No one eats in this house

[Anonymous]

Gas stations often have healthy snacks. If you don't want Burger King you can go to Gas N Go for breakfast.

[Anonymous]

A good host caters to the needs of their guests. Period. The people who close off the kitchen to guests, who may have different wants/need than YOU do are NOT good hosts. Sorry.


I say this after hosting many people with wants/need that are very different than my own. Suck it up. If you don’t want to host, send them to a hotel. But don’t hold them hostage in your home.

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Anonymous wrote:Dinner time -- how's it going? Did everyone get a nice big Christmas dinner? Or were you fed a Christmas lunch that the hosts thought was so big at 2 pm that no one should need to eat again until Monday morning?

I served light appetizers for lunch and then a big dinner at 3 followed by dessert. After that, no more food - nada, zip. I'm still not that hungry this morning and my feet are sore from standing in the kitchen making that nice meal yesterday, so I'm not making breakfast this morning. Burger King is only a short 5 mile walk away.

Signed,

The Host

Wow. You do not have to eat. You do not have to cook. But let others in your kitchen. You may have stuffed yourself silly, but others may have not. And How hard is it to put out some bagels and cereal?

I never stuff myself at any meal (thin, small stomach) so I would be hungry again after three hours.

You're an adult. You do not need to be on the feeding schedule of a newborn. Once you get teeth - the kitchen is closed after a heavy meal.

Actually when you’re an adult you decide when to eat.

Stop trying to control your guests’ every bite of food. Why are you so obsessed over making sure none of your guests eat an apple or a sandwich outside of your strict mealtimes? You have issues.

Crumbs and fingerprints in the kitchen are my business. I want one morning not to worry about them, thank you very much.

Here's the thing. If my mom said to me, "I'd love a break tomorrow morning*, would you mind going out for breakfast?" I'd be happy to do so.

But it's never that. It's "How can you possibly eat. We had such a big meal yesterday. I don't think it's healthy to eat two days in a row. I'm sure your brother doesn't do that. Have you noticed how slim he is? Oh, and please don't go in the kitchen. You always make such a mess. Do you remember that time in fifth grade when you left the lid off the diet margarine? I just can't handle it."

*Note, the reason she needs a break is because she won't let anyone help, and any attempts by others to help are so stressful to her. I'm the PP whose mother now allows water, and tolerated the salad. Yesterday, while I was prepping the vegetables she asked me to make, she came hobbling into the kitchen 3 or 4 times because she heard some "awful noise" and had to make sure things were OK. One time the awful noise was the sound a knife makes on a cutting board when I cut up carrots. Another time, it was the sound of a drawer opening so I could find her pepper. She also had to come check that there wasn't anything out of place. So, she's exhausted by the process of making Christmas dinner, but only because her anxiety made her go back and forth

[Anonymous]

the time my anorexic MIL caught me in the kitchen late night eating ice cream

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Anonymous wrote:Dinner time -- how's it going? Did everyone get a nice big Christmas dinner? Or were you fed a Christmas lunch that the hosts thought was so big at 2 pm that no one should need to eat again until Monday morning?

I served light appetizers for lunch and then a big dinner at 3 followed by dessert. After that, no more food - nada, zip. I'm still not that hungry this morning and my feet are sore from standing in the kitchen making that nice meal yesterday, so I'm not making breakfast this morning. Burger King is only a short 5 mile walk away.

Signed,

The Host

Wow. You do not have to eat. You do not have to cook. But let others in your kitchen. You may have stuffed yourself silly, but others may have not. And How hard is it to put out some bagels and cereal?

I never stuff myself at any meal (thin, small stomach) so I would be hungry again after three hours.

You're an adult. You do not need to be on the feeding schedule of a newborn. Once you get teeth - the kitchen is closed after a heavy meal.

Actually when you’re an adult you decide when to eat.

Stop trying to control your guests’ every bite of food. Why are you so obsessed over making sure none of your guests eat an apple or a sandwich outside of your strict mealtimes? You have issues.

Crumbs and fingerprints in the kitchen are my business. I want one morning not to worry about them, thank you very much.

Here's the thing. If my mom said to me, "I'd love a break tomorrow morning*, would you mind going out for breakfast?" I'd be happy to do so.

