Family Beach House- DS and Friends Using it for Summer.

[Anonymous]

I am trying to decide how hard up I would have to be to charge my kid’s friend money to stay in a literal shack. And the answer is destitute and needing money for food. So tacky.

[Anonymous]

who is the weird PP who wants to treat this like a court case. the OP made a decision. It was the right one, in my opinion. It's over. OP won. Move on.org

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am trying to decide how hard up I would have to be to charge my kid’s friend money to stay in a literal shack. And the answer is destitute and needing money for food. So tacky.

Guaranteed this is the same PP over and over and over again...and very likely the bitch mother herself who in the same message calls the home owners assholes and then says her son still wants the spot, OK? What a piece of work. If she can't understand that this house, which is owned by more than OP's nuclear family, requires various people to be in agreement then she's an entitled twit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am trying to decide how hard up I would have to be to charge my kid’s friend money to stay in a literal shack. And the answer is destitute and needing money for food. So tacky.

Guaranteed this is the same PP over and over and over again...and very likely the bitch mother herself who in the same message calls the home owners assholes and then says her son still wants the spot, OK? What a piece of work. If she can't understand that this house, which is owned by more than OP's nuclear family, requires various people to be in agreement then she's an entitled twit.

I think OP and shack boy's mom both seem rather dreadful from the information presented here. Sounds like the situation was handled poorly all the way around.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When you asked the second kid, it was in the same breathe that you set the rental terms. Was that true for the initial invite? Or did you invite first and then tack on rent later? Is it was a bait and switch, then I think you carry some blame for this situation.

+1 Saying they "accepted immediately" is comparing apples to oranges. Come back in three weeks and tell that kid's mom you've decided to triple the rent and see how she reacts; that's more in line with what happened to the first mom.

Also, why in the world is OP the point person on any of this?

OP here.

100% false.

My son asked if he could bring a friend. We spoke with the in laws and they gave the OK. We are in DC, in laws are in NC. Their kids will likley have multiple visitors over the summer while mine wont just because of distance. Hence the reason he was permitted to bring someone. We and the in laws together agreed on the $1000 to cover the utilities and provide a sense of responsiniolity. Our sons aretasked with repairs an maintennace. The kid was offered the deal by my son. He shared it with his parents and the mom engaged me.

The lease was in place simply for protection in case the kid did something horrible. Two of the BILs are attorneys and would draw the lease so that it was enforceable. I'm not going to engage with anonymous strangers on the Internet about whether a hypothetical lease that no one has seen is valid. Only a fool would do that.

There was no bait and switch and I can't see where you'd even get that idea from this thread.

One of many of DS's DC friends wants to live there for the summer. My BILs signed off on it but want to charge a nominal $333 a month rent ($1000 for the summer) and limit it to one kid because they will all being using one septic tank. They also want the chosen kid to sign a basic lease to cover damages.

So, I brought this up to the chosen boy's mom- who I'm very friendly with but not close close.

I thought she was going to faint. Her reaction was one of disgust. She actually thought her son was going to live rent free at out family beach house for three months.

Today I heard she was bad mouthing me to other friends, calling me a cheap skate, etc.

Do I go ballistic and dis-invite the kid?

So, OP, which time were you lying and which is the truth

Umm, not OP but those two quotes aren't even remotely mutually exclusive. The boys could have one conversation and the adults have their own

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you asked the second kid, it was in the same breathe that you set the rental terms. Was that true for the initial invite? Or did you invite first and then tack on rent later? Is it was a bait and switch, then I think you carry some blame for this situation.

+1 Saying they "accepted immediately" is comparing apples to oranges. Come back in three weeks and tell that kid's mom you've decided to triple the rent and see how she reacts; that's more in line with what happened to the first mom.

Also, why in the world is OP the point person on any of this?

OP here.

100% false.

My son asked if he could bring a friend. We spoke with the in laws and they gave the OK. We are in DC, in laws are in NC. Their kids will likley have multiple visitors over the summer while mine wont just because of distance. Hence the reason he was permitted to bring someone. We and the in laws together agreed on the $1000 to cover the utilities and provide a sense of responsiniolity. Our sons aretasked with repairs an maintennace. The kid was offered the deal by my son. He shared it with his parents and the mom engaged me.

The lease was in place simply for protection in case the kid did something horrible. Two of the BILs are attorneys and would draw the lease so that it was enforceable. I'm not going to engage with anonymous strangers on the Internet about whether a hypothetical lease that no one has seen is valid. Only a fool would do that.

There was no bait and switch and I can't see where you'd even get that idea from this thread.

One of many of DS's DC friends wants to live there for the summer. My BILs signed off on it but want to charge a nominal $333 a month rent ($1000 for the summer) and limit it to one kid because they will all being using one septic tank. They also want the chosen kid to sign a basic lease to cover damages.

So, I brought this up to the chosen boy's mom- who I'm very friendly with but not close close.

I thought she was going to faint. Her reaction was one of disgust. She actually thought her son was going to live rent free at out family beach house for three months.

Today I heard she was bad mouthing me to other friends, calling me a cheap skate, etc.

Do I go ballistic and dis-invite the kid?

