Did you marry for money?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't have sympathy for men who married women who married for money. Those men probably want the trophy wife who stays home and takes care of the home as well as being their arm candy at events.

Gold-digging women don't usually come out and say that they want money. They size up a man based on his education and social status and try to project his future socioeconomic status. A lot of smart, but unambitious men have made the mistake of marrying materialistic women who were expecting them to be CEOs, only to find that their husbands are happy making a regular paycheck and enjoying life, instead of career climbing. That's where you end up with these complaints from posters who are disappointed that her DHs income isn't higher, or his career didn't turn out the way *she* expected.

It honestly would be better if women who knew that they really just wanted a guy who makes money were very honest about it when dating. Honestly, a lot of guys would be fine with that, especially if she was OK with him having affairs outside of the marriage.

[Anonymous]

Agree that marrying for money is prostitution, but I don't really scorn prostitutes. It's a vocation, It's a job. Can't relate a bit to the gold-digging type, though. Ex-stripper here, married for love. I can see fucking for money when you're doing it on the clock, but for life? What an exhausting-sounding charade.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree that marrying for money is prostitution, but I don't really scorn prostitutes. It's a vocation, It's a job. Can't relate a bit to the gold-digging type, though. Ex-stripper here, married for love. I can see fucking for money when you're doing it on the clock, but for life? What an exhausting-sounding charade.

Agreed.

[Anonymous]

I know someone, second marriage. She is classically beautiful and still will be at sixty, from a well off and cultured family. First husband was very attractive frat type. Married for more than a dozen years with kids. she left him, and it widely known that it was because he was unable to provide the lifestyle she expected. She is now with an extremely successful, not as attractive guy. He is neither ugly nor old, just not as good looking as first husband.

[Anonymous]

I married for the sex.

Now I'd rather have money. To pay for the hotel rooms.

[Anonymous]

How I wish I had been that smart!

[Anonymous]

Missed opportunity! Regret it now.

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Anonymous wrote:Curious. Did you marry your DH/DW for money or "prestige"? How is it working out.

Single myself. Two of my close girlfriends married 4 years ago for money - one to a multi-millionaire entrepreneur and one to a lawyer. Both of them have talked about cheating, about constantly trying to re-establish his affection by being beautiful/sweet/good in bed, about loneliness, etc. One of them burst into tears when she got pregnant a second time because she was afraid she'd lose her figure and he'd divorce her.

I don't know anyone who married for money, but I do know several couples that won't divorce because of it.

Yes, I know these couples also.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I married for money. I don't mind too much if he screws someone else here or there - my issue will be if he starts trying to lavish money on a mistress or divorce me.

I'm not saying it's a perfect marriage, but we're happy. I give him good sex, keep a clean and pretty home, and always greet him with a smile and a kiss when he comes home from work. I look great on his arm at office parties, like a trophy. And I get to buy all the things I want and my girlfriends envy me. It works out.

I feel sad for you.

Don't feel sad, PP; that post was a total fiction, probably written by a guy. Here's how to tell: 1) all women care if DH "Screws" another woman, in any capacity;
2) I don't know any women who use the word "screw" in this century;
3) why would she need to "keep a clean and pretty home" if DH were rich -- wouldn't a servant do that?
4) the "buy all things I want" and "girlfriends envy me" are typical mysogynistic cliches.

There are other ways to break down the post to prove that it's a guy's fantasy of "What women want" (this guy doesn't have a clue, BTW), but the point is that the post is as big a fiction as anything you'll find on DCUM, on this thread or any other.

I knew a girl, I will not call her a friend, but she knew her husband fracked other women. Her response was, as long as he brings home his paycheck in full, no STD's, and keep it discreet she was staying married. She considered her husband a good provider and no, he was not wealthy, simply middle class.

[Anonymous]

At reunions for my inside-the-Beltway MoCo high school, it's easy to see who married for money--the girls who were pretty but not particularly smart in school who arrive at the reunion with a successful guy at least 10 years older than they are. They are now put-together and perfect in that MoCo-plastic way, and I'm sure they think they caught the brass ring.