Do your husbands gamble on sports?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ask to see your husbands history. You’re only hearing about less than half the story I bet

+1 And be sure you have your own bank accounts (checking and savings), your own credit card(s), and get your name off of his. Will be painful if you're responsible for his debts.

I manage our finances and control our banking and investments. I see every transaction. He started with a $10,000 balance in each of his gambling apps. Since then there has never been an additional deposit to these apps from any of our accounts. The only banking transaction's have been weekly deposits to a specific joint account, our quality of life fund. There are no secrets. I’ve managed our finances for 19 years and I’m a Big 4 Managing Director CPA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask to see your husbands history. You’re only hearing about less than half the story I bet

+1 And be sure you have your own bank accounts (checking and savings), your own credit card(s), and get your name off of his. Will be painful if you're responsible for his debts.

I manage our finances and control our banking and investments. I see every transaction. He started with a $10,000 balance in each of his gambling apps. Since then there has never been an additional deposit to these apps from any of our accounts. The only banking transaction's have been weekly deposits to a specific joint account, our quality of life fund. There are no secrets. I’ve managed our finances for 19 years and I’m a Big 4 Managing Director CPA.

PP here. Truly, I'm glad for you; but you're not the typical family with a gambler.

[Anonymous]

Very widespread and can be a huge problem.

DH has a before and we’ve both done fantasy leagues but it’s been a few years. We’ve gotten busy and don’t follow sports as much as we used to.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask to see your husbands history. You’re only hearing about less than half the story I bet

+1 And be sure you have your own bank accounts (checking and savings), your own credit card(s), and get your name off of his. Will be painful if you're responsible for his debts.

I manage our finances and control our banking and investments. I see every transaction. He started with a $10,000 balance in each of his gambling apps. Since then there has never been an additional deposit to these apps from any of our accounts. The only banking transaction's have been weekly deposits to a specific joint account, our quality of life fund. There are no secrets. I’ve managed our finances for 19 years and I’m a Big 4 Managing Director CPA.

PP here. Truly, I'm glad for you; but you're not the typical family with a gambler.

And none of your professional achievements will guarantee he isn't going to drag you down and accumulate debt you don't know about. Secret debt is a signature of an addicted gambler. They hide and some also steal. It starts happening at young age, I dated someone whose family member had a problem, it was devastating for their family. Often times family doesn't know until it's too late and then have to come to the rescue of their loved one who is in serious debt that has to be paid quickly. Gamblers cannot be trusted, no high flying career will save you from the destruction they bring.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask to see your husbands history. You’re only hearing about less than half the story I bet

+1 And be sure you have your own bank accounts (checking and savings), your own credit card(s), and get your name off of his. Will be painful if you're responsible for his debts.

I manage our finances and control our banking and investments. I see every transaction. He started with a $10,000 balance in each of his gambling apps. Since then there has never been an additional deposit to these apps from any of our accounts. The only banking transaction's have been weekly deposits to a specific joint account, our quality of life fund. There are no secrets. I’ve managed our finances for 19 years and I’m a Big 4 Managing Director CPA.

PP here. Truly, I'm glad for you; but you're not the typical family with a gambler.

And none of your professional achievements will guarantee he isn't going to drag you down and accumulate debt you don't know about. Secret debt is a signature of an addicted gambler. They hide and some also steal. It starts happening at young age, I dated someone whose family member had a problem, it was devastating for their family. Often times family doesn't know until it's too late and then have to come to the rescue of their loved one who is in serious debt that has to be paid quickly. Gamblers cannot be trusted, no high flying career will save you from the destruction they bring.

^^this was meant for the PP you are responding to, but you get the gist, I completely agree.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask to see your husbands history. You’re only hearing about less than half the story I bet

+1 And be sure you have your own bank accounts (checking and savings), your own credit card(s), and get your name off of his. Will be painful if you're responsible for his debts.

I manage our finances and control our banking and investments. I see every transaction. He started with a $10,000 balance in each of his gambling apps. Since then there has never been an additional deposit to these apps from any of our accounts. The only banking transaction's have been weekly deposits to a specific joint account, our quality of life fund. There are no secrets. I’ve managed our finances for 19 years and I’m a Big 4 Managing Director CPA.

PP here. Truly, I'm glad for you; but you're not the typical family with a gambler.