So, OP, which time were you lying and which is the truth

Umm, not OP but those two quotes aren't even remotely mutually exclusive. The boys could have one conversation and the adults have their own

1- The kid was offered the deal by my son. He shared it with his parents and the mom engaged me.
2- So, I brought this up to the chosen boy's mom- who I'm very friendly with but not close close.

im with PP, she contradicts herself

[Anonymous]

OP- we have a beach house too. The attitude youre getting here and from the mom stems from jealousy. Mostly its women who married poorly. I can't tell you how many times some other mom asks me what we are doing for the summer and then responds with "oh, must be nice" when I say "spending it at our beach house"

And this is when I know they know we have a beach house. So it's a set up to take a shot at us. It's OK. My life is better than theirs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP- we have a beach house too. The attitude youre getting here and from the mom stems from jealousy. Mostly its women who married poorly. I can't tell you how many times some other mom asks me what we are doing for the summer and then responds with "oh, must be nice" when I say "spending it at our beach house"

And this is when I know they know we have a beach house. So it's a set up to take a shot at us. It's OK. My life is better than theirs.

I can't tell if this is a troll to mock OP, OP sockpuppeting, or just DCUM at its best. This thread! ::chef's kiss::

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you asked the second kid, it was in the same breathe that you set the rental terms. Was that true for the initial invite? Or did you invite first and then tack on rent later? Is it was a bait and switch, then I think you carry some blame for this situation.

+1 Saying they "accepted immediately" is comparing apples to oranges. Come back in three weeks and tell that kid's mom you've decided to triple the rent and see how she reacts; that's more in line with what happened to the first mom.

Also, why in the world is OP the point person on any of this?

OP here.

100% false.

My son asked if he could bring a friend. We spoke with the in laws and they gave the OK. We are in DC, in laws are in NC. Their kids will likley have multiple visitors over the summer while mine wont just because of distance. Hence the reason he was permitted to bring someone. We and the in laws together agreed on the $1000 to cover the utilities and provide a sense of responsiniolity. Our sons aretasked with repairs an maintennace. The kid was offered the deal by my son. He shared it with his parents and the mom engaged me.

The lease was in place simply for protection in case the kid did something horrible. Two of the BILs are attorneys and would draw the lease so that it was enforceable. I'm not going to engage with anonymous strangers on the Internet about whether a hypothetical lease that no one has seen is valid. Only a fool would do that.

There was no bait and switch and I can't see where you'd even get that idea from this thread.

One of many of DS's DC friends wants to live there for the summer. My BILs signed off on it but want to charge a nominal $333 a month rent ($1000 for the summer) and limit it to one kid because they will all being using one septic tank. They also want the chosen kid to sign a basic lease to cover damages.

So, I brought this up to the chosen boy's mom- who I'm very friendly with but not close close.

I thought she was going to faint. Her reaction was one of disgust. She actually thought her son was going to live rent free at out family beach house for three months.

Today I heard she was bad mouthing me to other friends, calling me a cheap skate, etc.

Do I go ballistic and dis-invite the kid?

So, OP, which time were you lying and which is the truth

Umm, not OP but those two quotes aren't even remotely mutually exclusive. The boys could have one conversation and the adults have their own

1- The kid was offered the deal by my son. He shared it with his parents and the mom engaged me.
2- So, I brought this up to the chosen boy's mom- who I'm very friendly with but not close close.

im with PP, she contradicts herself

I don't see it. Boy was told. His mom contacted OP. OP started the conversation. Am I missing something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP- we have a beach house too. The attitude youre getting here and from the mom stems from jealousy. Mostly its women who married poorly. I can't tell you how many times some other mom asks me what we are doing for the summer and then responds with "oh, must be nice" when I say "spending it at our beach house"

And this is when I know they know we have a beach house. So it's a set up to take a shot at us. It's OK. My life is better than theirs.

Ha! Or they just want to hear your tacky, new money bragging so they can laugh behind your back about how you measure yourself by who you married. You can’t possibly be from DC, can you? Do we have women here that measure themselves this way?

[Anonymous]

Don’t charge the kid rent, that’s ridiculous.

And you know that some of DC’s other “many friends” , girlfriend’s and other assorted hanger ons aren’t going to be showing up at the beach party house for a fun vacation or weekend. Are they going to pay too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP- we have a beach house too. The attitude youre getting here and from the mom stems from jealousy. Mostly its women who married poorly. I can't tell you how many times some other mom asks me what we are doing for the summer and then responds with "oh, must be nice" when I say "spending it at our beach house"

And this is when I know they know we have a beach house. So it's a set up to take a shot at us. It's OK. My life is better than theirs.

I can't tell if this is a troll to mock OP, OP sockpuppeting, or just DCUM at its best. This thread! ::chef's kiss::

+1 I am amazed by this particular take on the issue if it's real, but I can't say I'm not entertained.

[Anonymous]

Kid is living there. There are expenses to the house. Yes, he should pay rent. How is this a question? Any decent parent would offer the other parent some money to cover expenses. If the other bedrooms are full or OP is using them then what they are offering is ok.

[Anonymous]

What's the goose thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's the goose thread?

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/856992.page

Enjoy!