But it's never that. It's "How can you possibly eat. We had such a big meal yesterday. I don't think it's healthy to eat two days in a row. I'm sure your brother doesn't do that. Have you noticed how slim he is? Oh, and please don't go in the kitchen. You always make such a mess. Do you remember that time in fifth grade when you left the lid off the diet margarine? I just can't handle it."

*Note, the reason she needs a break is because she won't let anyone help, and any attempts by others to help are so stressful to her. I'm the PP whose mother now allows water, and tolerated the salad. Yesterday, while I was prepping the vegetables she asked me to make, she came hobbling into the kitchen 3 or 4 times because she heard some "awful noise" and had to make sure things were OK. One time the awful noise was the sound a knife makes on a cutting board when I cut up carrots. Another time, it was the sound of a drawer opening so I could find her pepper. She also had to come check that there wasn't anything out of place. So, she's exhausted by the process of making Christmas dinner, but only because her anxiety made her go back and forth

PP, maybe you should have the meal catered, and you go pick it up. Or make reservations for Christmas dinner at a hotel nearby and drag your mother there. I would not want to be in that situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A good host caters to the needs of their guests. Period. The people who close off the kitchen to guests, who may have different wants/need than YOU do are NOT good hosts. Sorry.


I say this after hosting many people with wants/need that are very different than my own. Suck it up. If you don’t want to host, send them to a hotel. But don’t hold them hostage in your home.

x10000

Well said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:the time my anorexic MIL caught me in the kitchen late night eating ice cream

LOL. MIL's mind must have been completely blown.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really don’t understand how an adult will choose to let themselves go hungry over standing up to this kind of nonsense. Why are you worried about offending crazy people?

+1

THIS.

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Anonymous wrote:Dinner time -- how's it going? Did everyone get a nice big Christmas dinner? Or were you fed a Christmas lunch that the hosts thought was so big at 2 pm that no one should need to eat again until Monday morning?

I served light appetizers for lunch and then a big dinner at 3 followed by dessert. After that, no more food - nada, zip. I'm still not that hungry this morning and my feet are sore from standing in the kitchen making that nice meal yesterday, so I'm not making breakfast this morning. Burger King is only a short 5 mile walk away.

Signed,

The Host

Wow. You do not have to eat. You do not have to cook. But let others in your kitchen. You may have stuffed yourself silly, but others may have not. And How hard is it to put out some bagels and cereal?

I never stuff myself at any meal (thin, small stomach) so I would be hungry again after three hours.

You're an adult. You do not need to be on the feeding schedule of a newborn. Once you get teeth - the kitchen is closed after a heavy meal.

Actually when you’re an adult you decide when to eat.

Stop trying to control your guests’ every bite of food. Why are you so obsessed over making sure none of your guests eat an apple or a sandwich outside of your strict mealtimes? You have issues.

Crumbs and fingerprints in the kitchen are my business. I want one morning not to worry about them, thank you very much.

Here's the thing. If my mom said to me, "I'd love a break tomorrow morning*, would you mind going out for breakfast?" I'd be happy to do so.

But it's never that. It's "How can you possibly eat. We had such a big meal yesterday. I don't think it's healthy to eat two days in a row. I'm sure your brother doesn't do that. Have you noticed how slim he is? Oh, and please don't go in the kitchen. You always make such a mess. Do you remember that time in fifth grade when you left the lid off the diet margarine? I just can't handle it."

*Note, the reason she needs a break is because she won't let anyone help, and any attempts by others to help are so stressful to her. I'm the PP whose mother now allows water, and tolerated the salad. Yesterday, while I was prepping the vegetables she asked me to make, she came hobbling into the kitchen 3 or 4 times because she heard some "awful noise" and had to make sure things were OK. One time the awful noise was the sound a knife makes on a cutting board when I cut up carrots. Another time, it was the sound of a drawer opening so I could find her pepper. She also had to come check that there wasn't anything out of place. So, she's exhausted by the process of making Christmas dinner, but only because her anxiety made her go back and forth

PP, maybe you should have the meal catered, and you go pick it up. Or make reservations for Christmas dinner at a hotel nearby and drag your mother there. I would not want to be in that situation.

Or maybe you should realize that your mom does not want you in and out of the kitchen every 3 hours making crumbs and getting fingerprints on the stainless steel appliances or putting knives away in the wrong drawer? Some people are naturally neat and tidy. Other people are not.

