Did you marry for money?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did some DH marry his DW for money or earning capacity?

I am now a trophy husband without a formal job, because my wife brings in the big money as a specialized Medical Doctor. I probably wouldn't have asked her on a second date if I was just going by looks and general compatibility. The earning potential and family connections/wealth made it easier for me to follow through to a proposal, and now I wouldn't trade her for anyone else, even if she was younger and hotter.

Lazy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most women in this area marry for money to one degree or another.

It is part of the high standards that women here look for when trying to find a mate. It is also the reason why you have so many complaining that it is impossible to find suitable men in this area.

Combine the expectations for money with other pre-requisites and it becomes well nigh impossible to satisfy their requirements. So they stay single until they lower their expectations usually when they are in their thirties and feel they are missing the boat.

So a woman with a law degree marrying someone she meets in her class at Georgetown is marrying for money? Really?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did some DH marry his DW for money or earning capacity?

I am now a trophy husband without a formal job, because my wife brings in the big money as a specialized Medical Doctor. I probably wouldn't have asked her on a second date if I was just going by looks and general compatibility. The earning potential and family connections/wealth made it easier for me to follow through to a proposal, and now I wouldn't trade her for anyone else, even if she was younger and hotter.

Lucky bastard.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most women in this area marry for money to one degree or another.

It is part of the high standards that women here look for when trying to find a mate. It is also the reason why you have so many complaining that it is impossible to find suitable men in this area.

Combine the expectations for money with other pre-requisites and it becomes well nigh impossible to satisfy their requirements. So they stay single until they lower their expectations usually when they are in their thirties and feel they are missing the boat.

So a woman with a law degree marrying someone she meets in her class at Georgetown is marrying for money? Really?

The operative word is "most"........

Obviously there are exceptions.

[Anonymous]

I married for love. I don't think I could have had sex with a man if I was not in love with him. I wonder how women can do that?

We were quite poor for quite some time, but we were very happy. We have done alright as far as prestige and money is concerned - but it was not there when we married.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did some DH marry his DW for money or earning capacity?

I am now a trophy husband without a formal job, because my wife brings in the big money as a specialized Medical Doctor. I probably wouldn't have asked her on a second date if I was just going by looks and general compatibility. The earning potential and family connections/wealth made it easier for me to follow through to a proposal, and now I wouldn't trade her for anyone else, even if she was younger and hotter.

I feel sorry for your wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think I could have had sex with a man if I was not in love with him. I wonder how women can do that?

.

Because these women are just high priced prostitutes. Nothing more.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do men actually not realize these women are marrying them for their money? Or do they not care and only care about having that trophy skank on their arm?

Nope, they don't care. Works both ways because the man may be ugly as sin. Or the woman may look hot but may be as dumb as door knob.

She gets the lifestyle she wants and he gets an attractive woman.

Look at Rupert Murdoch as an extreme example: what do you think Wendi Deng saw in him? What do you think he saw in her - though she was not dumb woman by any means.

I guess it is just hard for me to relate.

If I had that kind of money, the last thing I'd want is some chick who is only interested in my money. Hot or not. If there isn't that emotional connection, why bother?

With that kind of money I could bang hot chicks all day without having to put a ring on her finger. Then again I guess it is all just a perception thing for them. Make it look like true love, have a family, etc... so it looks better to his boys at the country club.

I think some people are just not very sensitive or romantic. I can't imagine marrying a woman to whom I did not feel emotionally close to, or couldn't be open and vulnerable with. My life would feel so pointless and incomplete.

But some people are satisfied with designer handbags and nice cars, or a young blonde with nice tits, etc. They don't need to feel that close to another human being, perhaps because they just don't have the emotional capacity for it. It makes me wonder about how "conscious" some people actually are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most women in this area marry for money to one degree or another.

It is part of the high standards that women here look for when trying to find a mate. It is also the reason why you have so many complaining that it is impossible to find suitable men in this area.

Combine the expectations for money with other pre-requisites and it becomes well nigh impossible to satisfy their requirements. So they stay single until they lower their expectations usually when they are in their thirties and feel they are missing the boat.

So a woman with a law degree marrying someone she meets in her class at Georgetown is marrying for money? Really?

Most women in this position will not marry a man who is below her socioeconomic status. So, to a point, yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did some DH marry his DW for money or earning capacity?

I am now a trophy husband without a formal job, because my wife brings in the big money as a specialized Medical Doctor. I probably wouldn't have asked her on a second date if I was just going by looks and general compatibility. The earning potential and family connections/wealth made it easier for me to follow through to a proposal, and now I wouldn't trade her for anyone else, even if she was younger and hotter.

Lazy

He basically described the MO of 2/3s of DCUM women.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I married for money. I don't mind too much if he screws someone else here or there - my issue will be if he starts trying to lavish money on a mistress or divorce me.

I'm not saying it's a perfect marriage, but we're happy. I give him good sex, keep a clean and pretty home, and always greet him with a smile and a kiss when he comes home from work. I look great on his arm at office parties, like a trophy. And I get to buy all the things I want and my girlfriends envy me. It works out.

I am a guy and this sounds great to me.

A smile and kiss from work? A clean and pretty home? Good sex? Attractive?

Sign me up

Only if you have serious money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did some DH marry his DW for money or earning capacity?

I am now a trophy husband without a formal job, because my wife brings in the big money as a specialized Medical Doctor. I probably wouldn't have asked her on a second date if I was just going by looks and general compatibility. The earning potential and family connections/wealth made it easier for me to follow through to a proposal, and now I wouldn't trade her for anyone else, even if she was younger and hotter.

Lazy

He basically described the MO of 2/3s of DCUM women.

+1

Exactly - and most women don't bat an eye when it is a woman who wants to be a trophy wife and just stay at home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did some DH marry his DW for money or earning capacity?

I am now a trophy husband without a formal job, because my wife brings in the big money as a specialized Medical Doctor. I probably wouldn't have asked her on a second date if I was just going by looks and general compatibility. The earning potential and family connections/wealth made it easier for me to follow through to a proposal, and now I wouldn't trade her for anyone else, even if they were younger and hotter.

Lazy

He basically described the MO of 2/3s of DCUM women.

+1

Exactly - and most women don't bat an eye when it is a woman who wants to be a trophy wife and just stay at home.

"Trophy husband" here, responding. I do provide part-time Daddy Daycare, bring in a little money on the side, care for the house, and cook gourmet meals for my wife every day, so I'd like to think I'm not as much of a dead-weight financial burden as some of the trophy wives I meet in the DMV.

My wife married for love, and now neither of us could imagine being happier with anyone but each other.

OP, there has to be some shared values and some common interests, if you want your marriage 'for money' to last. Make sure the guy loves you for more than your looks; that's what worked for me, as a guy who married up.

[Anonymous]

I married for love, but took earnings potential into consideration in deciding who I would get to know. Completely in love with my husband, and we're pretty darn comfortable, so it all worked out well.

I didn't go into it looking to be a lady of leisure, though, I was willing to work just as hard as I expected a future spouse to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I married for love, but took earnings potential into consideration in deciding who I would get to know. Completely in love with my husband, and we're pretty darn comfortable, so it all worked out well.

I didn't go into it looking to be a lady of leisure, though, I was willing to work just as hard as I expected a future spouse to.

So you married for love and money?

If it had been the same guy with limited earning potential you would likely not have married him?