I am not being facetious, what does an FU mentality mean? Coach has unquestioned authority, harsh language, constantly critical? |
Thank you! This helps. I came from a small club and know that no administration is perfect. If I can get the card from the coach, problem solved and we will fly under the radar. |
Achilles is confident in their training methods and demanding of the kids. There are some parents who have one child there and then another child elsewhere. Only 1 of my kids is wired for their environment. I think people really need to know their kids. They know they have a great training product. They are not salesman and do not really cater to parents like other clubs. That is what is meant by a F-U mentality. The only negative feedback I received from a parent was that the coaches do not care about winning at all. In Italy, the youth system does not track standings until U14 I believe. I think they are mirroring that model and focusing on development and don’t care what parents think about the kids losing. |
Thanks for the clarification. I think for U13 and U14 that MLS Next uses this "Quality of Play" methodology to try and move the focus away from results based on scoreboard alone. It seems like a good idea, not sure I understand the methodology but that's OK. |
So, how do we collectively, as parents, put pressure on the club to change their policies regarding guest playing without being singled out for retaliation? |
You know we know several of the top U13 and U14 teams chose not to go so teams lower down in the QoP rankings like Achilles went |
You have Stockholm Syndrome to say a coach cussing-out and swearing at young kids is okay. As for the getting blown out constantly and consistently. What development is happening if they can't score, keep the ball or stop the other team from scoring in lopsided losses? They teaching thick skin and the art of profanity with lack of impulse control? |
I wrote that. My child does not play for Achilles. They play for BSC. My kid sometimes trains in their environments and those kid sometimes come over to BSC environments. I am talking 1st team level. You folks are worrying about a few choice words from a coach while my kids have teammates from their private school calling other players the n-word and dropping f-bombs all over the field at the ages of 11-12. We seem to be living in glass houses about what the expectations are from a coach versus what is taking place at home from “the parents.” I did not say anything about getting blown out consistently helping development. You should reevaluate what you are reading because I try to be careful and measured in my responses. You may confusing what you are reading. If you don’t know how not keeping score and the desire to win is hurting development, you need to read a lot more about the ego and mindset because you are main subtext in the TV shows Friends and Neighbors and White Lotus my friend. |
So a bunch of spoil brats not being raised right at home cursing and swearing during games at each other makes it okay for an adult coach to curse and swear at children? |
It sounds like you know we know your DC’s team wasn’t selected. And who cares if other teams passed—didn’t see Phili Union, NY Redbulls or FC Delco, so the same could be said for Baltimore Armor, Alexandria and SYC (who went on to win the U13 Championship bracket). You say Achilles FC routinely gets destroyed, yet in the tournament phase of the MLSNext Cup, their U13’s went to the quarterfinals in the 2nd tournament bracket. You are not nearly as clever as you think you are. |
Haha. It IS the Achilles stalker. “Stockholm Syndrome” is their “go-to” when all else fails. Let it go, darling, it’s been a few years now. |
I wouldn’t even bother responding to this troll. It’s a pathetic human trashing kids. They need to look inward but they never will. Meanwhile the players and parents love the program. Bethesda and all local MLSNext teams are great competition. Look forward to this coming season. |
Seems the alleged troll was responding directly to this "You folks are worrying about a few choice words from a coach while my kids have teammates from their private school calling other players the n-word and dropping f-bombs all over the field at the ages of 11-12" |
Of course they did okay in the 2nd bracket of a tournament where many of the better teams didn't go. Duh |