Upper class habits?

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Anonymous wrote:The people I know who are really ridiculously rich make a big deal over small things (eg kids costumes in a play) and trivialize big deals (million dollar renovations of their home).

Sounds kind of new money-ish to me.

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You are Episcopalian.

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Anonymous wrote:Define upper class (or as you so elegantly put it, upper ass). Are we talking royalty, top 1/2 percenters, family wealth, new money?

At least three crosses to Northern Dancer or Raise a Native in their Five Gen pedigrees.

Omg, my mom and I had a jumper who was related to Northern Dancer! We called him Ollie, but his show name was ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:Several generations attend the same boarding schools. College buildings or libraries named after some great great grandparent. Summer place off the coast of Maine, on the Vineyard, or on the Cape, that's been in the family for generations. Knows what a first cousin once removed is. Social register. Green Book. Wedding announcement ( or maybe just parents and grandparents wedding announcements) in the New York Times. Foreign travel - especially Europe. Foreign languages. Emphasis on education and the arts. Fondness for alcohol. Mental illness or eccentricity in the extended family. Certain club and board memberships. Field hockey. Lacrosse. Squash. Tennis. Skiing. Golf. Sailing. Crew. Horses. Ice hockey. Good table manners. Stiff upper lip. High expectations. Quiet confidence. security. May very well wear old clothes and drive old cars and wear little jewelry. Little conspicuous consumption. Treat others with respect. Grace.

Nailed it.

Yes, I'd agree with this too.

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They are it of touch as far as money and how other people have to live.

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Yes, about being out of touch. They rave about some extravagant vacation knowing you are currently unemployed, but are oblivious.

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I don't know ... I'll report back and tell you when I get there!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not talking about money; talking about class.

OK, defined as...?

People who are well bred and raised.

They don't brag on facebook or post telling photos that allude to a fancy trip or money. They post down to earth photos of their children and include nothing "showy".

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Define upper class (or as you so elegantly put it, upper ass). Are we talking royalty, top 1/2 percenters, family wealth, new money?

At least three crosses to Northern Dancer or Raise a Native in their Five Gen pedigrees.

Omg, my mom and I had a jumper who was related to Northern Dancer! We called him Ollie, but his show name was ridiculous.

The joke I was making is that basically every Thoroughbred in North America is related to both these horses. The three crosses means line bred to them/inbred. Also very common and not necessarily bad if well done because it can concentrate good traits and pass them down more consistently but still, it's a joke about rich people marrying within their ranks.

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Maybe I should add "making stupid horse breeding jokes that nobody gets" but alas, I am not upper class, just lame.

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They do talk about money. Just not how much they have, but will speculate about others' situations or how someone lost it all in the tech bubble. (No schedenfruade, however.) They believe in budgets and will inculcate their children into that. Very important not to dip into capital. Thrift is a very common attribute.

Do not like talk of personal medical problems except with the very closest family, which often does not include in laws. Ok of course to talk about the ebola epidemic.

Religion is discussed but not in the sense of what you or they believe, more at the periphery, and they are often on a first name basis with their priest (skip the "Father" part.)

In the UK they swear like longshoremen, but that doesn't seem to be the US way.

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Anonymous wrote:For the men, have a lover. Like Scwatzenegger, Kennedy, George Washington, King George, Prince Charles, Donald Trump

Donald Trump has no class. He has a ton of money, but he's vulgar and crass and loud. He's vile.

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Some of the men are bounders. But many of those who are not are very anti-unfaithfulness. It wouldn't get in their way of their relationship with a bounder, though. They would just think much less of them.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe I should add "making stupid horse breeding jokes that nobody gets" but alas, I am not upper class, just lame.

Thank you for explaining!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Define upper class (or as you so elegantly put it, upper ass). Are we talking royalty, top 1/2 percenters, family wealth, new money?

At least three crosses to Northern Dancer or Raise a Native in their Five Gen pedigrees.

Omg, my mom and I had a jumper who was related to Northern Dancer! We called him Ollie, but his show name was ridiculous.

That takes me back. My mom insisted on buying me a second horse -- because that's what you do, get a thoroughbred to do serious showing -- never mind that I was perfectly happy with my quarter horse who didn't fit in with the hunt seat set. As I was riding him for the first time, I decided I wanted to call him Alex but she insisted he had to have a name fit for the show ring so his official name was Royal Oak.

Years later I realized that my grandfather was actually a self-made man and we weren't old money but my mom sure acted as if we were.