What parts of your life/lifestyle are unapproved by DCUM standards?

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I use Glade air freshener regularly

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Anonymous wrote:If there is one person in the world who exemplifies all that DCUM holds dear, it is Katie Ledecky. Multiple gold medals, National Merit Scholar, Stone Ridge and Stanford, etc. Kind, classy, not flashy. Father is a Harvard/Yale educated biglaw attorney.

At Stanford, she had a 3.99 GPA and won the top Academic All American Athlete award for the whole country. That's super impressive considering the amount of swimming she was doing at the same time.

I notice that she also doesn't wear diamond studs in the daytime.

The hell she doesn't!

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Anonymous wrote:I get all my haircuts at GreatClips

I get all my haircuts at home! TBH my husband makes a pretty low income and this is one of the ways he DIYs to save money. He's actually gotten quite good at it - definitely above GreatClips/Haircuttery level, and can now do 3 different types of cut among the 4 of us. He doesn't have all the equipment and tricks a fancy stylist would, but I have never had a fancy stylist budget, and he's willing to look at YouTube and Tiktok for instructions and not rush it, so it generally turns out well.

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I'm able to understand that "no gifts" means don't bring gifts to the party without starting a thread on DCUM about it.

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Anonymous wrote:If there is one person in the world who exemplifies all that DCUM holds dear, it is Katie Ledecky. Multiple gold medals, National Merit Scholar, Stone Ridge and Stanford, etc. Kind, classy, not flashy. Father is a Harvard/Yale educated biglaw attorney.

So true!

Also brother is a Harvard MBA

This is not a knock against Katie, but her appearance is just everything I imagine DCUM's to approve of. Not overweight, very fit (obviously). Simple haircut. Clean look. Her style seems to be preppy, modest (but not weird), muted, classic, simple. Makeup, but very natural look. No visible logos. Straight teeth. Simple jewelry.

Family lives in Bethesda. House is spacious, but not gaudy. Brick colonial. (My parents live a few blocks away, don't judge.) I'm sure it is very classy and clean on the inside.

Even her and her brother's names exemplify the DCUM dream: Katie and Michael. Simple. "Classic."

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Anonymous wrote:If there is one person in the world who exemplifies all that DCUM holds dear, it is Katie Ledecky. Multiple gold medals, National Merit Scholar, Stone Ridge and Stanford, etc. Kind, classy, not flashy. Father is a Harvard/Yale educated biglaw attorney.

At Stanford, she had a 3.99 GPA and won the top Academic All American Athlete award for the whole country. That's super impressive considering the amount of swimming she was doing at the same time.

I notice that she also doesn't wear diamond studs in the daytime.

The hell she doesn't!

What are those? They look like opal studs.

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Anonymous wrote:^diamond studs. Not the ear piercing ones.

I was not aware that this is taboo or unusual…I wear very small diamond studs ( my DH got me from Brilliant Earth for our Anniversary 10 yrs ago). I was born in India so I grew up around women above 40 wearing large multi diamond studs all day, all year long.

What do people in DMV area think about women wearing a small diamond stud daily?

Thank you.

I posted upthread. It's generational. My family has been in northern VA since the 1700s. My grandmothers have day stud earrings and night ones. Day ones are like pearl, gold knots, jade, coral. Night ones are diamonds and rubies.

Fascinating! Jewelry said so much more in previous generations than now. I haven't heard this one though.

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Anonymous wrote:I attended Towson University.

I went to Radford

I went to *gasp* community college. And then GMU. While living with my OMG boyfriend. Whom I married. At 24!!! Clutch your pearls, dear. Never lived in a dorm. Had our children at 28 and 31.

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Anonymous wrote:I live in a 1500 sq ft rowhouse with 2 teenagers and everyone feels like they have enough space.

Teach me your ways. I also live in a 1500 sq foot rowhouse and definitely do not feel like this. (Lack of storage doesn't help. I'm considering whether built ins are worth it - you lost a foot of space but can hide stuff.)

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Anonymous wrote:I wear these to backyard parties and still feel good about myself: https://www.keenfootwear.com/collections/womens-sandals/products/womens-rose-sandal-fawn

I wish I had your self esteem.

I hope you get it soon, because you cannot imagine how enjoyable life becomes once you have it!

With each passing year I’m getting there. About to hit 40 this may be the decade I just do whatever I want!

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve never sorted my laundry by color. My kids don’t do travel sports and they don’t get any tutoring.

I don't, either. I wash all my clothes on cold with Tide. Some stuff I put on the delicate cycle and hang to dry. The exception is sheets and towels, which I wash on warm or hot, if they're really dirty. I've never sorted by color in 20 years so far of doing laundry and I've never had any issues with colors bleeding.

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Anonymous wrote:I drive with the windows down

Me, too.

Because I’m smoking.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm able to understand that "no gifts" means don't bring gifts to the party without starting a thread on DCUM about it.

But do you bring siblings?

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Anonymous wrote:Unvaccinated and I loathed masks and any and all nonsense Covid restrictions. Was against the bs from March 2020.

I'm a nurse who worked in hospital at the height of Covid and I roll my eyes whenever I read a DCUM proclaiming this kind of stuff with pride. Like they were ahead of the curve/knew it wasn't a "big deal" while my co-workers and I were dealing with the consequences at work.

You were allowed out in public. You weren't stockpiling sleeping pills because you couldn't handle the isolation. You'd rather I kill myself than risk spreading covid. GFY.

DP, but that track with what the nurse posted at all. Nurses are dedicated to saving lives, not killing people. Take a step back and reassess.

[Anonymous]

I make under $50k/year, and my husband makes almost 4x more than I do & always has