Did you marry for money?

[Anonymous]

I married for love and money, in that I made it clear from the beginning of our relationship that I wanted to be a SAHM. I would not have married him (then) if this would not be possible.

We dated for a long time, engaged for a year. Three children and 18 years later, I'd marry him all over again.

It all works out for him - we invested and saved my income and lived on his, bought a house, had a baby, then two more.

I take care of the house, cook the meals, handle all the childcare responsibilities, garden, laundry, shopping and try to give him as nice of a life as he's given me. I'm grateful and tell him so. We live modestly, but comfortably.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I married for money. I don't mind too much if he screws someone else here or there - my issue will be if he starts trying to lavish money on a mistress or divorce me.

I'm not saying it's a perfect marriage, but we're happy. I give him good sex, keep a clean and pretty home, and always greet him with a smile and a kiss when he comes home from work. I look great on his arm at office parties, like a trophy. And I get to buy all the things I want and my girlfriends envy me. It works out.

I am a wealthy man who is married to a woman who is not a trophy wife and who married me when I was in grad school so she didn't marry me for money. And I have to tell you, I would be much happier if I had the wife described above. I don't care if there is true love, but if my wife was able to keep a good home and keep me sexually satisfied I would be thrilled. I would trade my low sex wife for a trophy wife in a heartbeat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I married for money. I don't mind too much if he screws someone else here or there - my issue will be if he starts trying to lavish money on a mistress or divorce me.

I'm not saying it's a perfect marriage, but we're happy. I give him good sex, keep a clean and pretty home, and always greet him with a smile and a kiss when he comes home from work. I look great on his arm at office parties, like a trophy. And I get to buy all the things I want and my girlfriends envy me. It works out.

I am a wealthy man who is married to a woman who is not a trophy wife and who married me when I was in grad school so she didn't marry me for money. And I have to tell you, I would be much happier if I had the wife described above. I don't care if there is true love, but if my wife was able to keep a good home and keep me sexually satisfied I would be thrilled. I would trade my low sex wife for a trophy wife in a heartbeat.

For the record, many trophy wives wouldn't stoop to your level, even if you are super wealthy. You need to realize how unattractive it is to have no higher allegiances in a relationship than your own selfish desires. I'm a guy that loves sex and doesn't get it more than once a week; I would have to be an idiot to divorce my wife to get more sex and house-keeping when those services can always be hired.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I married for love and money

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women on the east coast, or any high cost of living city, probably feel more pressure to marry for money to maintain even a half way decent lifestyle.

In the Midwest, it would be ridiculous to see even the wealthiest of women traipsing around a grocery store in designer pumps, handbags, and sunglasses, with fake eyelashes and hair extensions.

Wealthy people in lower cost of living cities would most likely never allow their children to mingle with or marry a gold digger. They would marry into families they have known for years, from private schools, from same socio economic background.

No, the pressure to marry money isn't a regional pressure. There's no larger concentration of morally-challenged women or men in any particular part of the country.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I married for money. I don't mind too much if he screws someone else here or there - my issue will be if he starts trying to lavish money on a mistress or divorce me.

I'm not saying it's a perfect marriage, but we're happy. I give him good sex, keep a clean and pretty home, and always greet him with a smile and a kiss when he comes home from work. I look great on his arm at office parties, like a trophy. And I get to buy all the things I want and my girlfriends envy me. It works out.

I am a wealthy man who is married to a woman who is not a trophy wife and who married me when I was in grad school so she didn't marry me for money. And I have to tell you, I would be much happier if I had the wife described above. I don't care if there is true love, but if my wife was able to keep a good home and keep me sexually satisfied I would be thrilled. I would trade my low sex wife for a trophy wife in a heartbeat.

For the record, many trophy wives wouldn't stoop to your level, even if you are super wealthy. You need to realize how unattractive it is to have no higher allegiances in a relationship than your own selfish desires. I'm a guy that loves sex and doesn't get it more than once a week; I would have to be an idiot to divorce my wife to get more sex and house-keeping when those services can always be hired.

