To the woman breastfeefing her 4 year old at the table at Wild Tomato...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Back in the 70's there was a mom in our community who nursed her 4 year old son. I remember it as if it was yesterday. He was teased alot. I still see this man---who is almost 40 now--- and I always remember that about him.

still living with his mother?

[Anonymous]

Totally sick and disgusting.

There are plenty of things that we used to do for survival or whatever as cave people that we don't do now because it's disgusting and we don't have to anymore - breastfeeding past age 2 is one of them.

F-ing disgusting!!!!!!

You are like a cave woman you neandethal!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

^ I'm sorry, I didn't hear your post. Could you please type it again but this time, with more exclamation points?

[Anonymous]

I just really don't get why anyone cares. And no, I didn't nurse my kid until they were four. I just can't imagine caring if anyone else does.

[Anonymous]

Hahaha. You people are so ridiculous. My son in 1 now and he currently nurses. I'm going to be sure to nurse him until 4, just to piss you nosy ass non minding their own business mother f*ckers off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hahaha. You people are so ridiculous. My son in 1 now and he currently nurses. I'm going to be sure to nurse him until 4, just to piss you nosy ass non minding their own business mother f*ckers off.

Have fun with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ I'm sorry, I didn't hear your post. Could you please type it again but this time, with more exclamation points?

Love it!

[Anonymous]

Don't you just hate it when people are "breastfeefing" preschoolers in public? I just don't care. If you want Johnny hanging from your boob at the restaurant- good for you. For everyone else who is offended..don't watch or ask to move to another table. I remember when the "smoking section violated our rights because of second hand smoke. Ok, I get that. But, second hand breastfeeding? Hmm How are you really violated? I'm sure people see more cleavage at a Miley Cyrus concert. Come on, people. We've all seen breasts before or will someday soon. Get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Love it <3

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hahaha. You people are so ridiculous. My son in 1 now and he currently nurses. I'm going to be sure to nurse him until 4, just to piss you nosy ass non minding their own business mother f*ckers off.

Have fun with that.

yes, have fun

b/c THAT'S a mature statement to make . . .

Maybe you should start self-suckling, too, as you seem to have the mentality of a toddler.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Lots of judgment here (not that I wasn't expecting it).

First, I think breastfeeding a toddler or older in public is just asking for trouble.

But I also think there are quite a lot of small minded posters making lots of assumptions as to why anybody would breastfeed past 12 months.

I breastfed my two sons until 6-7 months.

My youngest (a girl) is still nursing at 25 months. To be perfectly honest, I pretty much hate it, but she is really really attached. I am a WOHM and so the only time she nurses is at night. And not every night either. I truly don't get anything out of it other than wanting to comfort my daughter. I've tried to wean a number of times. In fact, I even went away for 3 nights (had to pump a few times) and thought she'd be done. Nope. And so there it is. I don't nurse in public and I don't think I'm somehow ruining my daughter. For whatever reason, she just isn't ready to wean.

So for all the haters - tell me why I should wean her other than that it seems "gross" or "weird" to you. It is natural for her and while I personally am getting very sick of it, I am not ready for that fight with her...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Lots of judgment here (not that I wasn't expecting it).

First, I think breastfeeding a toddler or older in public is just asking for trouble.

But I also think there are quite a lot of small minded posters making lots of assumptions as to why anybody would breastfeed past 12 months.

I breastfed my two sons until 6-7 months.

My youngest (a girl) is still nursing at 25 months. To be perfectly honest, I pretty much hate it, but she is really really attached. I am a WOHM and so the only time she nurses is at night. And not every night either. I truly don't get anything out of it other than wanting to comfort my daughter. I've tried to wean a number of times. In fact, I even went away for 3 nights (had to pump a few times) and thought she'd be done. Nope. And so there it is. I don't nurse in public and I don't think I'm somehow ruining my daughter. For whatever reason, she just isn't ready to wean.

So for all the haters - tell me why I should wean her other than that it seems "gross" or "weird" to you. It is natural for her and while I personally am getting very sick of it, I am not ready for that fight with her...

Thanks for being an (almost lone) voice of reason on this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Lots of judgment here (not that I wasn't expecting it).

