Upset my date

[Anonymous]

I went out on a second date with a woman yesterday . First date was good. Second date conversation was great. At dinner she didn’t eat much of her food, I assumed maybe she didn’t like it. We tasted each others dishes and I liked hers. Since she didn’t eat much I asked if I could have more, and she said sure. Today she texts to smash she’s no longer interested. Since the convos been awesome I asked why, and she said cause I ate her food! I pointed she didn’t eat much and that I asked and she said ok. She said she wasn’t hungry but wanted to take it to go. Am I a jerk?

[Anonymous]

Why did you assume she didn't like it? Restaurant portions are huge, I often take some of my food to go. It would be annoying to me if you ate the lion’s share of it.

[Anonymous]

She ate before you got there so she could make it look like she eats like a bird.

And yes eating her food was crass.

[Anonymous]

You dodged a bullet. If she didn’t want you to eat it she should have said so. This would have been a common issue in the relationship(her saying one thing and meaning another). Consider yourself lucky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You dodged a bullet. If she didn’t want you to eat it she should have said so. This would have been a common issue in the relationship(her saying one thing and meaning another). Consider yourself lucky.

Definitely this.

[Anonymous]

You ate all her dinner on a second date?! YTA.

[Anonymous]

OP, must move on to the next one.

[Anonymous]

It was kind of a jerk thing to do on a second date, but any woman worth keeping around isn’t going to be bothered by something so trivial as not having food to take home. If she wanted it she should have said so at the time instead of giving it to you. Chalk it up to lesson learned what not to do ona second date, but also what kind of woman doesn’t make a good future relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went out on a second date with a woman yesterday . First date was good. Second date conversation was great. At dinner she didn’t eat much of her food, I assumed maybe she didn’t like it. We tasted each others dishes and I liked hers. Since she didn’t eat much I asked if I could have more, and she said sure. Today she texts to smash she’s no longer interested. Since the convos been awesome I asked why, and she said cause I ate her food! I pointed she didn’t eat much and that I asked and she said ok. She said she wasn’t hungry but wanted to take it to go. Am I a jerk?

I don't get why she is mad. She said you could eat more. Did you eat all of her food or leave her some?

[Anonymous]

She's mad at herself, not you. She should have used her words like a big girl, and said "Actually I'm not hungry right now but want to take this home for later."

[Anonymous]

She can make an assessment based on this. She is probably going on her gut. Eating all the food is unusual.

Were you that hungry? If it was good to you why did you assume it was not good for her ?

Maybe you should eat before going on dates.

[Anonymous]

I have rejected guys for small things like not offering me food when I was hungry, not stopping for water when I was thirsty.. just common courtesy things I believe can not be taught in adulthood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You dodged a bullet. If she didn’t want you to eat it she should have said so. This would have been a common issue in the relationship(her saying one thing and meaning another). Consider yourself lucky.

+1

She could’ve just told you she was saving it for later. I would say you dodged a major bullet.

[Anonymous]

Dodged a bullet for sure. Don't want to deal with someone who plays mind games.

OP are you a woman? Did you pay or go Dutch?

If you want to give her one chance to be better, say "Sorry, I misunderstood about dinner. Can I make it up to you? Let me treat you to a nice dinner."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was kind of a jerk thing to do on a second date, but any woman worth keeping around isn’t going to be bothered by something so trivial as not having food to take home. If she wanted it she should have said so at the time instead of giving it to you. Chalk it up to lesson learned what not to do ona second date, but also what kind of woman doesn’t make a good future relationship.

But if he's already willing to take liberties like this on a second date what is he going to do down the line? This would worry me.