And none of your professional achievements will guarantee he isn't going to drag you down and accumulate debt you don't know about. Secret debt is a signature of an addicted gambler. They hide and some also steal. It starts happening at young age, I dated someone whose family member had a problem, it was devastating for their family. Often times family doesn't know until it's too late and then have to come to the rescue of their loved one who is in serious debt that has to be paid quickly. Gamblers cannot be trusted, no high flying career will save you from the destruction they bring.

^^this was meant for the PP you are responding to, but you get the gist, I completely agree.

And I agree with all you said. Had the same experience with a family member who was on track with a great career and family. Devastating financial outcome.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread has hit the rails. Some people seriously being triggered here.

Seriously! These people must have some crazy messed up family members.

Do you have any concept of how many people F up their lives (and they families) due to alcohol/drugs and/or gambling addictions?

Do you have any concept of how many people don’t?

Apparently 60% of gambling revenue is generated by people gambling at "harmful" levels. So the majority of gambling profits are literally coming from childrens mouths. I'm all for responsible gambling, I like a trip to vegas myself. But these apps are targeting young people and makes it too easy to keep losing money and barely noticing. It's a big issue, and a scourge on society right now IMO. There are 16 year olds growing up thinking this is play money, and the wins outweigh the losses and who don't know how to play responsibly - because it's all been made into a game. They are going to get a very harsh wake up call and I'm nervous for what the future brings for them.

20% of gamblers have a problem. 80% don’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask to see your husbands history. You’re only hearing about less than half the story I bet

+1 And be sure you have your own bank accounts (checking and savings), your own credit card(s), and get your name off of his. Will be painful if you're responsible for his debts.

I manage our finances and control our banking and investments. I see every transaction. He started with a $10,000 balance in each of his gambling apps. Since then there has never been an additional deposit to these apps from any of our accounts. The only banking transaction's have been weekly deposits to a specific joint account, our quality of life fund. There are no secrets. I’ve managed our finances for 19 years and I’m a Big 4 Managing Director CPA.

PP here. Truly, I'm glad for you; but you're not the typical family with a gambler.

I never said we were a typical family. He founded and sold two startups. We both also come from successful families. I worry more about him buying another $200,000 watch than I do about gambling.

[Anonymous]

I have a $200,000 watch too. I bought it in Chinatown in NYC. Sometimes the gold rubs off but otherwise, it works great.

[Anonymous]

Addictions can often be easier to hide if your family has wealth.

[Anonymous]

No and I'd kick him out if he did.

Gambling is for the lowest of IQs, and I don't truck with stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread has hit the rails. Some people seriously being triggered here.

Seriously! These people must have some crazy messed up family members.

Do you have any concept of how many people F up their lives (and they families) due to alcohol/drugs and/or gambling addictions?

Do you have any concept of how many people don’t?

Apparently 60% of gambling revenue is generated by people gambling at "harmful" levels. So the majority of gambling profits are literally coming from childrens mouths. I'm all for responsible gambling, I like a trip to vegas myself. But these apps are targeting young people and makes it too easy to keep losing money and barely noticing. It's a big issue, and a scourge on society right now IMO. There are 16 year olds growing up thinking this is play money, and the wins outweigh the losses and who don't know how to play responsibly - because it's all been made into a game. They are going to get a very harsh wake up call and I'm nervous for what the future brings for them.

20% of gamblers have a problem. 80% don’t.

20% is millions and millions of people. That's a LOT of problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread has hit the rails. Some people seriously being triggered here.

Seriously! These people must have some crazy messed up family members.

Do you have any concept of how many people F up their lives (and they families) due to alcohol/drugs and/or gambling addictions?

Do you have any concept of how many people don’t?

Apparently 60% of gambling revenue is generated by people gambling at "harmful" levels. So the majority of gambling profits are literally coming from childrens mouths. I'm all for responsible gambling, I like a trip to vegas myself. But these apps are targeting young people and makes it too easy to keep losing money and barely noticing. It's a big issue, and a scourge on society right now IMO. There are 16 year olds growing up thinking this is play money, and the wins outweigh the losses and who don't know how to play responsibly - because it's all been made into a game. They are going to get a very harsh wake up call and I'm nervous for what the future brings for them.

20% of gamblers have a problem. 80% don’t.

20% is millions and millions of people. That's a LOT of problem.

80% is 4x more . That’s a lot of people.

[Anonymous]

This week’s bank deposit was $4,100.