First, I think breastfeeding a toddler or older in public is just asking for trouble.

But I also think there are quite a lot of small minded posters making lots of assumptions as to why anybody would breastfeed past 12 months.

I breastfed my two sons until 6-7 months.

My youngest (a girl) is still nursing at 25 months. To be perfectly honest, I pretty much hate it, but she is really really attached. I am a WOHM and so the only time she nurses is at night. And not every night either. I truly don't get anything out of it other than wanting to comfort my daughter. I've tried to wean a number of times. In fact, I even went away for 3 nights (had to pump a few times) and thought she'd be done. Nope. And so there it is. I don't nurse in public and I don't think I'm somehow ruining my daughter. For whatever reason, she just isn't ready to wean.

So for all the haters - tell me why I should wean her other than that it seems "gross" or "weird" to you. It is natural for her and while I personally am getting very sick of it, I am not ready for that fight with her...

Picking up on this side thread about why to wean a toddler (when you the mom are over it . . . . )

I certainly don't think there's anything wrong with breastfeeding at 25 months or longer. And I would never tell you what to do. But I think it's important to consider your feelings, especially at this point. As they say, nursing is a partnership, and when one partner is done, it may well be time to let it go.

For us, that was not so easy -- my DC#2 did not self wean like DC#1 did. And by 15 months I was pretty much done with nursing.

But weaning before DC#2 was willing to give it up voluntarily was more difficult than I expected. It took a good 3 weeks of DH doing the first and last milks of the day before DC would stop groping/crying if I were in the room. Also, I realized how automatic it had become for me to soothe DC with nursing, so I had to find other effective ways to soothe/comfort at that age. There were plenty -- I just had to break my own habit of whipping it out when DC was upset.

In the end, it probably took a little more than a month before everyone was completely comfortable and settled in to the new routine. (Very different than when DC#1 weaned herself in a week.)

The upside: DC is quite noticeably more attached to DH than before I weaned. Those three weeks of feedings without me bonded them in a whole new way. It's wonderful for everyone, and it mitigates any lingering wistfulness I have about weaning before DC led the way. (Yes, though I was completely sick of it and my head said I was ready to stop, my heart was sometimes a bit sad about it . . . probably hormones!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Lots of judgment here (not that I wasn't expecting it).

First, I think breastfeeding a toddler or older in public is just asking for trouble.

But I also think there are quite a lot of small minded posters making lots of assumptions as to why anybody would breastfeed past 12 months.

I breastfed my two sons until 6-7 months.

My youngest (a girl) is still nursing at 25 months. To be perfectly honest, I pretty much hate it, but she is really really attached. I am a WOHM and so the only time she nurses is at night. And not every night either. I truly don't get anything out of it other than wanting to comfort my daughter. I've tried to wean a number of times. In fact, I even went away for 3 nights (had to pump a few times) and thought she'd be done. Nope. And so there it is. I don't nurse in public and I don't think I'm somehow ruining my daughter. For whatever reason, she just isn't ready to wean.

So for all the haters - tell me why I should wean her other than that it seems "gross" or "weird" to you. It is natural for her and while I personally am getting very sick of it, I am not ready for that fight with her...

Thanks for being an (almost lone) voice of reason on this thread.

YES. This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, are you actually saying you think women get off on nursing their toddlers? Have you ever nursed a child? It's about the most unsexual, unexciting activity ever. Give me a break.

It wasn't all that for me, but lots of granola websites sell breast feeding and extended breast feeding as pleasurable for the mom.

http://www.breastfeeding.com/helpme/pleasure.html

https://www.naturalbabypros.com/learn/by-stage-week-by-week/postpartum-mom?id=307

Did you read those articles? The pleasure isn't exactly the sexual pleasure you imply. It's more of an oxytocin induced satisfaction.

I never said "sexual." Other people read "pleasure" as "sexual pleasure." I said that there are women who do extended breast feeding for their own pleasure -- what you refer to as "oxytocin induced satisfaction." They're not weaning because they are getting physical pleasure from the experience. In my opinion, encouraging dependency because it contributes to your pleasure (sexual or otherwise) is creepy and wrong. It doesn't have to be sexual to be wrong. It's smothering.