Missing child from NJ- Dulce Alvarez

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PPs who are blaming the mom are seriously disgusting me right now. Callous, uncalled for, and placing blame in the wrong hands. The risk of abduction is remarkably low, the lowest it’s ever been in history. Yes it happens, and lightning can also strike your child. I just can’t believe that when this is clearly a case where the child is taken by a stranger and meant to be harmed in a horrible way, the focus is on the “neglect” of the mother who dared to take her children to the playground while helping her niece with her homework in her car.

First she wasn't watching her young children or she would have noticed a man luring her 5 year old into a van. Then she waited an HOUR to call the police - WTH??

Ok I am PP and reading these responses and I finally get it. I was trying to figure out why the media coverage was so inconsistent and inaccurate and why so many people are just like - well it was the mom’s fault her child got abducted. It’s because the child was an “other” and the mom was an “other”. If she were a blue eyed blond little girl, there would be a well-controlled media message to GET THIS GIRL FOUND AND HOME AND SAFE, thoughts and prayers for the family, protectiveness for the family, and focus on finding her instead of placing blame on the mother.

if she were blue eyed blonde girl from UMC parents sure. if she were a blue eyed blonde girl from a “trumpkin” rural area no. if anything there would be more suspicion and more judgment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PPs who are blaming the mom are seriously disgusting me right now. Callous, uncalled for, and placing blame in the wrong hands. The risk of abduction is remarkably low, the lowest it’s ever been in history. Yes it happens, and lightning can also strike your child. I just can’t believe that when this is clearly a case where the child is taken by a stranger and meant to be harmed in a horrible way, the focus is on the “neglect” of the mother who dared to take her children to the playground while helping her niece with her homework in her car.

First she wasn't watching her young children or she would have noticed a man luring her 5 year old into a van. Then she waited an HOUR to call the police - WTH??

Ok I am PP and reading these responses and I finally get it. I was trying to figure out why the media coverage was so inconsistent and inaccurate and why so many people are just like - well it was the mom’s fault her child got abducted. It’s because the child was an “other” and the mom was an “other”. If she were a blue eyed blond little girl, there would be a well-controlled media message to GET THIS GIRL FOUND AND HOME AND SAFE, thoughts and prayers for the family, protectiveness for the family, and focus on finding her instead of placing blame on the mother.

if she were blue eyed blonde girl from UMC parents sure. if she were a blue eyed blonde girl from a “trumpkin” rural area no. if anything there would be more suspicion and more judgment.

An “other”? The woman is 19 and pregnant with her third child and she was not being responsible toward the two who are already born. So PP can spare us the lefty rationalizations. Minorities do wrong things and make bad life choices too, you know. Their skin color does not make them immune from criticism. I’m sure that there is less media coverage because the Hispanic mom doesn’t look too good in the story and so the liberal media wants to bury it.

[Anonymous]

Poor little girl is still missing. I would have hoped that they would have had some kind of break by now. There is a substantial reward being offered but so far nothing.

[Anonymous]

So many "thoughts" have gone through my head about this story ~ over the last few weeks, and some have already expressed similar thoughts/opinions (maybe the Mom should have been paying more attention, maybe the whole scenario sounds a bit suspicious, maybe the Mom shouldn't be having one child after another - at her age, etc...) All reasonable conclusions about some of the circumstances that surround this story - and natural human reactions. THAT BEING SAID---even though I, personally, would have been watching my child in a different way -- the bottom line is ~ AN INNOCENT, SWEET, AND VULNERABLE LITTLE GIRL IS MISSING! She did *not* deserve to be taken, from those who love her - and she had to be terrified! The more time that passes...the more I fear for her safety, and lose hope of her return. Besides all my other thoughts on the circumstances that unfolded ~ THAT'S THE PART THAT HURTS MY HEART AND REMAINS THE MOST IMPORTANT!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many "thoughts" have gone through my head about this story ~ over the last few weeks, and some have already expressed similar thoughts/opinions (maybe the Mom should have been paying more attention, maybe the whole scenario sounds a bit suspicious, maybe the Mom shouldn't be having one child after another - at her age, etc...) All reasonable conclusions about some of the circumstances that surround this story - and natural human reactions. THAT BEING SAID---even though I, personally, would have been watching my child in a different way -- the bottom line is ~ AN INNOCENT, SWEET, AND VULNERABLE LITTLE GIRL IS MISSING! She did *not* deserve to be taken, from those who love her - and she had to be terrified! The more time that passes...the more I fear for her safety, and lose hope of her return. Besides all my other thoughts on the circumstances that unfolded ~ THAT'S THE PART THAT HURTS MY HEART AND REMAINS THE MOST IMPORTANT!

