Sorry to say this PP, but as an academic, I'd advise you to tell your DD to be wary around her professor. Any faculty member who claims that he's learning something new from an undergrad on a topic they've studied for 4 decades is either incredibly lazy or interested in something other than academic research. More likely, both. Me Too is only just hitting the professoriate and what you've described is exactly the way a lot of older professors take advantage of young women. |
Are you in-state for UVA? |
For Williams and Amherst, athletic talent is the Golden Ticket, |
Really? UVA is hand wringing over one rejection. Wow. Calling for a reality check. |
Don’t panic. This sounds very similar to my DC and everything worked out fine. Apply early, and that gives you plenty of time to regroup in RD, if things don’t go your way. My DC applied early to 2 reaches, three “targets,” and 3 safeties (although one of those turned out to not be so safe this year). Rejected from the reaches (no surprise), accepted to the targets and safeties. Offered significant merit aid everywhere he was accepted. He’ll be attending a school in the top 50-ish range, with merit aid, and is very happy. If you don’t get your heart set on a top 20, kids with your DC’s type of stats are very appealing to slightly lower ranked colleges, and can do very well. I think it’s the “perfect” kids (4.8/36) who struggle to accept where they end up and/or face yield protection. Do demonstrate interest in the lower ranked schools (EA helps in that regard). |
The internet is so weird. |
OP here---yes full pay is definately a privilege and certainly makes the entire process much easier. It is extremely unfortunate that many middle class students do not have the option to attend certain schools simply because they won't get any aide. However, I'm a firm believer that where you go does not matter nearly as much as what you do while you are there. There are affordable schools out there for everyone---and yes, if your parents were not able to save $$$ for college and they are middle class, you may not be able to attend Ivies/Stanford/NW/NEU/Tufts/Williams/MIT/WashU/UCB OOS/etc. Yeah it sucks, but you will live. Similarly you probably aren't driving around in a BMW at age 16 like many rich kids do. Basically there are a lot of things in life that aren't fair but you have to do what's best for your situation. If that is the case, then you simply must select the best school for you and IMO that includes considering debt you will take on. NO School is worth massive debt---it doesn't matter what your degree is. Nobody should take on more loans during college than what their first job yearly income will be---and even then, I'd argue that is you are an engineer making $80K, there is no need to take on 80K in loans---you can likely find a great school in-state or OOS/Private that offers you enough merit combined with working summers to make it affordable (or at least where you don't need to take on excess loans). |
Yes |
I doubt UVa is really distraught after not accepting my kid. But I'm not broken up either, at this point. Still very, very surprised he didn't get in. But he has other excellent options, so I'm not going to cry about it. |
Does your DS attend a school where most top students take 10+ APs? How did he get a GPA of 4.53 with only 5 APs? Just trying to understand. |
LAC's golden days are over |
This is sound advice. |
I think Williams and Amherst will somehow survive. |
| Now that all is said and done, The results are actually quite expected and not shocking. |
All his IB classes (6 as a junior and 7 as a senior) get the GPA bump like an AP class. Plus he had 1 dual-enrollment class. He had 6 HS credits from middle school (all A's), which did not get an GPA bump, and probably brought down his wGPA by a bit. |