Kids are usually better behaved for adults who are not their parents. FYI Your grandmother is not the problem here. |
Wut. I was routinely smacked around as a kid and am a pretty well adjusted adult. I don’t have a relationship with my parents, but there are other reasons in addition to the abuse. |
Good! Then ban her from babysitting, and it's a win/win/win. Why are people upset about this? |
Because OP is in the wrong here. |
This is where gentle parenting always falls apart and has no answers. When the child does what OPs does when you try to put their shoes on, gentle parenting is silent. Mine screams, tries to kick me, tries to run away, and I’m left with no answers in the moment to deal with this behavior when we really need to get somewhere. |
Eventually, in 1 or 5 or 10 years, he will put his shoes on right away when you ask him to. Gentle parenting works, just be patient. |
In the wrong for what? Banning someone who doesn't even want to babysit, from babysitting? That doesn't make much sense? Or is it because you're just making things up again? |
Drama queen. |
Do you hit your child to get them to put their shoes on? |
DP. It's not so much about hitting or swatting or time-outs or whatever. It's about expectations and enforcement of behavior. Or, in gentle parenting, having no expectation or enforcement of behavior because that is antithetical to gentle parenting. |
Just wondering if this person has advice for OP besides having granny hit the child. Clearly there are other ways to go about this issue. It's not uncommon. But not all cargivers are hitting children to teach them to put their shoes on. |
Swatting a kicking leg is just not the same as spanking.
I’m very antispanking given that I was regularly hit (for normal developmentally appropriate behavior) with a yardstick, a belt and a dog leash, not just my parents’ open palms and occasionally closed fists. But yeah, swatting the leg of a child who is actively kicking at you to keep you from his feet is just not the same as spanking or any other form of abuse. |
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OP here- she hit the top of his thigh in frustration (her words) |
What’s with the double spacing? |
Now he knows that when he's being obnoxious, he can carry on indefinitely because Mommy will not stop it and will defend his right to do so. Win! |