If you are a working mom, why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:


Why aren’t you asking dads?

Because women attacking and criticizing other women is acceptable. It's not acceptable to question men! Women must to everything well, but not so well they make other women jealous or question their own decisions. Also be pretty but not so pretty other women are jealous. Now do you understand? No matter what you do you're wrong in an other woman's eyes.

Good Lord! The OP asked a simple question that indicated to me that she might be on the fence about what she wants to do going forward and people like you read it as her attacking you and all women? Also, she didn't ask dads because she wasn't trying to win the politically correct contest, she was trying to find out what motivated other women to work rather than stay home with kids, which for many is a huge decision not made lightly.

Based on many comments on this thread I think one might conclude that working outside the home turns you into a nasty, sarcastic, defensive shrew who can't even just explain her decision without insults and vitriol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because my mom was a SAHM and I saw how that went.

Same ending, different story - because my mom was a SAHM and even though she loved it and was the best mom ever, she wanted more for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:


Why aren’t you asking dads?

Because women attacking and criticizing other women is acceptable. It's not acceptable to question men! Women must to everything well, but not so well they make other women jealous or question their own decisions. Also be pretty but not so pretty other women are jealous. Now do you understand? No matter what you do you're wrong in an other woman's eyes.

Good Lord! The OP asked a simple question that indicated to me that she might be on the fence about what she wants to do going forward and people like you read it as her attacking you and all women? Also, she didn't ask dads because she wasn't trying to win the politically correct contest, she was trying to find out what motivated other women to work rather than stay home with kids, which for many is a huge decision not made lightly.

Based on many comments on this thread I think one might conclude that working outside the home turns you into a nasty, sarcastic, defensive shrew who can't even just explain her decision without insults and vitriol.

And I see the opposite. Honestly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because my mom was a SAHM and I saw how that went.

Same ending, different story - because my mom was a SAHM and even though she loved it and was the best mom ever, she wanted more for me.

Same! It worked out great for her and she was an amazing mom. But she didn't do that to continue the cycle. My sister and I both work and our mother is exceedingly proud of our accomplishments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The most interesting concept I this thread is the realization that the SAHMs who condemn WOHMs use WOHMs all the time! Their kid’s pediatrician, dentist, teachers, etc.

I never thought about it that way before.

This is a silly argument. WOHMS use other WOHMs too. Nannies, daycare providers, housekeepers, tutors,.etc.

[Anonymous]

Because the world needs me and I couldn’t say no to the world.

[Anonymous]

Because I know from experience that Dads can suddenly and unexpectedly die and then mom ends up scrambling and then not only did you lose Dad but you lose your home too.

[Anonymous]

Because I'm a Boss B%$#@.
I make make money moves.

[Anonymous]

Bc I’m good at work and they pay me a lot of money. Why not ask my husband why he works?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:


Why aren’t you asking dads?

Because women attacking and criticizing other women is acceptable. It's not acceptable to question men! Women must to everything well, but not so well they make other women jealous or question their own decisions. Also be pretty but not so pretty other women are jealous. Now do you understand? No matter what you do you're wrong in an other woman's eyes.

Good Lord! The OP asked a simple question that indicated to me that she might be on the fence about what she wants to do going forward and people like you read it as her attacking you and all women? Also, she didn't ask dads because she wasn't trying to win the politically correct contest, she was trying to find out what motivated other women to work rather than stay home with kids, which for many is a huge decision not made lightly.

Based on many comments on this thread I think one might conclude that working outside the home turns you into a nasty, sarcastic, defensive shrew who can't even just explain her decision without insults and vitriol.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a poor planner, have poor executive function skills, did not finish college, and am limited professionally, earning a paltry 100k. You see, as a deeply flawed person with an unimpressive career, my pool of potential spouses was then equally limited. I am, however, decent looking and have a somewhat appealing personality so I managed to attract a reasonably successful and unfailingly kind spouse who is similarly flawed. He did earn his degree, but it was only from a middling SLAC, and his salary is similarly unimpressive. Together we can somehow maintain a household and raise adorable, average children, but not on one salary. So I work. Frankly I am not resourceful enough to figure out another way. Am I happy and fulfilled? No, but fulfillment and self-actualization seem to be reserved for a higher echelon of privilege that our 200k HHI does not begin to cover, and my kids are happy which is my priority. There are much worse off. There are many other women who I would not ask "why are you a working mom?".

You win the thread PP!! Thanks for the great post.

[Anonymous]

I really hate this question. Because I want my kids to eat, have a roof over their heads, and clothes on their backs. Why on earth does anyone work?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The most interesting concept I this thread is the realization that the SAHMs who condemn WOHMs use WOHMs all the time! Their kid’s pediatrician, dentist, teachers, etc.

I never thought about it that way before.

This is a silly argument. WOHMS use other WOHMs too. Nannies, daycare providers, housekeepers, tutors,.etc.

But WOHMs don’t judge and trash other WOHMs!! That’s the difference!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:


Why aren’t you asking dads?

Because women attacking and criticizing other women is acceptable. It's not acceptable to question men! Women must to everything well, but not so well they make other women jealous or question their own decisions. Also be pretty but not so pretty other women are jealous. Now do you understand? No matter what you do you're wrong in an other woman's eyes.

Good Lord! The OP asked a simple question that indicated to me that she might be on the fence about what she wants to do going forward and people like you read it as her attacking you and all women? Also, she didn't ask dads because she wasn't trying to win the politically correct contest, she was trying to find out what motivated other women to work rather than stay home with kids, which for many is a huge decision not made lightly.

Based on many comments on this thread I think one might conclude that working outside the home turns you into a nasty, sarcastic, defensive shrew who can't even just explain her decision without insults and vitriol.

No, the OP is a pot-stirring troll. Don't be daft.

Your last line indicates you are, too.

Working women are tired of having to defend themselves. The very fact that you think it is normal for a new mom to ask these questions BUT NOT a new dad is part of the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did you decide to keep working after having your baby(ies)? What made you decide to continue to work? Was it a financial decision?

A roof over our heads.
Food
Clothes
Entertainment
Toys
Car
Medical Insurance
Life insurance
Birthday parties
Christmas present
No trust fund
Our parents did not leave us millions of
Dollars
Using my education and brain

It is alarming that you have no functioning brain but still take care of children.