Too thin? At what point to friends intervene. Nicole Kidman allegedly is “too thin “

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Anonymous wrote:The amount of weight and body shaming on this 6 pages long thread is disgusting. I dare someone to post a thread shaming an overweight actress/singer/performer. It would be taken down immediately.

+1, and it's amazing to me how the body shaming takes the exact same form as it would if the person in question was overweight. It's the concern trolling "oh I'm just worried about her health" BS. No you are not. You hate her body because it provokes some kind of shame response in YOU.

I don't know how Hollywood actress of any size deal with this amount of scrutiny and criticism. I've been body shamed before (what woman hasn't) but the relentlessness of this is so disturbing. I don't even care about Nicole Kidman really! But it's so gross to encounter so many people (likely mostly women) scrutinizing another woman's body in this detail and with such nasty, critical tone.

It really does not have to be a nasty critical tone though. She's a high profile person and chooses to be, so she becomes a visible figure in the culture and therefore people notice and share impressions. Some are harsher than others. Some people love her, some find her over-rated. Some find her gorgeous, some find her emaciated. That's part of the price of celebrity.

People also intuitively experience natural body changes as they age. When someone like kidman portrays both little change over time in the body or alternately, significant facial changes that are often shifting, people notice. Both are extremes and she becomes an outlier. She wants to stand out evidenced by her numerous product campaigns So sometimes it's received well and sometimes it's not We are scanning each other all the time, it's inherent in being human.

Some do, some don't. There are a whole set of people who, rather than gaining weight as they age, struggle to keep it on. There is a verso of aging where people lose appetites, struggle to retain bone density and muscle mass, and become more frail. It's not some tiny subset of people either.

I also know some women who don't become frail, but who basically maintain their body type into old age. For instance I know some women who have always been very fit, stayed fit through middle age, and are still fit and thin. I have a friend who has always been a distance runner and never stopped (still competes, just moves up her age group) and just has the 55 yr old version of the same body type she had at 25. Look at someone like Audrey Hepburn -- clearly predisposed to thinness, did ballet and likely watched what she ate, but basically same body type her whole life.

I know it is easier for people to believe "everyone" gets fatter with age, if that is what you are experiencing. And it's true many people put on weight and struggle to keep it off at Nicole's age. But not everyone. You have no idea if her thinness is natural, the result of considerable effort (either healthy, like my marathoner friend, or potentially unhealthy if she has an eating disorder), or maybe even a sign of aging. She has always been thin and she's very tall. Your expectation that she'll get fatter has way more to do with you than with her.

Addressing your last line, it comes from years of not only observing women but being in Healthcare and having worked in the eating disorder field.