Not a bro Dad

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think a Bro Dad is like a Cool Mom. Heaven help the child who has both as parents.

I had a bro dad and a cool mom. Not good.

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My parents made me do my siblings homework, do their taxes, file any papers because they were "too cool" to "harsh their mellow" with that.

My dad refused to file for FAFSA because it was a lot of papers or pay for application fees for college.

I was a national merit scholar and my parents forgot to attend or even drive me to the celebration at my school (their car was too nice for me to drive).

I had to do my own laundry from 8 on, pack my own lunch and that of my siblings because my parents were out partying.

I have always been self sufficient because of this but I'd prefer not raising my kids this way. I felt like an inconvenience for them. I did not feel loved.

[Anonymous]

So that we're inclusive, what's the African-American equivalent?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Grew up in a SoCal beachside city and ...so many Bro Dads and Cool Moms.

They turned a blind eye to all the underage drinking and parties that happened at their houses on weekends while they (the parents) were up at their cabins in Big Bear.

Yep, a true test of a Bro Dad in Southern Calif is: does he have a cabin in Big Bear?
Does he have a tattoo?
Does he have a pick-up?
Does he have a goatee or a beard?
Is he hot? (You can only be a Bro Dad if you're good looking)
Is his wife hot?
Did he go to one of the Cal States?
Does he live in the same town he grew up in, or nearby?
For vacation does he take his family to Maui?
Does he coach his kids's Little League or Softball team?

Except for the underage drinking bit, this doesn't sound bad to me at all. We could use more Bro Dads and Cools Moms in this world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grew up in a SoCal beachside city and ...so many Bro Dads and Cool Moms.

They turned a blind eye to all the underage drinking and parties that happened at their houses on weekends while they (the parents) were up at their cabins in Big Bear.

Yep, a true test of a Bro Dad in Southern Calif is: does he have a cabin in Big Bear?
Does he have a tattoo?
Does he have a pick-up?
Does he have a goatee or a beard?
Is he hot? (You can only be a Bro Dad if you're good looking)
Is his wife hot?
Did he go to one of the Cal States?
Does he live in the same town he grew up in, or nearby?
For vacation does he take his family to Maui?
Does he coach his kids's Little League or Softball team?

My best friend's "bro dad" met her "cool mom" because they were both in their convertible Jeeps stuck in traffic on the 101 and started talking.
Their whole family (all the kids) went to San Diego State University, which is very much a bro dad school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grew up in a SoCal beachside city and ...so many Bro Dads and Cool Moms.

They turned a blind eye to all the underage drinking and parties that happened at their houses on weekends while they (the parents) were up at their cabins in Big Bear.

Yep, a true test of a Bro Dad in Southern Calif is: does he have a cabin in Big Bear?
Does he have a tattoo?
Does he have a pick-up?
Does he have a goatee or a beard?
Is he hot? (You can only be a Bro Dad if you're good looking)
Is his wife hot?
Did he go to one of the Cal States?
Does he live in the same town he grew up in, or nearby?
For vacation does he take his family to Maui?
Does he coach his kids's Little League or Softball team?

Except for the underage drinking bit, this doesn't sound bad to me at all. We could use more Bro Dads and Cools Moms in this world.

As long as their kid isn't different in any way, gay (bro dads are homophobic), or intellectual (heaven forbid their kid want to go to Liberal Arts College back east or Berkeley with the weirdos).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grew up in a SoCal beachside city and ...so many Bro Dads and Cool Moms.

They turned a blind eye to all the underage drinking and parties that happened at their houses on weekends while they (the parents) were up at their cabins in Big Bear.

Yep, a true test of a Bro Dad in Southern Calif is: does he have a cabin in Big Bear?
Does he have a tattoo?
Does he have a pick-up?
Does he have a goatee or a beard?
Is he hot? (You can only be a Bro Dad if you're good looking)
Is his wife hot?
Did he go to one of the Cal States?
Does he live in the same town he grew up in, or nearby?
For vacation does he take his family to Maui?
Does he coach his kids's Little League or Softball team?

Except for the underage drinking bit, this doesn't sound bad to me at all. We could use more Bro Dads and Cools Moms in this world.