The day after Christmas breakfast is a nice day to go out somewhere and grab yourself a bite. Or just wait until lunchtime.

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Anonymous wrote:Dinner time -- how's it going? Did everyone get a nice big Christmas dinner? Or were you fed a Christmas lunch that the hosts thought was so big at 2 pm that no one should need to eat again until Monday morning?

I served light appetizers for lunch and then a big dinner at 3 followed by dessert. After that, no more food - nada, zip. I'm still not that hungry this morning and my feet are sore from standing in the kitchen making that nice meal yesterday, so I'm not making breakfast this morning. Burger King is only a short 5 mile walk away.

Signed,

The Host

Wow. You do not have to eat. You do not have to cook. But let others in your kitchen. You may have stuffed yourself silly, but others may have not. And How hard is it to put out some bagels and cereal?

I never stuff myself at any meal (thin, small stomach) so I would be hungry again after three hours.

You're an adult. You do not need to be on the feeding schedule of a newborn. Once you get teeth - the kitchen is closed after a heavy meal.

Actually when you’re an adult you decide when to eat.

Stop trying to control your guests’ every bite of food. Why are you so obsessed over making sure none of your guests eat an apple or a sandwich outside of your strict mealtimes? You have issues.

Crumbs and fingerprints in the kitchen are my business. I want one morning not to worry about them, thank you very much.

You should not host. PERIOD.

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Anonymous wrote:Dinner time -- how's it going? Did everyone get a nice big Christmas dinner? Or were you fed a Christmas lunch that the hosts thought was so big at 2 pm that no one should need to eat again until Monday morning?

I served light appetizers for lunch and then a big dinner at 3 followed by dessert. After that, no more food - nada, zip. I'm still not that hungry this morning and my feet are sore from standing in the kitchen making that nice meal yesterday, so I'm not making breakfast this morning. Burger King is only a short 5 mile walk away.

Signed,

The Host

Wow. You do not have to eat. You do not have to cook. But let others in your kitchen. You may have stuffed yourself silly, but others may have not. And How hard is it to put out some bagels and cereal?

I never stuff myself at any meal (thin, small stomach) so I would be hungry again after three hours.

You're an adult. You do not need to be on the feeding schedule of a newborn. Once you get teeth - the kitchen is closed after a heavy meal.

Actually when you’re an adult you decide when to eat.

Stop trying to control your guests’ every bite of food. Why are you so obsessed over making sure none of your guests eat an apple or a sandwich outside of your strict mealtimes? You have issues.

Crumbs and fingerprints in the kitchen are my business. I want one morning not to worry about them, thank you very much.

Here's the thing. If my mom said to me, "I'd love a break tomorrow morning*, would you mind going out for breakfast?" I'd be happy to do so.

But it's never that. It's "How can you possibly eat. We had such a big meal yesterday. I don't think it's healthy to eat two days in a row. I'm sure your brother doesn't do that. Have you noticed how slim he is? Oh, and please don't go in the kitchen. You always make such a mess. Do you remember that time in fifth grade when you left the lid off the diet margarine? I just can't handle it."

*Note, the reason she needs a break is because she won't let anyone help, and any attempts by others to help are so stressful to her. I'm the PP whose mother now allows water, and tolerated the salad. Yesterday, while I was prepping the vegetables she asked me to make, she came hobbling into the kitchen 3 or 4 times because she heard some "awful noise" and had to make sure things were OK. One time the awful noise was the sound a knife makes on a cutting board when I cut up carrots. Another time, it was the sound of a drawer opening so I could find her pepper. She also had to come check that there wasn't anything out of place. So, she's exhausted by the process of making Christmas dinner, but only because her anxiety made her go back and forth

PP, maybe you should have the meal catered, and you go pick it up. Or make reservations for Christmas dinner at a hotel nearby and drag your mother there. I would not want to be in that situation.

Or maybe you should realize that your mom does not want you in and out of the kitchen every 3 hours making crumbs and getting fingerprints on the stainless steel appliances or putting knives away in the wrong drawer? Some people are naturally neat and tidy. Other people are not.

The day after Christmas breakfast is a nice day to go out somewhere and grab yourself a bite. Or just wait until lunchtime.

