Rude comments by childfree friend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Childfrees have a need for validation.

This!!!

[Anonymous]

I think both sides can be rude.. it doesn’t matter what you think of what you feel; what matters is actually saying things and disregarding one’s words and how it can affect another.. we are all entitled and free to have an opinion.. but we are not entitled to spew our subjective opinions onto others because we let our ego dictate our actions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me preface this by saying I love this friend, and I don't want to ruin our friendship because I am very lonely. But she's continually making comments like "I am so glad I don't have kids" and "It must be so gross cleaning up a boy's toilet, I'm so glad I don't have to do that." I never even mentioned cleaning toilets! I never even complain about child-rearing, period. How do I respond to comments like these?

What's rude about this? You probably talk about your child/children constantly and it's boring. I have children but I can, and do, find many other subjects to talk about even with friends who also have children. You just think that you don't talk about child related things, but you do. It also may well be that this friendship has run it's course. People come into your life for a reason a season, or a lifetime.

[Anonymous]

“Wow, that came out of nowhere. Why would you say something negative about my life? How would you feel if I said something I wouldn’t like about your life?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me preface this by saying I love this friend, and I don't want to ruin our friendship because I am very lonely. But she's continually making comments like "I am so glad I don't have kids" and "It must be so gross cleaning up as toilet, I'm so glad I don't have to do that." I never even mentioned cleaning toilets! I never even complain about child-rearing, period. How do I respond to comments like these?

Just say "oh I love being a parent" and move on. 9

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Childfrees have a need for validation.

+10

[Anonymous]

I say this and mean it - "haha - you are so right - it's not for everybody".

[Anonymous]

She probably said she never wanted kids because OP',s is a spoiled brat.

[Anonymous]

This thread is 2 yrs old

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend gave up her child to her ex husband due to the child not fitting into her divorced / single lifestyle. The kid life was ok when she was married, but she Never imagined being a mom doing it alone, so gave up child. She is now technically child free now. So i applaud OP friend for recognizing what it really takes to be a mom unlike some people. Some women dont have ex husbands who will take full custody, but my friend says she doesn’t regret it. She tried being a mother, and didnt like it, and she says stuff like OP friend also. It’s annoying but she’s speaking her truth.

That’s a really sad story. Does she parent the kid in any way? It’s sad because once you commit to being a parent, you are committing to the child as well. The child didn’t choose to be born. Barring any major issues, a parent shouldn’t just decide to not parent anymore.

She lives in a different city from child and travels often for work. She is more of a major holidays, birthdays, event type mom. She doesn’t do the day to day or weekends. She said Dads do it all the time and the child is still with a parent, but I’ve definitely heard her make comments like OP’s friend.

I think this is true, and the fact that we criticize mothers (or only think to criticize fathers after criticizing mothers) is a terrible refelection on our society.
It sounds like the kids and the mothers lives are better for the mother not being more active

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Wow, that came out of nowhere. Why would you say something negative about my life? How would you feel if I said something I wouldn’t like about your life?”

This.

What’s the point of her comments? To make you feel bad? To validate her own choices? I would politely and firmly call her out on it. If she can’t stop herself from making repeatedly making verbal swipes at your life, I’d reconsider the friendship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Childfrees have a need for validation.

This!!!

It's true. Basically the reason I had kids. Validation from them and society at large. They don't get that.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes people just say stupid shit with no thought put into it at all. Why analyze or worry about it.