and are my responsibility, you want out of tracking, get your own insurance, pay your own car payments and be older than 17.. we have parented for a 5000 years without technology..but things are different now, safety and legalities considered

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Anonymous wrote:I really love all the support and judgemental comments. I have a 16 year old who frequently leaves the house without permission. We are great supportive parents who want their teens to have freedom but also follow the rules. She disables the location sharing on this app which is why I hate this app. They should include a feature that keeps them from disabling the location sharing. Some of us with troubled teens need this app!

Here’s my question. What do you mean without permission? Is this kid grounded? Bc if they have spent their whole teen years having to get permission to do anything, of course this happened. My kids come and go as they please and the trade off is they need to keep location on and I do not restrict outside of a fairly loose curfew and knowledge that at least one trusted friend is with them (important for girls for safety). I get that kids are doing this but it’s been my experience that many kids kept on a tight leash (needing to ask to hang out after school as a high schooler) usually rebel in this way much worse than those given autonomy in their choices within a loose boundary.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok so I found out there are hacks to freeze life 360 so it looks like a teen is in one location but isn’t. It used to be just turning off cellular data so your location doesn’t refresh, but now it seems like offloading the app works too. Is there anyway to make it reliable to parents or do I download another tracker app and hide it on their phone?

Has anyone had success with another app? I am also thinking of Find my iPhone - with a parent lock but wasn’t sure if there were ways to get around it.

You can't solve a social problem with a technical solution.

As a parent, you should bring enough pressure to bear so that your child chooses to keep tracking enabled, or stays home.

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Anonymous wrote:I really love all the support and judgemental comments. I have a 16 year old who frequently leaves the house without permission. We are great supportive parents who want their teens to have freedom but also follow the rules. She disables the location sharing on this app which is why I hate this app. They should include a feature that keeps them from disabling the location sharing. Some of us with troubled teens need this app!

Can't fit a phone-shaped peg into an round hole.

Ankle monitor.

Tracker welded to vehicle.

Spy network among peers.

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Anonymous wrote:My teen will fight if I try to take phone away after asking for it multiple times. She can call police and say I hit her. What to do???

Call her bluff. It’s mot illegal to hit your kid. It is illegal, however, to file a false police report

Doesn't matter; getting hit and false police report have the same consequences (if there are many consequences): child being removed from the home as put somewhere far, far worse.

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Anonymous wrote:I am surprised how many people track their kids. I haven't really thought about it. I was the "bad" kid growing up but I am not sure my parents tracking me would have changed anything.

In get the anxiety about not knowing for sure where your kids are but when does it stop? If you feed the anxiety now won't It just continue when kids are in college or out of college?

I track mynm adult child, and vice versa. No anxiety. Connection.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok so I found out there are hacks to freeze life 360 so it looks like a teen is in one location but isn’t. It used to be just turning off cellular data so your location doesn’t refresh, but now it seems like offloading the app works too. Is there anyway to make it reliable to parents or do I download another tracker app and hide it on their phone?

Has anyone had success with another app? I am also thinking of Find my iPhone - with a parent lock but wasn’t sure if there were ways to get around it.

change the locks to the house then say you are going to pick them up from where their life 360 is and they have to scramble back to where they where. Or you can just take their phone for a month BUT still allow them to go out without it. Teach them how we did it in the old days.

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They are sneaking and breaking the rules because of how strict you are being. As soon as they turn 18 they are only going to hide everything they can from you because of how much you invaded their privacy in the past and they are never going to want to share anything with you as an adult. Try and save your relationship with them while you can before it’s too late.

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My granddaughter is 17 and she turned off her life 360. Should I let it slide or pursue it

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Anonymous wrote:My granddaughter is 17 and she turned off her life 360. Should I let it slide or pursue it

You should post on a random message board about it

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You need to parent and talk to your child about this ..

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Anonymous wrote:You need to parent and talk to your child about this ..

What do you think the prior 15 pages of this discussion were about??