Upset my date

[Anonymous]

Scarfing down someone's plate on a second date is incredibly bad form.

Women make judgments. How you drive. How you engage with people. How you eat. Tells them what they need to know.

[Anonymous]

I hope you paid instead of splitting with her?

But OP, if you recount is true, I'd just let it go. If I were at dinner with my date I'd say that I love the food but I am full and will get a to-go box. Your date just decided to be overly cryptic and you failed to decipher her message. That's all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went out on a second date with a woman yesterday . First date was good. Second date conversation was great. At dinner she didn’t eat much of her food, I assumed maybe she didn’t like it. We tasted each others dishes and I liked hers. Since she didn’t eat much I asked if I could have more, and she said sure. Today she texts to smash she’s no longer interested. Since the convos been awesome I asked why, and she said cause I ate her food! I pointed she didn’t eat much and that I asked and she said ok. She said she wasn’t hungry but wanted to take it to go. Am I a jerk?

Who takes home food on a date? But also why couldn't she express her need/ desire? You dodged a bullet.

[Anonymous]

I’m a woman and have dated a lot and have taken leftovers home plenty of times, many times at the encouragement of my date. I’ve never had someone eat my food unless they just wanted a taste or we were sharing a plate of something. I always offer to split the check, and if it were a second date and he had insisted on paying the first time, I would pay the second time. I don’t think that women really use men for food- we don’t have time for that. I can make my own sandwich or scrambled eggs quickly and cheaply, way less effort than vetting someone on a dating app and making the effort to meet up with them.

I don’t think it’s clear that either of them are at fault, but they’re clearly not a match. I’d move on an OP should learn that his behavior was weird, but perhaps not a dealbreaker for a woman that was really into him.

[Anonymous]

What woman has ever finished an entire meal at the Cheesecake Factory? Leftovers from a restaurant meal in the U.S. provide 2-3 meals. That said, I would never take home food from a date because it cannot be done elegantly. For this reason I really do not believe in dinner dates unless you are in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

You shouldn’t have eaten all her food, but she’s crazy…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Women make judgments. How you drive. How you engage with people. How you eat. Tells them what they need to know.

So true haha. But boy don’t judge them back l

[Anonymous]

Ok I’ll ask because I don’t think anyone else has: are you overweight, OP? Because if you are AND she sees you eating her food that’s a pretty huge turnoff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Scarfing down someone's plate on a second date is incredibly bad form.

Women make judgments. How you drive. How you engage with people. How you eat. Tells them what they need to know.

Once on a second date my date couldn't eat everything on her plate and insisted I finish her meal. I really didn't want to eat more but she fed me with her fork, and then her fingers. She was gorgeous, mid 40s, Indian. The relationship never went anywhere though. She was still in love with her ex.

[Anonymous]

What you did is tacky. You were on a date and presumably on your best behavior s why would you eat two meals? The right move would have been to ask for a box and let her take it home. Did you pay for dinner?

I had a similar situation when a date once claimed my food. The portion was big, but I didn’t feel comfortable eating after he made a comment that he would take whatever I didn’t eat home. He makes s very good salary by DC standard but has no class or manners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What woman has ever finished an entire meal at the Cheesecake Factory? Leftovers from a restaurant meal in the U.S. provide 2-3 meals. That said, I would never take home food from a date because it cannot be done elegantly. For this reason I really do not believe in dinner dates unless you are in a relationship.

You sound very odd.

Oh, and my daughter finishes every morsel at Cheesecake Factory. She is a runner 😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's mad at herself, not you. She should have used her words like a big girl, and said "Actually I'm not hungry right now but want to take this home for later."

winner. you definitely dodged a bullet - you know she has a long list of criteria that she has carefully curated from the mountains of threads on DCUM doling out relationship "advice" to women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went out on a second date with a woman yesterday . First date was good. Second date conversation was great. At dinner she didn’t eat much of her food, I assumed maybe she didn’t like it. We tasted each others dishes and I liked hers. Since she didn’t eat much I asked if I could have more, and she said sure. Today she texts to smash she’s no longer interested. Since the convos been awesome I asked why, and she said cause I ate her food! I pointed she didn’t eat much and that I asked and she said ok. She said she wasn’t hungry but wanted to take it to go. Am I a jerk?

She seems insufferable.

You dodged a bullet.

[Anonymous]

It seems that op did something his date found offensive on the first date. She decided to give him a second chance because whatever bit was, likely also manners related, wasn't horrific and she had a nice time. After the second faux pas she decided to move on.