PP, I don't think you know what the poster you are referring to said earlier. Her mother would not even let her have WATER at dinner (only wine) while in high school/college. She now lets her drink water at dinner....

[Anonymous]

Learn to take a hint. They're free!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dinner time -- how's it going? Did everyone get a nice big Christmas dinner? Or were you fed a Christmas lunch that the hosts thought was so big at 2 pm that no one should need to eat again until Monday morning?

I served light appetizers for lunch and then a big dinner at 3 followed by dessert. After that, no more food - nada, zip. I'm still not that hungry this morning and my feet are sore from standing in the kitchen making that nice meal yesterday, so I'm not making breakfast this morning. Burger King is only a short 5 mile walk away.

Signed,

The Host

Wow. You do not have to eat. You do not have to cook. But let others in your kitchen. You may have stuffed yourself silly, but others may have not. And How hard is it to put out some bagels and cereal?

I never stuff myself at any meal (thin, small stomach) so I would be hungry again after three hours.

You're an adult. You do not need to be on the feeding schedule of a newborn. Once you get teeth - the kitchen is closed after a heavy meal.

Actually when you’re an adult you decide when to eat.

Stop trying to control your guests’ every bite of food. Why are you so obsessed over making sure none of your guests eat an apple or a sandwich outside of your strict mealtimes? You have issues.

Crumbs and fingerprints in the kitchen are my business. I want one morning not to worry about them, thank you very much.

Here's the thing. If my mom said to me, "I'd love a break tomorrow morning*, would you mind going out for breakfast?" I'd be happy to do so.

But it's never that. It's "How can you possibly eat. We had such a big meal yesterday. I don't think it's healthy to eat two days in a row. I'm sure your brother doesn't do that. Have you noticed how slim he is? Oh, and please don't go in the kitchen. You always make such a mess. Do you remember that time in fifth grade when you left the lid off the diet margarine? I just can't handle it."

*Note, the reason she needs a break is because she won't let anyone help, and any attempts by others to help are so stressful to her. I'm the PP whose mother now allows water, and tolerated the salad. Yesterday, while I was prepping the vegetables she asked me to make, she came hobbling into the kitchen 3 or 4 times because she heard some "awful noise" and had to make sure things were OK. One time the awful noise was the sound a knife makes on a cutting board when I cut up carrots. Another time, it was the sound of a drawer opening so I could find her pepper. She also had to come check that there wasn't anything out of place. So, she's exhausted by the process of making Christmas dinner, but only because her anxiety made her go back and forth

PP, maybe you should have the meal catered, and you go pick it up. Or make reservations for Christmas dinner at a hotel nearby and drag your mother there. I would not want to be in that situation.

Or maybe you should realize that your mom does not want you in and out of the kitchen every 3 hours making crumbs and getting fingerprints on the stainless steel appliances or putting knives away in the wrong drawer? Some people are naturally neat and tidy. Other people are not.

The day after Christmas breakfast is a nice day to go out somewhere and grab yourself a bite. Or just wait until lunchtime.

PP, I don't think you know what the poster you are referring to said earlier. Her mother would not even let her have WATER at dinner (only wine) while in high school/college. She now lets her drink water at dinner....

Well that is a bit much. You always have a wine glass and a water goblet on a properly set table.

[Anonymous]

We stayed with my MIL one Thanksgiving and brought a big pot of soup for the family potluck, which was held at a nearby SIL's place. MIL did not have any food in her house. Worse, I was in my first trimester and had never knew hunger like that. The day after Thanksgiving, my H and SFIL went hunting and took the car. I ate the leftover of the soup we brought, plus some rolls, that's all I had for a whole day. MIL couldn't be bothered. What a miserable experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We stayed with my MIL one Thanksgiving and brought a big pot of soup for the family potluck, which was held at a nearby SIL's place. MIL did not have any food in her house. Worse, I was in my first trimester and had never knew hunger like that. The day after Thanksgiving, my H and SFIL went hunting and took the car. I ate the leftover of the soup we brought, plus some rolls, that's all I had for a whole day. MIL couldn't be bothered. What a miserable experience.

eh, soup and rolls sounds like a decent meal to me. What did you want? A turkey and a pot of mashed potatoes?