Among those who attended a Protestant church as teenager, 7 in 10 say they’re Protestant now. Another 10 percent identify as Catholic. Few say they are agnostic (4 percent) or atheist (3 percent). “While some young adults who leave church are rejecting their childhood faith, most are choosing to keep many of the beliefs they had, but with a smaller dose of church,” said McConnell. ^from your link not regularly attending church does not equal leaving the church, especially since in this study they still consider themselves religious (7 out of 10) and only about 3% say they are atheist. |
It's a start! |
Not surprising. I am a 51 year old lapsed Catholic. I would like to go back to church, but there's simply so much history and issues continuing in the present day that make it hard for me to do so. And much harder to explain to my children why it's imperative that we attend Mass every Sunday when in truth I am pro-choice, don't believe the arguments in favor of natural family planning, support women being priests, and don't think the Catholic church has done near enough to address its historical abuses. To keep family peace and tradition both of my kids will be confirmed and then I feel pretty much done. I may explore another denomination. |
Could you think of any possible reason for that? |
St. Paul teaches: “All depends on Faith; everything is a Grace.” Faith is a gift, and has nothing to do with any of the larger human and worldly issues you cite. Fr. Von Balthasar says that “Faith is a living turning over of self to God,” and that “Christian experience is the fruit of a life lived in obedience to Faith.” Saint Ignatius reminds us that “[Humanity] was created to know, love and serve God and by this means [to achieve salvation.] How this works out for me is this: I make every effort to focus on my relationship with God, as God is revealed to me in scripture, Church tradition and my own interior (prayer) life. I make an equal effort not to get sidetracked by the various controversies that surround the Church, because I have no control over Church management or doctrinal development and, quite frankly, because those issues do not directly, immediately and materially impact my own life. To the extent I find a teaching hard to live out, I do my best to accept it and try to put it into action, and to seek forgiveness when I fail. I work to have a well formed conscience, which Church teaching recognizes as the ultimate guide in one’s relationship with God. I have been blessed to find a specific religious community to worship with, where the emphasis is on God’s love, not politics, controversy or the passing things of the world. Since God is love, I try (frequently unsuccessfully) to make that love present inside me and in my actions. I neither place clergy and religious on a “can do no wrong” pedestal, nor expect them to be perfect, either as a body or individually. I respect and am grateful to them as dispensers and ministers of the ineffable mysteries that are the Sacraments, but I realize that they bring their own flawed humanity to that role. I know most people are operating in good faith when they get drawn into the negativity surrounding the Church, but I sincerely feel that they are in most cases being misdirected and even deceived by the “Father of lies and the Prince of Darkness.” For me, religion has to start and end with God. To the extent worldly structures aid in that, good; to the extent they do not, then they really are just so much noise. I can say honestly that (while I am subject to doubt as any person is), “I believe, hold and profess as true all that the Holy Catholic Church teaches in Faith.” At the same time, I find it more spiritually productive to focus on my relationship with God and others than to be drawn into the fray about things that are outside my control. While the Church has a millennia-long intellectual tradition that few people (especially nowadays) are intellectually or educationally prepared to critique, Faith cannot be reduced to an intellectual debate. The Pharisees could not comprehend or accept this. Of them, Christ said “let the dead bury their dead.” I go to Mass on Sunday because I want and need to, not because somebody tells me to. Particularly against the background of the Covid lockdown, Mass puts me into contact with fellow believers, in corporate worship, where I can see God’s light in them and be illuminated by it. It gives me access to the grace of the Sacraments. Sometimes I get good, enlightening teaching. If not, I can take what is helpful and leave the rest, at least for now. |
To keep family peace with whom? Your parents? Certainly not your kids! They will be making commitments that they know their parent doesn't believe in and that they may not believe in either. Considering that confirmation is about making an adult commitment to the church, it seems like it would make sense to ask your kids if they want to be confirmed, instead of insisting that they do something you don't believe in yourself, "to keep family peace." It's like you're teaching them to be hypocritical. |
You would be warmly welcomed at an Episcopal Church and likely find many former Catholics in the pews who have similar stories to yours. I hope you can find a way to continue to embrace the parts of your faith that bring you peace and community. |
I know somebody told you that “Confirmation is about making an adult commitment to the Church,” but that’s bad 1960’s “theology,” and simply not the case. Confirmation completes Christian initiation. It is administered to infants in the Eastern Churches. It is not “Catholic Bar/Bat Mitzvah.” |
And no valid apostolic succession or sacraments. |
Easy peasy. Woke-ism is the new Religion, and performance politics the new Church attendance. |
Media paranoia? There's been many more cases of pedophiles in Hollywood and politics than among scouts, both in absolute and per capita basis. |
No apostolic succession because Episcopalians don't have a Pope. They do have sacraments, but you're not condemned to hell for not receiving them |
Yes apostolic succession. The chain was never broken in the reformation. |
The family obviously is not in the eastern tradition, or the kids would be confirmed already. Seems like a parent who doesn't believe in the Catholic church shouldn't be forcing teenagers to complete a Christian initiation into the Catholic Church. If the kids want to, fine. |
That's what the Catholic Church teaches. |