As long as their kid isn't different in any way, gay (bro dads are homophobic), or intellectual (heaven forbid their kid want to go to Liberal Arts College back east or Berkeley with the weirdos).

And heaven forbid their kid dates a minority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So that we're inclusive, what's the African-American equivalent?

This was addressed multiple times: it's a white, upper-middle class privilege thing. Bro Dads know all the local cops because they used to throw keggers together in high school. I doubt many Af-Am's could say the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grew up in a SoCal beachside city and ...so many Bro Dads and Cool Moms.

They turned a blind eye to all the underage drinking and parties that happened at their houses on weekends while they (the parents) were up at their cabins in Big Bear.

Yep, a true test of a Bro Dad in Southern Calif is: does he have a cabin in Big Bear?
Does he have a tattoo?
Does he have a pick-up?
Does he have a goatee or a beard?
Is he hot? (You can only be a Bro Dad if you're good looking)
Is his wife hot?
Did he go to one of the Cal States?
Does he live in the same town he grew up in, or nearby?
For vacation does he take his family to Maui?
Does he coach his kids's Little League or Softball team?

Except for the underage drinking bit, this doesn't sound bad to me at all. We could use more Bro Dads and Cools Moms in this world.

I don't think it's good or bad, it's just such a So Cal thing that it's fun to talk about.

[Anonymous]

The LA bro dads described are my neighbors who just moved from out west. I mean to a tee!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grew up in a SoCal beachside city and ...so many Bro Dads and Cool Moms.

They turned a blind eye to all the underage drinking and parties that happened at their houses on weekends while they (the parents) were up at their cabins in Big Bear.

Yep, a true test of a Bro Dad in Southern Calif is: does he have a cabin in Big Bear?
Does he have a tattoo?
Does he have a pick-up?
Does he have a goatee or a beard?
Is he hot? (You can only be a Bro Dad if you're good looking)
Is his wife hot?
Did he go to one of the Cal States?
Does he live in the same town he grew up in, or nearby?
For vacation does he take his family to Maui?
Does he coach his kids's Little League or Softball team?

Except for the underage drinking bit, this doesn't sound bad to me at all. We could use more Bro Dads and Cools Moms in this world.

I don't think it's good or bad, it's just such a So Cal thing that it's fun to talk about.

The bad is the aforementioned homophobia and racism.

[Anonymous]

Depending on the age, a bro dad's son, who will grow up into a bro dad, may be named:
Cody
Cash
Dylan
Maverick
Luca
Jackson
Fox
Jax
Hudson

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm from Southern California (Orange County area) and there's definitely a type of Bro Dad here. Basically, they dress like high school surfer boys but they are in their late 30s and have two kids.

Typical SoCal Bro Dad:
-Drives a lifted 4x4 pick-up truck with a Monster Energy sticker on the back window, blasting Sublime or System of a Down
-Always sporting a Hurley baseball cap with a flat rim
-A plaid Billabong button up shirt and dark colored pants are what he wears to "dress up" for holiday cards
-Vans sneakers
-Owns a few pairs of Dickies shorts
-"Vacations" consist of going to Glamis for off-roading, camping at Pismo Beach, or heading to Big Bear to snowboard on 6 inches of man-made snow in the freestyle park
-Constantly bitches about "how crowded SoCal has become" and un-ironically throws out a bit of casual racism by blaming "the Mexicans"

I've yet to find similar Bro Dads anywhere else in the U.S. It's a bizarre combination of privilege, Peter Pan syndrome, being culturally stuck in the late 1990s.

Damn. With the exception of the last statement, I know at least three guys just like this. Only while they bitch about how crowded So Cal has become, but I've never heard them blame Mexicans. But I'm a POC, could be why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So that we're inclusive, what's the African-American equivalent?

I don't think this exists within the AA community. We do have hoteps though, but they're not like Bro Dads.

[Anonymous]

Dads that grew up here and went to Catholic schools = DC bro dads.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So that we're inclusive, what's the African-American equivalent?

I don't think this exists within the AA community. We do have hoteps though, but they're not like Bro Dads.

Describe?