No one eats in this house

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My Pakistani ILs are neither cheap nor have eating disorders. SIL is just extremely lazy and BIL is completely clueless. Breakfast is at noon (eggs, toast, tea). Lunch is at 5pm/6pm. Dinner at 10pm. She'll cook a huge batch of one item (usually haleem/stew or biryani) and we'll eat that for days on end.

I come from a family (a different kind of South Asian) that is over the top with food. When guests are visiting, we have 5 meals, and each meal has 3-5 dishes minimum. When I first got married, I would starve and beg my husband to take me out to get food. After 5 years (and now having a kid to feed), I've learned never to visit without access to a car. I also will buy groceries and cook meals for everyone when SIL has disappeared for hours. The poor kids in that family - omg they get so happy when we provide food because they're freaking STARVING.

Who the hell is cooking all that food? I bet you never see the people who are cooking. Sounds like a really fun time unless you are the one cooking 24/7.

It's an Indian/Paki gathering -- all the women get stuck cooking (esp. the women who live in that house or are the closest relatives of the hostess) and when they aren't cooking, cleaning up from the prior meals and/or starting to prep for the next one. The men don't partake in such things -- they're gathered in the living room watching cricket, talking politics or whatever. People don't seem to want to acknowledge that these gatherings suck for women and aren't the least bit restful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dinner time -- how's it going? Did everyone get a nice big Christmas dinner? Or were you fed a Christmas lunch that the hosts thought was so big at 2 pm that no one should need to eat again until Monday morning?

I served light appetizers for lunch and then a big dinner at 3 followed by dessert. After that, no more food - nada, zip. I'm still not that hungry this morning and my feet are sore from standing in the kitchen making that nice meal yesterday, so I'm not making breakfast this morning. Burger King is only a short 5 mile walk away.

Signed,

The Host

Wow. You do not have to eat. You do not have to cook. But let others in your kitchen. You may have stuffed yourself silly, but others may have not. And How hard is it to put out some bagels and cereal?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry but are your in laws and/or parents fat? The way most of you sound, it’s as if they all have eating disorders.

Just because people eat regular meals each day, doesn't mean that they have "eating disorders". That is what normal people do. Commenting on other people's "having enough food for an army", on the regular, is beyond weird. It's fine if you don't eat, or eat next to nothing, but do not starve your guests. That is just wrong.

PP here. The comments while you eat are hilarious, too: "that looks good" - which, to most people would just be a simple statement - but to the family with eating disorders, anything can easily be taken as any meaning ranging from "what, none for us??" to "I can't believe you are eating again (really, just the second meal of the day)".

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dinner time -- how's it going? Did everyone get a nice big Christmas dinner? Or were you fed a Christmas lunch that the hosts thought was so big at 2 pm that no one should need to eat again until Monday morning?

I served light appetizers for lunch and then a big dinner at 3 followed by dessert. After that, no more food - nada, zip. I'm still not that hungry this morning and my feet are sore from standing in the kitchen making that nice meal yesterday, so I'm not making breakfast this morning. Burger King is only a short 5 mile walk away.

Signed,

The Host

Wow. You do not have to eat. You do not have to cook. But let others in your kitchen. You may have stuffed yourself silly, but others may have not. And How hard is it to put out some bagels and cereal?

I never stuff myself at any meal (thin, small stomach) so I would be hungry again after three hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dinner time -- how's it going? Did everyone get a nice big Christmas dinner? Or were you fed a Christmas lunch that the hosts thought was so big at 2 pm that no one should need to eat again until Monday morning?

I served light appetizers for lunch and then a big dinner at 3 followed by dessert. After that, no more food - nada, zip. I'm still not that hungry this morning and my feet are sore from standing in the kitchen making that nice meal yesterday, so I'm not making breakfast this morning. Burger King is only a short 5 mile walk away.

Signed,

The Host

Wow. You do not have to eat. You do not have to cook. But let others in your kitchen. You may have stuffed yourself silly, but others may have not. And How hard is it to put out some bagels and cereal?

I just cleaned the kitchen and would like the morning off after having just treated everyone to a wonderful holiday meal. Lunch is not that far away. If you must eat before that - Burger King is open 24/7. Be there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dinner time -- how's it going? Did everyone get a nice big Christmas dinner? Or were you fed a Christmas lunch that the hosts thought was so big at 2 pm that no one should need to eat again until Monday morning?

I served light appetizers for lunch and then a big dinner at 3 followed by dessert. After that, no more food - nada, zip. I'm still not that hungry this morning and my feet are sore from standing in the kitchen making that nice meal yesterday, so I'm not making breakfast this morning. Burger King is only a short 5 mile walk away.