+1 It is so sad that she hasn't been found. I fear the worst has happened to her and that she is caught up in child sex trafficking. May God bless her wherever she is.

[Anonymous]

I haven't been following this story (not sure if it has already been discussed) but, have police verified the mother's story? Any witnesses outside of that family see Dulce at the park?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't been following this story (not sure if it has already been discussed) but, have police verified the mother's story? Any witnesses outside of that family see Dulce at the park?

Honestly, it's SO HARD to follow this story. I can read 100 accounts of the supposed "known" facts, from various media outlets and interviews (and possible witnesses), and the stories change/details are conflicting/information is left out or different then originally reported/etc... So many unanswered questions and well founded suspicions - and it's frustrating. So much time has gone by since her disappearance...it can't be a good sign. From the very beginning, SOMETHING has seemed VERY wrong/odd about the story...someone seems fishy about the mother's actions and account of what happened. I HOPE/PRAY the truth comes out, and justice is served to anyone and everyone that has something to do with this little girl missing...and I would still like to believe it's possible she's still alive and will be found. *KUDOS* TO THE VOLUNTEERS WHO HAVE HELPED WITH THE SEARCHES, LAW ENFORCEMENT PEOPLE INVESTIGATING, THE CLERGY AND OTHERS WHO ARE PRAYING AND BEING SUPPORTIVE, ETC...

[Anonymous]

Whether the mom or someone she knew was involved or not, she was likely trafficked. we like to jump to the bogeyman kidnapped and held or killed cases like Polly Klaas or Elizabeth Smart but realistically and sadly, trafficking is much more likely here.

[Anonymous]

It’s been all over the news in Philadelphia. I live in the Philly suburbs and we’ve had multiple reports of men trying to lure kids into a van in the area. One of the instances happened right down the street from me.

[Anonymous]

The horrific thought that this sweet little girl may NOT be coming back, safely---is heart-breaking.
If someone she knew was involved with the circumstances leading to her disappearance, when/if THAT comes out - THEY should be held accountable to the full extent of the law for the time they took from law enforcement resources to look for her. If a stranger took her - the same, punish them to the full extent of the law.
I know the main focus is/should be - on finding out what happened to her and, hopefully, finding closure one way or another...but I also do wish (and think there's a valuable lesson to be learned here/or reminded of!), that more media attention would be paid to reminding parents/caregivers/guardians how VERY important (and yes...it 'should' be a GIVEN, but look at the basic circumstances in this particular case!) it is to give ALL your undivided attention to any children in your care (be it your own kids, your grandkids, kids you babysit, etc...). Pedophiles, kidnappers/murderers/rapists, traffickers, ANYONE wishing to snatch a child or find a victim - look for opportunities/'easy targets'. We *have* to be diligent, fully focused, and responsible for these precious children in our care. Don't assume ANY place is safe, or that you can look away/become distracted/let the children monitor themselves/etc...for even a second. That's when bad things happen. It's a missed opportunity for that NOT to be part of focus here...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The horrific thought that this sweet little girl may NOT be coming back, safely---is heart-breaking.
If someone she knew was involved with the circumstances leading to her disappearance, when/if THAT comes out - THEY should be held accountable to the full extent of the law for the time they took from law enforcement resources to look for her. If a stranger took her - the same, punish them to the full extent of the law.
I know the main focus is/should be - on finding out what happened to her and, hopefully, finding closure one way or another...but I also do wish (and think there's a valuable lesson to be learned here/or reminded of!), that more media attention would be paid to reminding parents/caregivers/guardians how VERY important (and yes...it 'should' be a GIVEN, but look at the basic circumstances in this particular case!) it is to give ALL your undivided attention to any children in your care (be it your own kids, your grandkids, kids you babysit, etc...). Pedophiles, kidnappers/murderers/rapists, traffickers, ANYONE wishing to snatch a child or find a victim - look for opportunities/'easy targets'. We *have* to be diligent, fully focused, and responsible for these precious children in our care. Don't assume ANY place is safe, or that you can look away/become distracted/let the children monitor themselves/etc...for even a second. That's when bad things happen. It's a missed opportunity for that NOT to be part of focus here...

+1 You're so right. I work in an Elementary school, part time and also work in retail at a local department store. I also have occasion to witness the lack of parental and adult supervision, while going about my errands and personal shopping. I even see it in my own neighborhood where little kids are often left alone to occupy themselves in their yards. So people people are neglectful when it comes to the children under their care. They do not stay aware of what their kids are doing or who they are with. Obviously, the child does not deserve anything bad happening to them, but the adults watching them have to learn to be more diligent and watchful, along with children being taught - at a very young age - what to try to do to get out of a dangerous situation.