Not so easy to hire out the sex part in a realistic and not illegal way. I think the wealthy man above makes some sense. I just don't understand the low sex wife. Especially when things are generally good in a long term relationship.

[Anonymous]

I married for both love and money. I bring in 50% of our income and I wanted a husband who could provide at least as much as I did. I did not want the stress of being the primary breadwinner. We are a good team and the money makes life a lot easier. I honestly do not think I would have married a man with a low paying job (with the exception of a highly intellectual job like a college professor).

[Anonymous]

HAH. I responded on a similar thread, since we are so obsessed with money here on DCUM.

We have a very comfortable life, with all of the bells and whistles. Funny part is, most (if not all) people assume it is his money. I let them, because I like to see how people treat me, and the game really does work. You can tell a LOT about people with how they treat you when they think you are the one that has money. DH has a little money, but without me, it would be nothing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I married for money. I don't mind too much if he screws someone else here or there - my issue will be if he starts trying to lavish money on a mistress or divorce me.

I'm not saying it's a perfect marriage, but we're happy. I give him good sex, keep a clean and pretty home, and always greet him with a smile and a kiss when he comes home from work. I look great on his arm at office parties, like a trophy. And I get to buy all the things I want and my girlfriends envy me. It works out.

I am a wealthy man who is married to a woman who is not a trophy wife and who married me when I was in grad school so she didn't marry me for money. And I have to tell you, I would be much happier if I had the wife described above. I don't care if there is true love, but if my wife was able to keep a good home and keep me sexually satisfied I would be thrilled. I would trade my low sex wife for a trophy wife in a heartbeat.

For the record, many trophy wives wouldn't stoop to your level, even if you are super wealthy. You need to realize how unattractive it is to have no higher allegiances in a relationship than your own selfish desires. I'm a guy that loves sex and doesn't get it more than once a week; I would have to be an idiot to divorce my wife to get more sex and house-keeping when those services can always be hired.

Not so easy to hire out the sex part in a realistic and not illegal way. I think the wealthy man above makes some sense. I just don't understand the low sex wife. Especially when things are generally good in a long term relationship.

DH here. Didn't come from money but won one of life's lottos and was born smart. Was concerned when I married because I married poor but I thought we would build our life together. And as it turns out, from nothing, was a multi millionaire by early thirties. DW stopped working in early 30's before kids. Understand and agreed to financial commitments to help DW mother. Well, life happened. Once married, DW's primary concern was MIL. MIL refused to leave area - DW is only daughter and we told MIL she could come with us to other parts of the country as we pursued opportunities. She didn't want to move because of her one son. So DW refused to leave area precluding my ability to pursue very lucrative opportunities in other parts of the country. 2008 hit my balance sheet hard. DW had to go back to work. Rebuilding and still have alot of life left. DW hasn't had sex with me in 5 years, holds me in disdain and contempt. Refuses to leave area for other opportunities because of MIL who is dirt poor. Here is my life lesson: be careful when you change someone's lifestyle. My DW got caught up with the Jones and the country club set. We came from nothing, I made the money and will do so again. But it is plain as day she thinks I am the dumbest person she ever met. Its crazy, and frankly never said a word, but she probably gained close to 100 pounds after we got married and before kids. I mention that because it told me she didn't care how she looked - she wasn't keeping her figure for me. I should not have married poor; marry for love not money but marry an equal. And pay close attention to values - my DW was a consumer not a saver. And make sure the marriage relationship is the most important in both lives. DW was always way to worried about her Mom. Should have told her Mom, I married well he's providing a great lifestyle we need to support him, not limit him. And probably married too young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I married for love. My husband is a social worker and I earn more than he does (not by a huge amount-just a little under $20k more per year). I won't lie and say that money has never been an issue and that there haven't been times that I haven't thought about what it would have been like if I would have married someone with money but he's my best friend. I love him and I'd rather be with him than a wealthy or even upper middle class guy that I don't love or love as much. He's handsome, fun and a really good guy who loves to cook and does more than his share around the house. We have great conversations and have a good sex life even after being together over 15 years. Yeah, it would be great if we had money but I'm happy and wouldn't trade my marriage for one where's there's money but not a lot of love or friendship.