Signed,

The Host

Wow. You do not have to eat. You do not have to cook. But let others in your kitchen. You may have stuffed yourself silly, but others may have not. And How hard is it to put out some bagels and cereal?

I never stuff myself at any meal (thin, small stomach) so I would be hungry again after three hours.

You're an adult. You do not need to be on the feeding schedule of a newborn. Once you get teeth - the kitchen is closed after a heavy meal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dinner time -- how's it going? Did everyone get a nice big Christmas dinner? Or were you fed a Christmas lunch that the hosts thought was so big at 2 pm that no one should need to eat again until Monday morning?

I served light appetizers for lunch and then a big dinner at 3 followed by dessert. After that, no more food - nada, zip. I'm still not that hungry this morning and my feet are sore from standing in the kitchen making that nice meal yesterday, so I'm not making breakfast this morning. Burger King is only a short 5 mile walk away.

Signed,

The Host

Wow. You do not have to eat. You do not have to cook. But let others in your kitchen. You may have stuffed yourself silly, but others may have not. And How hard is it to put out some bagels and cereal?

I just cleaned the kitchen and would like the morning off after having just treated everyone to a wonderful holiday meal. Lunch is not that far away. If you must eat before that - Burger King is open 24/7. Be there.

Honestly if hosting family is such a chore for you don’t do it.

Expecting others to eat Burger King (which is gross) because you want to close your kitchen for 20 hours is bizarre. Would it be so hard to have some clementines and bagels/ cream cheese for your guests? Taking a break from cooking is one thing, expecting your guests to starve or eat fast food on Christmas is another.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dinner time -- how's it going? Did everyone get a nice big Christmas dinner? Or were you fed a Christmas lunch that the hosts thought was so big at 2 pm that no one should need to eat again until Monday morning?

I served light appetizers for lunch and then a big dinner at 3 followed by dessert. After that, no more food - nada, zip. I'm still not that hungry this morning and my feet are sore from standing in the kitchen making that nice meal yesterday, so I'm not making breakfast this morning. Burger King is only a short 5 mile walk away.

Signed,

The Host

Wow. You do not have to eat. You do not have to cook. But let others in your kitchen. You may have stuffed yourself silly, but others may have not. And How hard is it to put out some bagels and cereal?

I never stuff myself at any meal (thin, small stomach) so I would be hungry again after three hours.

You're an adult. You do not need to be on the feeding schedule of a newborn. Once you get teeth - the kitchen is closed after a heavy meal.

Actually when you’re an adult you decide when to eat.

Stop trying to control your guests’ every bite of food. Why are you so obsessed over making sure none of your guests eat an apple or a sandwich outside of your strict mealtimes? You have issues.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dinner time -- how's it going? Did everyone get a nice big Christmas dinner? Or were you fed a Christmas lunch that the hosts thought was so big at 2 pm that no one should need to eat again until Monday morning?

I served light appetizers for lunch and then a big dinner at 3 followed by dessert. After that, no more food - nada, zip. I'm still not that hungry this morning and my feet are sore from standing in the kitchen making that nice meal yesterday, so I'm not making breakfast this morning. Burger King is only a short 5 mile walk away.

Signed,

The Host

Wow. You do not have to eat. You do not have to cook. But let others in your kitchen. You may have stuffed yourself silly, but others may have not. And How hard is it to put out some bagels and cereal?

I just cleaned the kitchen and would like the morning off after having just treated everyone to a wonderful holiday meal. Lunch is not that far away. If you must eat before that - Burger King is open 24/7. Be there.

Honestly if hosting family is such a chore for you don’t do it.

Expecting others to eat Burger King (which is gross) because you want to close your kitchen for 20 hours is bizarre. Would it be so hard to have some clementines and bagels/ cream cheese for your guests? Taking a break from cooking is one thing, expecting your guests to starve or eat fast food on Christmas is another.

I made a lovely, abundant meal on Christmas Day. The morning after Christmas I brew coffee and take the the morning off. If someone did not eat enough at the big meal, that is hardly my doing.

Kitchen reopens at lunchtime.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dinner time -- how's it going? Did everyone get a nice big Christmas dinner? Or were you fed a Christmas lunch that the hosts thought was so big at 2 pm that no one should need to eat again until Monday morning?

I served light appetizers for lunch and then a big dinner at 3 followed by dessert. After that, no more food - nada, zip. I'm still not that hungry this morning and my feet are sore from standing in the kitchen making that nice meal yesterday, so I'm not making breakfast this morning. Burger King is only a short 5 mile walk away.

Signed,

The Host

Wow. You do not have to eat. You do not have to cook. But let others in your kitchen. You may have stuffed yourself silly, but others may have not. And How hard is it to put out some bagels and cereal?

