Things you secretly oppose, but don't want other people to know:

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Anonymous wrote:OMG I love this thread!

SAHMs whose kids are in school (Mad Men wives)
Organic everything
Shoeless houses

And for me:
People whose identities are their jobs
Pesticides
Outdoor shoes inside

We're probably BFFs.

Sooo obvious you've never had a career.

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People who care about their children's fashion - especially little ones like toddlers. You're really worried that your 1.5 year old's t-shirt doesn't go with her leggings? Are you insane?

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Anonymous wrote:Moms who work FT "by choice", gay marriage, any sort of weird diet that is not related to food allergy/intolerance (vegan, vegetarian, gluten free, etc.), people who drive cars that are disproportionately nice compared to their house.

I could go on and on. I'm quite judgy, but know better than to tell people!

Ooh ooh, I am a mom who's always worked full time by choice. Do you think it's not really my choice, or that all women should SAH or WOH PT once they become parents? How totally weird.

I know it's totally your choice, that you could easily afford to stay home with your children and don't. That is why I judge. Women who truly must work to cover basic bills, I feel sorry for.

What are you judging? That my children are neglected or being raised wrong because their other parent is as equally involved? Do you think because I work by choice, I'm materialistic? Do you think only women who want to spend the majority of their time with their children should have them?

Mostly this. Obviously I don't know you personally, but many people I know "can't afford to stay home" because then they couldn't afford the country club and the X5.

But I CAN afford to stay home. I work full time by choice. I work for the intellectual stimulation, social interaction and because I'd be bored shitless at home. We save 80% of my salary. So what's your objection, since I fully admit we don't need me to work for financial reasons?

+1. I also work but DH earns enough for us to live on. Work provides many things.

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Fathers of preschool-age young kids who work more than 50-60 hours a week
People who think that being judgmental is a virtue
Overconsumption

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Anonymous wrote:I wish those against "interracial marriage" would clarify. Maybe it's because I'm mixed and the product of an "interracial marriage," but what the hell do they mean?

Like what about people with different colored eyes? Blondes and brunettes? What's the arbitrary line based on looks that you disapprove of?

My reason: watering down of cultural identity. Has nothing to do with looks (whatever that means).

So what you're really opposed to, is inter-cultural marriage.

But you do realize that cultures are always evolving and changing, and aren't neatly molded into little boxes, oui?

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Anonymous wrote:Moms who work FT "by choice", gay marriage, any sort of weird diet that is not related to food allergy/intolerance (vegan, vegetarian, gluten free, etc.), people who drive cars that are disproportionately nice compared to their house.

I could go on and on. I'm quite judgy, but know better than to tell people!

Ooh ooh, I am a mom who's always worked full time by choice. Do you think it's not really my choice, or that all women should SAH or WOH PT once they become parents? How totally weird.

I know it's totally your choice, that you could easily afford to stay home with your children and don't. That is why I judge. Women who truly must work to cover basic bills, I feel sorry for.

What are you judging? That my children are neglected or being raised wrong because their other parent is as equally involved? Do you think because I work by choice, I'm materialistic? Do you think only women who want to spend the majority of their time with their children should have them?

Mostly this. Obviously I don't know you personally, but many people I know "can't afford to stay home" because then they couldn't afford the country club and the X5.

But I CAN afford to stay home. I work full time by choice. I work for the intellectual stimulation, social interaction and because I'd be bored shitless at home. We save 80% of my salary. So what's your objection, since I fully admit we don't need me to work for financial reasons?

That you don't think it's important enough to just do it anyway, if you can so easily afford it.

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Bilingual signs anywhere but in emergency rooms. I think we cater too much to Spanish speakers and many never learn English. Other ethnic groups don't have that luxury and they manage.

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Anonymous wrote:I wish those against "interracial marriage" would clarify. Maybe it's because I'm mixed and the product of an "interracial marriage," but what the hell do they mean?

Like what about people with different colored eyes? Blondes and brunettes? What's the arbitrary line based on looks that you disapprove of?

My reason: watering down of cultural identity. Has nothing to do with looks (whatever that means).

So what you're really opposed to, is inter-cultural marriage.

But you do realize that cultures are always evolving and changing, and aren't neatly molded into little boxes, oui?

Nope; I mean what I wrote as it pertains to interracial marriages/unions. Not sure why that's so hard to comprehend.

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IVF. I'm sorry you're infertile, but there are a lot of orphans who need homes.

(Related) Selective Reduction. You wanted kids bad enough to pay for IVF, but not THAT many kids, so you kill some? Disgusting.

As to working moms, I'm one of them. I work to pay for private school. We live modestly. It's not materialism, it's providing for my kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Bilingual signs anywhere but in emergency rooms. I think we cater too much to Spanish speakers and many never learn English. Other ethnic groups don't have that luxury and they manage.

+100000

I'll add:

-Job listings that "prefer" you to be bilingual in English/Spanish

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Anonymous wrote:Formula feedingEpidurals
Lawn companies and most commercial landscaping
Cosmetics
High heels

Everything else I'm pretty open about.

Only formula feeding by choice or all formula? What about instances when a mother really can't nurse- adoption, lack of breasts, etc?

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I typed out my list, read it, felt really lousy about myself, and deleted it.

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Anonymous wrote:IVF. I'm sorry you're infertile, but there are a lot of orphans who need homes.

(Related) Selective Reduction. You wanted kids bad enough to pay for IVF, but not THAT many kids, so you kill some? Disgusting.

As to working moms, I'm one of them. I work to pay for private school. We live modestly. It's not materialism, it's providing for my kids.

Private school is a perfect example of materialism. Especially in this area with great publics.

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SAHDs. Please grow some balls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I typed out my list, read it, felt really lousy about myself, and deleted it.

Yes, but you still have these opinions, so unless you also delete them from your thoughts you're no better off.