+1 I had to read this really carefully to make sure I wasn't the one who wrote it.

[Anonymous]

I'd marry for money in a heartbeat. I don't think people know how miserable and stressful it is to live on a middle class salary and know that between taxes, living expenses and student loans, you'll never be able to afford to retire. And god forbid you get sick or get fired.

[Anonymous]

People who marry for money, earn it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I married for money. I don't mind too much if he screws someone else here or there - my issue will be if he starts trying to lavish money on a mistress or divorce me.

I'm not saying it's a perfect marriage, but we're happy. I give him good sex, keep a clean and pretty home, and always greet him with a smile and a kiss when he comes home from work. I look great on his arm at office parties, like a trophy. And I get to buy all the things I want and my girlfriends envy me. It works out.

I am a wealthy man who is married to a woman who is not a trophy wife and who married me when I was in grad school so she didn't marry me for money. And I have to tell you, I would be much happier if I had the wife described above. I don't care if there is true love, but if my wife was able to keep a good home and keep me sexually satisfied I would be thrilled. I would trade my low sex wife for a trophy wife in a heartbeat.

For the record, many trophy wives wouldn't stoop to your level, even if you are super wealthy. You need to realize how unattractive it is to have no higher allegiances in a relationship than your own selfish desires. I'm a guy that loves sex and doesn't get it more than once a week; I would have to be an idiot to divorce my wife to get more sex and house-keeping when those services can always be hired.

Not so easy to hire out the sex part in a realistic and not illegal way. I think the wealthy man above makes some sense. I just don't understand the low sex wife. Especially when things are generally good in a long term relationship.

DH here. Didn't come from money but won one of life's lottos and was born smart. Was concerned when I married because I married poor but I thought we would build our life together. And as it turns out, from nothing, was a multi millionaire by early thirties. DW stopped working in early 30's before kids. Understand and agreed to financial commitments to help DW mother. Well, life happened. Once married, DW's primary concern was MIL. MIL refused to leave area - DW is only daughter and we told MIL she could come with us to other parts of the country as we pursued opportunities. She didn't want to move because of her one son. So DW refused to leave area precluding my ability to pursue very lucrative opportunities in other parts of the country. 2008 hit my balance sheet hard. DW had to go back to work. Rebuilding and still have alot of life left. DW hasn't had sex with me in 5 years, holds me in disdain and contempt. Refuses to leave area for other opportunities because of MIL who is dirt poor. Here is my life lesson: be careful when you change someone's lifestyle. My DW got caught up with the Jones and the country club set. We came from nothing, I made the money and will do so again. But it is plain as day she thinks I am the dumbest person she ever met. Its crazy, and frankly never said a word, but she probably gained close to 100 pounds after we got married and before kids. I mention that because it told me she didn't care how she looked - she wasn't keeping her figure for me. I should not have married poor; marry for love not money but marry an equal. And pay close attention to values - my DW was a consumer not a saver. And make sure the marriage relationship is the most important in both lives. DW was always way to worried about her Mom. Should have told her Mom, I married well he's providing a great lifestyle we need to support him, not limit him. And probably married too young.

God, this is depressing.

[Anonymous]

Married for love, and great sex. No drama and I have a DH who is in my bed every night.

We are middle class and I SAHM. We live much below our means. We have 2 kids. Been married for 25 years. DH is my intellectual, emotional, social, physical, sexual match. I love how average and fulfilled we are!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd marry for money in a heartbeat. I don't think people know how miserable and stressful it is to live on a middle class salary and know that between taxes, living expenses and student loans, you'll never be able to afford to retire. And god forbid you get sick or get fired.

This is said. Check out Mr money moustache and make some life changes so you longer feel this way. Asap