I never stuff myself at any meal (thin, small stomach) so I would be hungry again after three hours.

You're an adult. You do not need to be on the feeding schedule of a newborn. Once you get teeth - the kitchen is closed after a heavy meal.

Actually when you’re an adult you decide when to eat.

Stop trying to control your guests’ every bite of food. Why are you so obsessed over making sure none of your guests eat an apple or a sandwich outside of your strict mealtimes? You have issues.

Crumbs and fingerprints in the kitchen are my business. I want one morning not to worry about them, thank you very much.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, hosting isn't your thing so pass it along to a family member who isn't possesive about their kitchen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dinner time -- how's it going? Did everyone get a nice big Christmas dinner? Or were you fed a Christmas lunch that the hosts thought was so big at 2 pm that no one should need to eat again until Monday morning?

I served light appetizers for lunch and then a big dinner at 3 followed by dessert. After that, no more food - nada, zip. I'm still not that hungry this morning and my feet are sore from standing in the kitchen making that nice meal yesterday, so I'm not making breakfast this morning. Burger King is only a short 5 mile walk away.

Signed,

The Host

Wow. You do not have to eat. You do not have to cook. But let others in your kitchen. You may have stuffed yourself silly, but others may have not. And How hard is it to put out some bagels and cereal?

I never stuff myself at any meal (thin, small stomach) so I would be hungry again after three hours.

You're an adult. You do not need to be on the feeding schedule of a newborn. Once you get teeth - the kitchen is closed after a heavy meal.

Actually when you’re an adult you decide when to eat.

Stop trying to control your guests’ every bite of food. Why are you so obsessed over making sure none of your guests eat an apple or a sandwich outside of your strict mealtimes? You have issues.

Crumbs and fingerprints in the kitchen are my business. I want one morning not to worry about them, thank you very much.

I really think it's about control. This has been my experience. It's hovering, analyzing and obsessing about every single moment I spend in the kitchen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dinner time -- how's it going? Did everyone get a nice big Christmas dinner? Or were you fed a Christmas lunch that the hosts thought was so big at 2 pm that no one should need to eat again until Monday morning?

I served light appetizers for lunch and then a big dinner at 3 followed by dessert. After that, no more food - nada, zip. I'm still not that hungry this morning and my feet are sore from standing in the kitchen making that nice meal yesterday, so I'm not making breakfast this morning. Burger King is only a short 5 mile walk away.

Signed,

The Host

Wow. You do not have to eat. You do not have to cook. But let others in your kitchen. You may have stuffed yourself silly, but others may have not. And How hard is it to put out some bagels and cereal?

I never stuff myself at any meal (thin, small stomach) so I would be hungry again after three hours.

You're an adult. You do not need to be on the feeding schedule of a newborn. Once you get teeth - the kitchen is closed after a heavy meal.

Actually when you’re an adult you decide when to eat.

Stop trying to control your guests’ every bite of food. Why are you so obsessed over making sure none of your guests eat an apple or a sandwich outside of your strict mealtimes? You have issues.

+1

The control issues are deep in that one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dinner time -- how's it going? Did everyone get a nice big Christmas dinner? Or were you fed a Christmas lunch that the hosts thought was so big at 2 pm that no one should need to eat again until Monday morning?

I served light appetizers for lunch and then a big dinner at 3 followed by dessert. After that, no more food - nada, zip. I'm still not that hungry this morning and my feet are sore from standing in the kitchen making that nice meal yesterday, so I'm not making breakfast this morning. Burger King is only a short 5 mile walk away.

Signed,

The Host

Wow. You do not have to eat. You do not have to cook. But let others in your kitchen. You may have stuffed yourself silly, but others may have not. And How hard is it to put out some bagels and cereal?

I never stuff myself at any meal (thin, small stomach) so I would be hungry again after three hours.

You're an adult. You do not need to be on the feeding schedule of a newborn. Once you get teeth - the kitchen is closed after a heavy meal.

Actually when you’re an adult you decide when to eat.

Stop trying to control your guests’ every bite of food. Why are you so obsessed over making sure none of your guests eat an apple or a sandwich outside of your strict mealtimes? You have issues.

Crumbs and fingerprints in the kitchen are my business. I want one morning not to worry about them, thank you very much.

I really think it's about control. This has been my experience. It's hovering, analyzing and obsessing about every single moment I spend in the kitchen.

For some hosts, it's fine for them to do what they want when they want to, but judging/analyzing you is their specialty - long live the double standard. No thanks.

[Anonymous]

I really don’t understand how an adult will choose to let themselves go hungry over standing up to this kind of nonsense. Why are you worried about offending crazy people?