If you grew up poor are you ever shocked at what you now spend money on?

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up middle class, but lately feel guilty about habits that my parents would consider to be wasting food. For example, tossing fruit that is overripe but not rotten (my mom recently scooped pieces of strawberries out of my sink to eat my discards), eating only the white meat and legs from a rotisserie chicken, trying new foods and getting rid of things we don’t like.

You should feel guilty about the rotisserie chicken. Food waste is a problem that extends beyond your pocketbook. Do you really just throw away food that isn't your favorite?

Yes I do throw away food if I affirmatively dislike it. I need to lose weight as it is, and can't justify eating things I don't like. I'm not that picky, so it's not a weekly occurrence. I know no one in the house eats dark meat chicken so I usually don't buy rotisserie chickens unless we're desperate for protein for DD (who will usually eat rotisserie breast). But for example I have tried some pumpkin spice cereals, etc. that I did not like, or a few Aldi products like sauces, grocery store bakery items, and I throw them out instead of eating food that I dislike.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up middle class, but lately feel guilty about habits that my parents would consider to be wasting food. For example, tossing fruit that is overripe but not rotten (my mom recently scooped pieces of strawberries out of my sink to eat my discards), eating only the white meat and legs from a rotisserie chicken, trying new foods and getting rid of things we don’t like.

You should feel guilty about the rotisserie chicken. Food waste is a problem that extends beyond your pocketbook. Do you really just throw away food that isn't your favorite?

Yes I do throw away food if I affirmatively dislike it. I need to lose weight as it is, and can't justify eating things I don't like. I'm not that picky, so it's not a weekly occurrence. I know no one in the house eats dark meat chicken so I usually don't buy rotisserie chickens unless we're desperate for protein for DD (who will usually eat rotisserie breast). But for example I have tried some pumpkin spice cereals, etc. that I did not like, or a few Aldi products like sauces, grocery store bakery items, and I throw them out instead of eating food that I dislike.

NP. This makes me so sad. Please make better choices and do better.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up middle class, but lately feel guilty about habits that my parents would consider to be wasting food. For example, tossing fruit that is overripe but not rotten (my mom recently scooped pieces of strawberries out of my sink to eat my discards), eating only the white meat and legs from a rotisserie chicken, trying new foods and getting rid of things we don’t like.

You should feel guilty about the rotisserie chicken. Food waste is a problem that extends beyond your pocketbook. Do you really just throw away food that isn't your favorite?

Yes I do throw away food if I affirmatively dislike it. I need to lose weight as it is, and can't justify eating things I don't like. I'm not that picky, so it's not a weekly occurrence. I know no one in the house eats dark meat chicken so I usually don't buy rotisserie chickens unless we're desperate for protein for DD (who will usually eat rotisserie breast). But for example I have tried some pumpkin spice cereals, etc. that I did not like, or a few Aldi products like sauces, grocery store bakery items, and I throw them out instead of eating food that I dislike.

Are you the panera bread poster?

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up middle class, but lately feel guilty about habits that my parents would consider to be wasting food. For example, tossing fruit that is overripe but not rotten (my mom recently scooped pieces of strawberries out of my sink to eat my discards), eating only the white meat and legs from a rotisserie chicken, trying new foods and getting rid of things we don’t like.

You should feel guilty about the rotisserie chicken. Food waste is a problem that extends beyond your pocketbook. Do you really just throw away food that isn't your favorite?

Yes I do throw away food if I affirmatively dislike it. I need to lose weight as it is, and can't justify eating things I don't like. I'm not that picky, so it's not a weekly occurrence. I know no one in the house eats dark meat chicken so I usually don't buy rotisserie chickens unless we're desperate for protein for DD (who will usually eat rotisserie breast). But for example I have tried some pumpkin spice cereals, etc. that I did not like, or a few Aldi products like sauces, grocery store bakery items, and I throw them out instead of eating food that I dislike.

Are you the panera bread poster?

No. There are a few things I'll eat from Panera, so if I'm forced to eat there I know what to order. I don't think I have ever thrown away something that I dislike from a restaurant; as I said, I'm not that picky (except for the dark meat issue). Do you really never try things you may not like, or do you alwyas force yourself to eat things you dislike?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I grew up middle class, but lately feel guilty about habits that my parents would consider to be wasting food. For example, tossing fruit that is overripe but not rotten (my mom recently scooped pieces of strawberries out of my sink to eat my discards), eating only the white meat and legs from a rotisserie chicken, trying new foods and getting rid of things we don’t like.

You should feel guilty about the rotisserie chicken. Food waste is a problem that extends beyond your pocketbook. Do you really just throw away food that isn't your favorite?

Yes I do throw away food if I affirmatively dislike it. I need to lose weight as it is, and can't justify eating things I don't like. I'm not that picky, so it's not a weekly occurrence. I know no one in the house eats dark meat chicken so I usually don't buy rotisserie chickens unless we're desperate for protein for DD (who will usually eat rotisserie breast). But for example I have tried some pumpkin spice cereals, etc. that I did not like, or a few Aldi products like sauces, grocery store bakery items, and I throw them out instead of eating food that I dislike.

Are you the panera bread poster?

No. There are a few things I'll eat from Panera, so if I'm forced to eat there I know what to order. I don't think I have ever thrown away something that I dislike from a restaurant; as I said, I'm not that picky (except for the dark meat issue). Do you really never try things you may not like, or do you alwyas force yourself to eat things you dislike?

If I try something and don't like it I finish it and never eat it again.

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Anonymous wrote:I mainly feel the guilt when I spend money on food & drinks. I always said when I was growing up poor that I wouldn't skimp on nice shoes & clothes when I could afford it. I don't and I feel zero guilt there. However, it's been a process to train myself not to fret over the restaurant prices too much. Mainly because in the back of my mind I'm still thinking "$15 for ONE cheeseburger bought us food for a week when I was a kid!"

I posted in the other thread today that I still can't bring myself to order soda in a restaurant. I always order water or have a cocktail/wine (which again, guilt!).

It also shocks me how every kid gets braces now. I mean, my niece just got stage one at age 8! That was really unheard of when I was growing up as you usually got them in middle school. And, only the rich kids got braces. Everyone I grew up with who was poor and had crooked teeth got adult braces once they had some money! I was lucky enough to have perfectly straight top teeth and only slightly crooked bottom teeth.

Another thing that was hard to get used to was how much vacations cost. It's still hard to wrap my mind around paying $2000+ for a few days at the beach when growing up we had to scrounge and hustle to make our $800 monthly rent.

Same thing with us and vacations.

I haven’t added it up but even just ball parking it, we’ll spend 50k on vacations this year.

That’s actually a splurge I don’t feel bad about - I want to see the world and I want my kids to see it too.

However, they’re not coming from a childhood like mine that will give them the perspective of how fortunate they really are.

They think it’s totally normal to go to Europe, the Caribbean, skiing out West every year...

Kind of a shame. My kid actually asked me if we are poor the other day, lol. (We make over 700k)

+1

My kids think it’s totalky normal to travel like this too. I’m pretty sure 2/3 of their private school class took at least a 7 day trip to Europe this summer if not 2-3 full weeks.

We make that kind of money (750k) and we’re the poor ones because we don’t have a second or third home, a house in the water, a boat, etc.

well, why don't you? with that kind of money you should.

We can't afford a 3M dollar house on the beach or the mountains.

Sure you can. With HHI at $750k, what’ are your ages and net worth? We have much less HHI and we did...just saying.